exFI has officially lost his damn mind.

[caffeinebean]

Seriously, I have no idea WTF is up with this guy.

I've had to call him a few times to get a christmas ornament that my parents lent us a few years ago (the first ornament they bought after they were married, it really means a lot to my mom) but he wouldn't answer the phone or he would ignore my calls. I received a call from animal welfare letting me know that our cat (which he kept) needed her tags updated. I called, he ignored, and I left him a message letting him know what was going on. A few days later he called me 12 times and when I answered he yelled at me for ignoring him. I wasn't ignoring him, I was at work. But whatever, I had to 'transfer' the cat into his name.

Well, I was at the store the other day picking a few things up and he saw me and chased me down in the parking lot. He started going off on me for cheating on him with the guy that I'm seeing now. I don't know how I could've cheated on him with this guy, I didn't meet him until the week before christmas. He told me that I was only dating him because he was a marine and I was after his benefits and going on about what a horrible person I am and how I ruined his life. I have no idea how he even knows that I'm dating someone, let alone what he does for a living. It's unsettling.

My friend who works there noticed what was going on and threatened to call the cops on him if he didn't leave immediately.

The next day I was having lunch with a friend and she told me that exFI spilled to her husband that he had started seeing his current girlfriend before we had broken up. And that she's pregnant now. So now he's saddled with the house, a three year old, a crazy girlfriend, and a baby on the way.

I mean, who does shit like this? How did I not see the crazy before?

[Deleted]

Wow. What ash said.

[caffeinebean]

It's seriously creepy.

And Sue, you're right. It was just really important to my mom, and in hindsight it's not worth bringing him back into my life/though process over.

[Deleted]

Sounds like he got what he deserves.

And realizes he made a very serious mistake in breaking up with you.


Although you'll probably need to follow the advice of some of the smarter women here on what to do to keep him away from you in the future. Following you to the parking lot to yell at you, not okay. It makes me worry for you.

[caffeinebean]

Jan 31, 2013 18:14:15 GMT -5 nicbreeful said:

Jan 31, 2013 18:10:43 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Don't call him any more. Initiating contact with him umpteen times over an Xmas ornament, and calling him over a cat tag is keeping you in his life, mind, thought processes, etc and makes him think it's ok to call YOU umpteen times about whatever the hell passes through his head.

I agree with this, but how does she get the ornament back?  Should the mother call and request it?  Genuinely asking.  I know that I have a few sentimental things that mean a ton to me, things that I would want to pass down to my kids some day, and I wouldn't want it left with my daughter's exFI. 

My mom tried this, and it didn't work. He just ignored her. That's the only reason that I even called him about it.

[candreco]

You may be the luckiest woman in the world. Holy shit.

[caffeinebean]

Jan 31, 2013 18:21:36 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

And of course this is crappy. When did the two of you break up?

Four months ago, exactly. The relationship had been dead long before that though.

[meowmaps]

When my brother broke up with his college girlfriend my mom was really intent on getting her Joy of Cooking book back. My brother didn't even want to engage with his ex at that point so, yeah, he was never able to recover it. I don't think my mom's ever gotten over it. She's a bit of a drama queen. lol

[caffeinebean]

Jan 31, 2013 18:26:47 GMT -5 meowmaps said:

When my brother broke up with his college girlfriend my mom was really intent on getting her Joy of Cooking book back. My brother didn't even want to engage with his ex at that point so, yeah, he was never able to recover it. I don't think my mom's ever gotten over it. She's a bit of a drama queen. lol

This is what I'm afraid of, so is mine!

[meowmaps]

Jan 31, 2013 18:27:53 GMT -5 caffeinebean said:

Jan 31, 2013 18:26:47 GMT -5 meowmaps said:

When my brother broke up with his college girlfriend my mom was really intent on getting her Joy of Cooking book back. My brother didn't even want to engage with his ex at that point so, yeah, he was never able to recover it. I don't think my mom's ever gotten over it. She's a bit of a drama queen. lol

This is what I'm afraid of, so is mine!

Honestly, she did get over it eventually.  I think she tried to guilt my brother about it for a while but what are you going to do?  I think he ended up getting her another one but the original was some old edition that she had made notes in.  It sucks but it's better for you to be done with him.  Maybe you can hunt around for a similar-looking ornament to replace it...?  

[chickadee77]

Yikes. Yeah, cut your losses and count your blessings!

[mamasaurus]

Jan 31, 2013 18:08:40 GMT -5 sameoldash said:

whoa, dude. you dodged a HUGE bullet. 

Uh, yeah. Asswipe did you a favor by getting out of your life. Hopefully he figures out a way to STAY OUT.