Post by bunnymendelbaum on Feb 6, 2013 0:34:00 GMT -5
The old school poll made me notice the majority of ppl seem to have gotten married before they were 25 which surprised me! (I was 26 and always felt like a youngish bride.)
I was 23, but, if I had it to do over, I would have waited until I was 25 or 26. I feel so much more like the person I am supposed to be past 25 and I wish that we had been more settled before we entered our marriage.
I was barely 23 (we got married 2 weeks after my birthday). I love H dearly but looking back I would have waited 5 years and experienced more as a single woman.
I was just shy of 31 and H was 35. We were also in NYC, so I didn't feel like I was older, although most of my high school friends from Long Island got married between 23-26 I was the last of my friends to marry but the only one to stay married beyond 6 years
Two months shy of 25. I didn't feel particularly young at the time. I go back and forth on whether I was "young." Some days I feel like I have done some growing up since then; I certainly know a little more about a few things, like how to control/avoid arguments with DH. And I'm a better social drinker. But other days, I really don't see much of a difference or improvement. I remember now a lot less of my math/engineering training, and I feel a little dumb when I think back and realize how much I've forgotten. And I don't think I'm making better choices. I feel like my life choices have been pretty darn good, especially WRT DH, who I picked out at the ripe old age of exactly 18 years and 1 month. I certainly don't (today) feel like I changed SO MUCH between 24 and 32 and would do anything differently. I've sort of always been the same. But I could feel the opposite tomorrow.
On a related note, my mother always said I was born 80 years old. I believe her. I didn't really "get" being a kid or a teenager; I hated every moment of not being considered an adult.
I turned 23 the day after our wedding. We pretty much knew that we were in it for the long haul within the first few months of dating, and we lived together for 4 years beforehand so there were no surprises. We thought about getting married earlier, but we were still in college and I didn't want to look like a super-baby in my wedding photos. We aren't planning on having a kid until we are at least 27-28.
We were both a couple months shy of 25. It did seem young to us at the time, but we'd been together for five years by then, were in the process of buying a house together, and it seemed kind of dumb to put it off just because it seemed young.
Post by narockshard on Feb 6, 2013 10:23:16 GMT -5
We were both 22 (I had just turned 22 the month before the wedding) but we'd been together 5.5 years before. I feel like it was perfect and I wouldn't have changed a thing. It was awesome (and sometimes challenging) to learn to grow as a married couple together. Most of our friends got married around the same time/age too.
Two months shy of 25. I didn't feel particularly young at the time. I go back and forth on whether I was "young." Some days I feel like I have done some growing up since then; I certainly know a little more about a few things, like how to control/avoid arguments with DH. And I'm a better social drinker. But other days, I really don't see much of a difference or improvement. I remember now a lot less of my math/engineering training, and I feel a little dumb when I think back and realize how much I've forgotten. And I don't think I'm making better choices. I feel like my life choices have been pretty darn good, especially WRT DH, who I picked out at the ripe old age of exactly 18 years and 1 month. I certainly don't (today) feel like I changed SO MUCH between 24 and 32 and would do anything differently. I've sort of always been the same. But I could feel the opposite tomorrow.
On a related note, my mother always said I was born 80 years old. I believe her. I didn't really "get" being a kid or a teenager; I hated every moment of not being considered an adult.
You did say you were an INTJ in the thread the other day, right? Makes total sense.
On a related note, my mother always said I was born 80 years old. I believe her. I didn't really "get" being a kid or a teenager; I hated every moment of not being considered an adult.
I totally understand this. When I turned 30 I was like "finally!" my age matched up to my personality for the first tiem ever.
On a related note, my mother always said I was born 80 years old. I believe her. I didn't really "get" being a kid or a teenager; I hated every moment of not being considered an adult.
I totally understand this. When I turned 30 I was like "finally!" my age matched up to my personality for the first tiem ever.
I was always mature for my age and as a consequence couldn't really relate to guys my age and didn't date much in my 20's. I did have a couple boyfriends but most of them seemed so juvenile, even in their 20's. I was 34 (I'm older than most of you think I am!) when I married DH. Sometimes I wish I'd been a bit younger but mostly I'm grateful for the experience of being single. I moved out of state, held several steady jobs and had a social life and my own apartment. By the time I did marry, I was definitely ready. The most bizarre thing is that my DH is actually a few years younger than me. But it works because we've had similar life experiences are on the same plane mentally and emotionally. It was a perfect fit.
I refused to get married before 25. We got married three days after my 25th bday, so technically I made good. I did feel young - and we waited 3 yrs to have a baby . But we had been together for almost 9 years when we finally got married, so I guess I felt like it was time.
Compared to our relatives and friends, we weren't old to be getting married at all, we know lots of people who have been married in their 30s. Our relatives/friends who got married in their 20s were the abnormal ones, and sadly, most of them have since divorced. Of course, because they married earlier, they've had more years for their marriages to fall apart where some of the 30+ weddings are newer.
Post by downtoearth on Feb 6, 2013 12:15:24 GMT -5
I was 28 and that was pretty average for my friends. Other than my sister, the youngest friend I had married at 26 and my other girlfriends and I thought she was crazy. My sister was 21, but she was marrying a 30 yr old and we were trying to get her to wait (although it worked out great).
Post by poisonkisses on Feb 6, 2013 15:39:21 GMT -5
I had just turned 25 the month before our wedding. It feels somewhat young because no one else in my main group of friends have gotten married yet (I've only been married 4 months so far), basically the only married people I know are coworkers.