I finally bit the bullet, and placed an ad on care.com for a sitter. One came over for an "interview" on sunday.
Sadly, it wasn't our lack of date nights, but Z's dr/therapy visits that push me over the edge. Dragging Pumpkin and Carrot across town to entertain them in waiting rooms felt like Z was having too much influence on her sibs lives.
Even though i have conducted many interviews, i had no idea what to ask her.
She is coming on Tuesday to hang out with us for an hour or two and get a feel for the house. I hope i can give her some instructions, but not overwhelm her with our kids behaviors.
She is 26, and a firefighter/paramedic, so i feel like she will keep a calm head
I generally just asked about experience, got references, and then saw how they interacted with the kids. But I am a horrible interviewer (for these things and at work.)
Oh, and I asked about discipline. When the boys were younger, I would ask about the types of things they would do with the kids - but now that they are older, the kids pretty well direct that kind of stuff.
I mostly go by gut instinct, but my summer nanny interview list includes questions on: - discipline - creative ways to entertain children w/o TV or video games - handling moments when you are short on patience