UPDATE - Urologist Appt. on Friday

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MH is dreading it, I keep reminding him this is an opportunity to gain more clarity.  We already know what's wrong (azoo with a Y-chromosome micro-deletion and a hormonal imbalance), luckily he has a therapy appointment on Saturday and I'm debating whether to tag along to that.  It's awful and I feel helpless, and it seems everyone has lost sight that both of us are going through/dealing with this.  Sorry for the ventish tone, just having a tough week. 

UPDATE - Urologist confirmed what our RE had said. Given the missing segments of MH's Y-Chromosome, he doesn't even recommend a biopsy, as there have never been any reported cases of viable sperm found.  He held up well during the appointment.  Good news is there aren't any other health concerns we have to worry about with him.  We went out to breakfast after and are home for the rest of the day.  We're meeting with the infertility therapist tomorrow afternoon.  If he can get to the point where he's comfortable with DS, I think we'll give that shot, but we're not there yet.

[changedname]

Aww Bonsoir, this must be tough. I'm glad you are going with your DH to the urologist and I hope you come out of there with a plan and some ways to move forward. I can only imagine how tough this must be for your DH - even getting my dh to get his sperm tested was a nightmare because he was so scared of the results. Good luck and update us.

[Cheesecake]

I'm sorry bonsoir, that sucks - for both you and YH. I'm crossing my everything for the urologist to come up with a good solution and YH to feel a little better about everything. It is tough, on both of you. So good luck and keep us posted and a big hug!

[womet]

I'm sorry that you're dealing with this. I do think it's a good idea that you go to the uro with your DH. I'm sure he'll appreciate the support. Sending good thoughts your way.

[glauren]

No need to apologize for your tone; this is an incredibly frustrating situation. Feel free to vent any time. ((hugs)) GL to your H Friday and Saturday.

[KaraOrNot]

Vent away. My H hates, hates, hates going to the urologist (I think it is because they sprung a surprise anatamy check on him during the first consult meeting) and I have to convince him to go everytime.

Is therapy for the IF issues? I think that it would be beneficial for you to go too, as it could be a good way to process what is happening and learns ways to deal w/ it together.

Good luck!

[bronxgirl]

Good luck to you both. I can understand why he would dread it, but hopefully it won't be as bad once it happens. He can do something nice for himself after to reward himself for getting through it.

[thoseareradishes]

Definitely don't apologize for venting, that's what the board is for. Urologist appointments suck- they always want to examine something, so you can't really blame them for being reluctant to go . Maybe you can have a date night after or do something special to give him something nice to look forward to?

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Thanks ladies! The Dr. is a little over an hour away, so we both have the day off. I'll make sure to plan something fun later in the day.

[genet313]

I'm so sorry you're feeling hopeless.  I know that feeling well, sadly.  I alternate between feeling hopeful and positive to being just plain miserable...a common theme for TTTC-ers, I imagine. 

I think it would be a good idea to go to his therapy appointment, if he's willing to have you there (maybe he himself just wants to vent privately).  Even if you just listen, it could be helpful.  And give you some time to relax and focus on your feelings in a positive environment.  Good luck.