I'd like more information about how you ended up in counseling and why he decided last nigh he couldn't sleep next to you.
We occasionally sleep in separate bedrooms. I have stress-induced insomnia and don't want to keep him awake. Or, for the last two weeks we've both had a cold so slept separately. I kind of love having a queen bed and all the blankets to myself!
Does anyone else think that this thread is strange? Or is it just me?
No, it's not just you. I have a really hard time believing that anyone is as clueless as the OP is pretending to be in this post. It sounds like she knows why he's sleeping on the couch, she's just not ready to put it out there.
He sits in a chair and as he starts to get sleepy he'll just sit on the floor. Then as he falls asleep he'll turn and plant his face on the chair or sofa seat. He's on his knees but his face and shoulders are on the seat. He's been doing this for many years.
We sometimes sleep separately if one of us is sick. When I don't feel well, sometimes I want to be held, but other times I just don't want to touched. Especially if I have a bad headache or am nauseous.
In a situation outside of that, I'd probably be worried. Hopefully there was a good reason in your case.
Rodneyswife - he hasn't been diagnosed. Doesn't just randomly fall asleep like people that I've been around who have been diagnoed but I pretty sure he has sleep apnea. He refuses to talk to a doctor about it and I can't make him. For those what will ask, I've tried & tried.
Post by goaskalice on Jan 27, 2013 18:44:51 GMT -5
If you don't know why, then it doesn't seem like a good sign. But, on the other hand, my parents sleep in separate rooms and that is the reason they're still married. Neither sleep well and both snore so that's how they worked it out. Seems to be a great thing for them.
Post by greencrayon on Jan 27, 2013 20:32:26 GMT -5
Sorry. I didn't mean for this to sound strange. It was almost a poll, more than a "Can MM help me?" We talked about it. He just has a bunch of issues, which is making ME have a bunch of issues. He agreed to go to therapy and try some meds.
I've slept on the couch a few times over the past nine years because I didn't want to sleep beside DH. I knew our relationship wasn't over, but when I get mad It's better that I just keep to myself. If I would have been laying beside him I would have wanted to punch him. When I get really angry being alone is how I put things into perspective and talk myself down. Anger issues and all that. Sleeping alone on a regular basis would be concerning though.
This, but reversed. I think DH has slept on the couch or the guest bed maybe 2-3 times over the course of 5 years. We are very happily married, but sometimes after an argument we need space.
Sorry. I didn't mean for this to sound strange. It was almost a poll, more than a "Can MM help me?" We talked about it. He just has a bunch of issues, which is making ME have a bunch of issues. He agreed to go to therapy and try some meds.
Are they the same issues that have you in counseling? By any chance is communication one of your issues? Because it's weird that you posted this asking for info or help and then are like "oh it was um....something ok bye."
Sorry. I didn't mean for this to sound strange. It was almost a poll, more than a "Can MM help me?" We talked about it. He just has a bunch of issues, which is making ME have a bunch of issues. He agreed to go to therapy and try some meds.
Are they the same issues that have you in counseling? By any chance is communication one of your issues? Because it's weird that you posted this asking for info or help and then are like "oh it was um....something ok bye."
I posted because I was so exasperated, but the next day I remembered just how many people are on this board and I freaked out.
Are they the same issues that have you in counseling? By any chance is communication one of your issues? Because it's weird that you posted this asking for info or help and then are like "oh it was um....something ok bye."
I posted because I was so exasperated, but the next day I remembered just how many people are on this board and I freaked out.