Weekly parent vent (way too long. Sorry)

[gogadgetgo]

I love my family but it seem like every Sunday when I talk to them I get more and more frustrated. Ugh.

They were supposed to visit 2 weeks ago but since C was sick and my mom hasn't gotten her flu shot yet I asked them to reschedule. They were very accommodating at first but then the guilt trip comments started so I felt worse than I already did about asking to reschedule.

They're coming out next weekend. It's Super Bowl weekend and H is a huge football fan. He had planned on bbqing and having a few friends over which I forgot about when my parents rescheduled. They said they were fine with it.

Today when we talked they asked if we had anything planned for their visit. I reminded them of the party (and how much our friends have said they liked them when they've met them in the past). And I gave them a few options of things to do on the other days. My mom got all grumpy when reminded of the party and said they would probably just hang out with my brother during the game. Um, we invited my brother to our house too and he's not one to turn down beer and BBQ.

There's a lot of passive aggressive history with my mom that drives me crazy. If its not her way then she's mad. But she never suggests things to do and will just sit on the couch and play on her iPad.

H wants to have this whole big come to Jesus talk with them about the passive aggressiveness but I don't think it would do any good other than make her mad. That's how it's played out in the past when I've tried to talk about problems.

Sorry so long. I just needed to get it out.

Cookies and alcohol for reading.

[themysteriouswife]

Parents are great at PABS.

[kelle017]

I'm sorry. I think you've mentioned before about your mom. Why does she need planned activities. Isn't just spending time with you guys enough? Sorry.

[bugandbibs]

That sucks.

Sorry- I got nothing. My in- laws are too busy to see us most of the time, and my mom lives next door. I don't have any clue about improving family dynamics.