S/O What do you judge?

[fortmyersbride]

I rarely stop DD from putting something in her mouth unless it is a choking hazard.

I use bribery frequently.

Sometimes I skip giving DD solids at dinner b/c I'm tired and would rather just lounge on the couch and BF her. I just don't think solids are so important before 1 year.

I judge- parents who sanitize EVERYTHING. As in, slathering the kids in hand sanitizers every time they walk into public. But they're probably judging me for letting DD chew on the restaurant high chair

[SusanBAnthony]

Jun 1, 2012 12:21:40 GMT -5 @idaholakelady said:

My sister judges me for how judgmental I am of other people, ha ha.

DH always says this about me.

I judge internally, or to DH, but I realize I am being a bitch and try to look past the stuff I judge, bc I realize I am unreasonable, lol.

For example, I have a new friend who has 4 kids, each 14ish months apart. All c/s's. I judge that so hard, but I am trying to let go of it and be her friend bc I do really like her!

[rubytuesday]

1. I think catching frogs for an hour a day is an awesome activity for kids!
2. I thought OBs didn't want you to have a vag delivery after a c/s? I'm not sure why 4 c/s in a row is judge-able.
3. I get off super easy having triplets; Almost nobody judges me! Ah, the freedom to be a slacker mom and not be judged.

I should totally be judged for the amount of tv my boys watch, about an hour a day... half an hour after nap and half an hour at night to keep them calm enough for me to put lotion and jammies on all of them. I think I have been judged for being over-protective of what my guys eat since they have food allergies. I am overly cautious but I'd rather not end up in the ER when we are supposed to be having a nice day out.

Since becoming a mom I have rarely judged IRL... I think. Let's see. I judge when little kids are out in stores past about 9pm. I judge bouncy seats on countertops. I really don't think people should let their babies sleep in swings when they are sleeping too. I read a post on the bump about someone finding her 2 month old hanging by her ankle, freaked me out!

[anna7602]

I judged a woman with a newborn in the park today. She was holding the baby across her chest and the baby started trying to suck on her breast through the shirt. The baby was very clearly rooting. The mother took out a bottle of WATER (really, the baby didn't look older than a few weeks old) and tried to give it to the baby. The baby fussed and refused it and grew progressively more hysterical until the woman finally left the park with her older daughter in tow. She never did end up nursing the baby or offer a bottle of formula. I could hear the screaming as she made her way across the park.

Obviously, I don't know anything about her situation, but it seems so odd to me that she would plan an outing and either not bring a bottle of expressed BM or formula with her or that she didn't want to nurse in the park. And giving water to a newborn is very, very wrong, but maybe she never got the memo on that. I know people in my own family were shocked I never gave DD water when she was a newborn.

But it really broke my heart to see the baby clearly rooting and not getting what she wanted in return.

[Deleted]

I know I am judged for formula feeding.... It's just what works for my family...
I was judged for leaving him with my mom for like 36 hours this past weekend
I judged someone I know who had 8 drinks in one night while pregnant. I also judged her dh for not asking her to slow down after the second drink...

[matildasun]

I was judged today, and totally judged them back (not really). While we were at a street festival today, I was talking to a friend and putting the baby back in the wrap. A couple walked by and pointed at me and shook their heads disgustedly.

I am not sure what they were judging, maybe the wrap, perhaps the fact that I had such a little baby out and about, the heat, or maybe they were worried about the music hurting his ears. (We were in the toddler area, away from the music, the wrap was gauze, he had a sun hat, and I had ear protection for him as necessary. I also nursed him pretty continuously in the wrap to make sure he stayed hydrated.)

After they walked by I told my friend " I was just judged by people who have their baby in a bucket completely covered by blankets".
Although I was annoyed but their judging, I was kidding about being bothered by the car seat. I have been known to use my snap n' go on occasion and I don't care how other people transport their babies as long as it is safe.

[Deleted]

I didn't start solids until 6.5 months

I let her watch TV (but I'm selective, I made DH turn off "Alien" yesterday for that reason)

I put her in a Bumbo seat

I used the microwave to warm her refrigerated bottles.

[statlerwaldorf]

Oooh I have another. Until recently every once in a while DH and I would play Call of Duty around her.

[matildasun]

Jun 4, 2012 14:51:01 GMT -5 littlespitfire said:

Can I ask a dumb question - what's (potentially) wong with carrying your baby in the bucket?

Nothing really, I was just annoyed that they were judging me and it popped out of my mouth.

[6fsn]

Jun 2, 2012 9:17:01 GMT -5 @SIrSleepsALot said:

Jun 1, 2012 12:43:50 GMT -5 6fsn said:

The only thing I catch myself really judging is carseats- forward vs. rearfacing or a kid that looks far too young sitting in the front. Then I try to remember that the kid may very well be older than I think.

It doesn't matter how OLD they are, it matters how BIG they are!

I judge car seat stuff too. My friend has a 4 year old who sits in the front seat w/ the adult seat belt. It's SHOCKING to me.

My 2.5 year old is still rear-facing in the back b/c he is small. He will probably be in his Britax till he is 5! LOL.

I was thinking about the over 10 set. My 16 yo niece is 4'11" and all of 90 lbs. If you saw her in the front seat you could very well think she should still be in a booster.