monday randoms

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HSG wasn't too bad. They had me take 800 mg of advil before. It was really uncomfortable and a little weird (laying half naked on an x-ray table rolling from side to side with an audience)but not painful. It was over quickly and my Dr. told me everything looked okay on my way out.

My weekend was tough. Friday we had our urologist consult that confirmed MH's chromosomal deletions render it impossible to have biological children. We had a therapy session on Saturday and then went out to dinner afterwards. Yesterday, we spent some time with my parents in the morning and hung out around the house cleaned and did some work the rest of the day.

[Cheesecake]

Which cycle day is HSG on, is it a specific number of days before predicted O, or a standard day?
I had a super super busy, stressful weekend with visitors and whatnot, so today I decided not to take off my PJs (I'm working from home today, and my PJs are comfy!)
Also, thaw started and it rained so all the snow is gone, gone, finally! It makes me super happy!

[Cheesecake]

Jan 28, 2013 9:56:11 GMT -5 @bonsoirlune said:

My weekend was tough. Friday we had our urologist consult that confirmed MH's chromosomal deletions render it impossible to have biological children. We had a therapy session on Saturday and then went out to dinner afterwards. Yesterday, we spent some time with my parents in the morning and hung out around the house cleaned and did some work the rest of the day.

I'm so sorry! how's your H dealing with all this. Does he have support besides the therapist and you? For some reason it seems like we women try to stick together in this, but that guys really don't have many people to talk to about this kind of news :-(

[ilovecandy]

Hugs to everyone who needs it.

My weekend was decent was super lazy. H and I fought over cleaning. Last night a friend went into the hospital and ended up have er baby 2 and a half months early. So far she is good and baby is stable but I feel so bad for her. I wen and visited her this morning.

[KaraOrNot]

TTTC related - H had his third SA last week and no real changes after 4 months of Clomid. The urologist did say that it can take 6-12 months for full effect, but I am impatient, damn it. We do have an appointment with the urologist on Thursday, so maybe I will have more info then.

Non-TTTC related - I stayed up until almost 2, watching He's Just Not That Into You and playing solitaire. How lame is that?

ilovecandy - H and I can no longer clean together, because it always ends in fights!

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Jan 28, 2013 10:42:44 GMT -5 @starflower22 said:

bonsoir I'm so sorry yall got bad news. Are yall going to consider other options or are you not sure yet? I hate how shitty and unfair IF is, sending big hugs your way.

I think we'll go the DS route and try some iuis with that, but we're not there yet.  We're taking some time to process the diagnosis first and work through it before we take the next step.  It still doesn't feel real.  

[KaraOrNot]

Hugs @bonsoirlune

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Jan 28, 2013 10:48:44 GMT -5 Cheesecake said:

Jan 28, 2013 9:56:11 GMT -5 @bonsoirlune said:

My weekend was tough. Friday we had our urologist consult that confirmed MH's chromosomal deletions render it impossible to have biological children. We had a therapy session on Saturday and then went out to dinner afterwards. Yesterday, we spent some time with my parents in the morning and hung out around the house cleaned and did some work the rest of the day.

I'm so sorry! how's your H dealing with all this. Does he have support besides the therapist and you? For some reason it seems like we women try to stick together in this, but that guys really don't have many people to talk to about this kind of news

He's doing okay.  He's been puttering around on the Resolve message boards.  He told his boss this morning what's going on and I guess his boss had secondary infertility issues resulting in their son being an only child. Then family and a few close friends know.  So he's got a pretty solid net. We keep a pretty open dialogue, which helps, he knows its okay to laugh, cry, scream, and be angry.  Toughest part is there's no "cure" and nothing that can be done.  

Infertility is such a funny thing, no one talks about it, but when you do, you find just how many people it's affected.  

[changedname]

Jan 28, 2013 11:15:34 GMT -5 @bonsoirlune said:

Jan 28, 2013 10:48:44 GMT -5 Cheesecake said:

I'm so sorry! how's your H dealing with all this. Does he have support besides the therapist and you? For some reason it seems like we women try to stick together in this, but that guys really don't have many people to talk to about this kind of news

He's doing okay.  He's been puttering around on the Resolve message boards.  He told his boss this morning what's going on and I guess his boss had secondary infertility issues resulting in their son being an only child. Then family and a few close friends know.  So he's got a pretty solid net. We keep a pretty open dialogue, which helps, he knows its okay to laugh, cry, scream, and be angry.  Toughest part is there's no "cure" and nothing that can be done.  

Infertility is such a funny thing, no one talks about it, but when you do, you find just how many people it's affected.  

    This exactly. I'm so grateful for forums on the internet because you really feel less alone. I can't imagine what I would have done before this. Now I am hyper aware of other people having issues - I remember at Halloween we had about 4-5 sets of boy/girl twins come to the door (toddlers). I said to DH, at least some of those must be IUI/clomid/IVF babies.. twins just aren't that common naturally. It was kind of comforting to see it, a year ago it wouldn't have occurred to me.

Hugs Bonsoir, Im glad you DH had support.
HSG had to be done before O and we were told to abstain/use condoms before we did it just in case.

[degal99]

At my doc's they schedule the HSG between days 7-10. It was extremely painful for me, even with the 800mg of ibuprofen. But, I am a complete wimp when it comes to pain, and I admit that.

My weekend was pretty bad. I worked a 12 hour shift at the hospital, and it was just one thing after another, no break no nothing! It really reminded me why I went to causal there!

[Cheesecake]

Jan 28, 2013 12:22:50 GMT -5 degal99 said:

At my doc's they schedule the HSG between days 7-10. It was extremely painful for me, even with the 800mg of ibuprofen. But, I am a complete wimp when it comes to pain, and I admit that.

You ladies are scaring me. due to my stupid kidneys, I'm not allowed to take any NSAIDs, so nothing like ibuprofen and I doubt they'll give me morphine for it

[jewel]

We officially started with the RE today. I had my first round of blood work (9 vials, those greedy bloodsuckers), urine test, and picked up my husband's sterile cup. CD 1 should be here in the next 3 or 4 days, then some more blood work and my HSG next Friday. You guys are scaring me too! I still have some good drugs left over from my miscarriage, so I'll make sure I'm a little drugged up.

At the blood draw this morning, the nurse said - Congrats! How far along are you?
At a work meeting this morning, someone said - You're glowing, you must be pregnant!

Listen bitches, I'm not pregnant. That's bad enough. I don't need to keep reassuring other people that I'm still not pregnant. Cheesecake, I need your chart made into a t shirt

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Jan 28, 2013 15:30:49 GMT -5 jewel said:

We officially started with the RE today. I had my first round of blood work (9 vials, those greedy bloodsuckers), urine test, and picked up my husband's sterile cup. CD 1 should be here in the next 3 or 4 days, then some more blood work and my HSG next Friday. You guys are scaring me too! I still have some good drugs left over from my miscarriage, so I'll make sure I'm a little drugged up.

At the blood draw this morning, the nurse said - Congrats! How far along are you?
At a work meeting this morning, someone said - You're glowing, you must be pregnant!

Listen bitches, I'm not pregnant. That's bad enough. I don't need to keep reassuring other people that I'm still not pregnant. Cheesecake, I need your chart made into a t shirt

OMG, I had the same experience with the lab for the blood draw!  My appt. was fasting at at 11:30am, so I was starving, the phlebotomist  comes in with three sheets of paperwork and starts grabbing tubes off the shelf muttering that she doesn't know how many labels she needs and if she has enough and how much my dr. likes blood work and oh so your pregnant.  I'm like no, I can't get pregnant, but thanks for asking!   ^o)  I really want an "I'm infertile, leave me the fuck alone shirt" to wear in such situations!  

My HSG really wasn't bad at all.  I was totally worked up over it and it was uncomfortable and awkward, but not painful. 

[jewel]

Bons - It's unbelievable, especially at the doctor's office. Take 10 seconds to look at my chart before commenting on my pregnancy.

Same thing happened THE DAY I found out about my miscarriage. The lady in the lab went all gaga...OMG, congrats! You're glowing! You're such a cute little pregnant woman. How far along is your little one? Etc. I said - it's dead, thanks. It just makes me laugh now, because the look on her face was worth the weirdo response.

[Cheesecake]

Jan 28, 2013 15:30:49 GMT -5 jewel said:

Cheesecake, I need your chart made into a t shirt

Should we set up one of those online T-shirt shops and sell 'em. I could use one myself as well

[degal99]

Wow! I can't believe the lab tech/nurses! Luckily I haven't dealt with that. But, they've pretty much just not said anything when drawing blood. Plus all the lab slips say "Infertility work up" anyway.

But, really, people shouldn't be scared of the HSG. I don't think the pain meds did anything for me anyway. Plus, it was just really painful for about 30 seconds at a time, so not too bad. Though, if I never had to do it again, I would appreciate that!

[KaraOrNot]

I was super scared of the HSG, but for me, it was not that bad. Uncomfortable? Yes. Awkward? Yes! The one thing I will warn you about is the dye leaks out afterward. Bring a pad! My hospital did have some, but if they hadn't, I would have been screwed.

[ilovecandy]

Girls I just drank a bottle of wine. Today has been a day of news and we are watching another dog for at least a month due to my friend' premature baby being in nicu. Other news came from h but I am not allowed to say what it could be. It is nothing unexpected for me but he slightly irritated by it.

Also infertility is a funny thing. After opening up about it I have found so many people that have had issues.

My hsg hurt but I also don't take Advil so yeh. And I think mine had to be between day 3 and 10 of my cycle but not for sure. It was just over a year ago so details are a little fuzzy.

[Cheesecake]

Enjoy the wine! It's the only thing we have over fertile Myrtles, so you might as well enjoy it.

Sorry your day has been so sucky!!!

Sent from my phone, please disregard typos!

[genet313]

Jan 28, 2013 9:56:11 GMT -5 @bonsoirlune said:

HSG wasn't too bad. They had me take 800 mg of advil before. It was really uncomfortable and a little weird (laying half naked on an x-ray table rolling from side to side with an audience)but not painful. It was over quickly and my Dr. told me everything looked okay on my way out.

My weekend was tough. Friday we had our urologist consult that confirmed MH's chromosomal deletions render it impossible to have biological children. We had a therapy session on Saturday and then went out to dinner afterwards. Yesterday, we spent some time with my parents in the morning and hung out around the house cleaned and did some work the rest of the day.

I'm so sorry to hear this.  I hope the therapy is helping you both.

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Jan 29, 2013 11:57:25 GMT -5 genet313 said:

Jan 28, 2013 9:56:11 GMT -5 @bonsoirlune said:

HSG wasn't too bad. They had me take 800 mg of advil before. It was really uncomfortable and a little weird (laying half naked on an x-ray table rolling from side to side with an audience)but not painful. It was over quickly and my Dr. told me everything looked okay on my way out.

My weekend was tough. Friday we had our urologist consult that confirmed MH's chromosomal deletions render it impossible to have biological children. We had a therapy session on Saturday and then went out to dinner afterwards. Yesterday, we spent some time with my parents in the morning and hung out around the house cleaned and did some work the rest of the day.

I'm so sorry to hear this.  I hope the therapy is helping you both.

Thanks, it is helping a lot.  We'll get through this, just going to take a lot of time and a lot of tears. 

2013 has been a rough one and we're only beginning, between our infertility and my dad's cancers, we've gone through a lot of tissues!  We still find moments to laugh and smile and keep moving forward one moment and one day at a time. 

[genet313]

Jan 29, 2013 12:50:11 GMT -5 @bonsoirlune said:

Jan 29, 2013 11:57:25 GMT -5 genet313 said:

I'm so sorry to hear this.  I hope the therapy is helping you both.

Thanks, it is helping a lot.  We'll get through this, just going to take a lot of time and a lot of tears. 

2013 has been a rough one and we're only beginning, between our infertility and my dad's cancers, we've gone through a lot of tissues!  We still find moments to laugh and smile and keep moving forward one moment and one day at a time. 

That's great that therapy is helping.  My MIL is a therapist and I believe she does indeed help people.  

I felt the same about 2012 with the m/c and finding out no one knows why we can't conceive again and all the related BS.  My mom used to say that "even" years were always bad for our family, between deaths and the like.  So I was looking forward to an "odd" year.  



I hope that, although 2013 has started out beyond shitty, it improves for you too.