Let's talk about lube

[linz]

So I've read on a lot of things that lube and saliva can kill sperm. H and I have always used saliva, It takes me a while to get wet and sometimes I just want to get it done with (sounds nice huh?). I'm kind of wondering if maybe this is relating to our TTC problems. I asked a friend of mine who got pg on her own what she uses and she said Astroglide so I bought some. Anyone else use it? I read a lot of good reviews so figured it was worth a shot.

[discogranny]

According to all of the boards Astroglide isn't the best option and the only "safe" lube to use sperm-wise is Pre-Seed. I don't actually know if this really only becomes a factor when you have male IF issues or if it is just generally an issue for everyone. Hopefully some of the other girls can chime in.

[jewel]

I'd ditch the astroglide and use a sperm friendly lube. Conceive plus and Pre seed are the only 2 I know of.

This probably sounds strange, but regular old canola oil might work. I've read about it online, and we tried it after using normal lube for 7 or 8 months. I got pregnant on the first cycle of canola oil :-) Hasn't worked since, so we switched to the Conceive plus a few months ago.

[Cheesecake]

All I know is that saliva CAN hurt it, so I'm not taking any chances. Pre-seed is supposed to actually help sperm swim (like EWCM). I don't have much CM/get very wet myself, but just a little pre-seed works miracles in the enjoyable department and at least this way I know that it won't actually hurt anything.

[Cheesecake]

I apply the pre-seed in the bathroom in advance. From what I read you can apply it up to 30 minutes in advance.

Sent from my phone, please disregard typos!

[thoseareradishes]

Jan 30, 2013 16:25:15 GMT -5 @starflower22 said:

My problem w Pre-Seed is that it was making already lame sex even lamer. Has anyone else felt like that? Months and months (and months.. lol) of calendar-centric sex, then add in "WAIT STOP! Nooo saliva. Let me go get the special lube". I dunno, I'm a little bitter at T-TTC debbie-downer-ing my sex life, lol!!

When we finally admitted to ourselves that we'll most likely need medical help w TTC, it was a big relief and sex stopped requiring so much thought and baby-minded concentration.

Anyway, this has nothing to do w yall, just letting it out

H calls it the "baby lube", heh.  We only use pre-seed during my FW, since neither of us cares for it much.  

[linz]

Jan 30, 2013 16:25:15 GMT -5 @starflower22 said:

My problem w Pre-Seed is that it was making already lame sex even lamer. Has anyone else felt like that? Months and months (and months.. lol) of calendar-centric sex, then add in "WAIT STOP! Nooo saliva. Let me go get the special lube". I dunno, I'm a little bitter at T-TTC debbie-downer-ing my sex life, lol!!

When we finally admitted to ourselves that we'll most likely need medical help w TTC, it was a big relief and sex stopped requiring so much thought and baby-minded concentration.

Anyway, this has nothing to do w yall, just letting it out

Eh I feel like the romance is already gone when your taking drugs to help ovulate and paying OOP for monthly u/s. Applying a little before wouldn't bug me since we already have to stop at times for saliva.

[ilovecandy]

We use pre-seed only during fertile times though. It doesn't suck sometimes cause it is like wait apply it and then get busy.

[KaraOrNot]

We are dealing w/ MFI and the RE said no to pre-seed (and saliva and everything else) as it can impede sperm.

[genet313]

I've heard saliva is bad too.  But honestly?  Unless a doc is telling me not to do something, I'm going to continue to enjoy sex saliva or not.  It's bad enough to be dealing with IF, but now we can't do what we want to do?  Eh. 

Though I will admit, we do sometime use pre-seed.  It's totally fine.

[Kahala]

We just started using it this cycle and i dont mind it at all. We normally just use saliva, this stuff works much better. We also use it during fertile week.