I have been keeping a secret

[btay]

I never felt comfortable talking about it on the bump, but I may as well let it out.  I have been TTA for almost a year now because DH is an alcoholic and he fell of the wagon.  I just told everyone we were waiting for money because I didn't want judging from random strangers.  He is currently doing in patient treatment. 

[gogadgetgo]

I'm so sorry. I'm glad he's getting help. I hope you're getting any support you need too.

We're here for you anytime as well.

(((Btay)))

[kelle017]

Feb 6, 2013 13:40:19 GMT -5 gogadgetgo said:

I'm so sorry. I'm glad he's getting help. I hope you're getting any support you need too.

We're here for you anytime as well.

(((Btay)))

I agree with this.  Feel free to vent or whatever you need to anytime. 

[Kristinmo]

(((hugs)))

We are here for you. You are doing the right thing by TTA but I can't even imagine how hard all of this must be for you.

[btay]

Thanks ladies. It feels good to get it out to a few of you. Hopefully it explains why sometimes I just sort of disappeared. Things got a little chaotic around here for a bit.

[themysteriouswife]

I thought about you the other day. I thought you went to FB or stayed on TTGP. I hope he continues on the right path.

Big hugs!

[bugandbibs]

I am so sorry you are dealing with this, even more so that you felt you needed to keep it secret. We are here for you anytime.

TTA is absolutely the right thing do while things are in turmoil. Are you getting support IRL? Have you checked out Al anon? I hope things improve.

[btay]

Feb 7, 2013 11:29:31 GMT -5 bugandbibs said:

I am so sorry you are dealing with this, even more so that you felt you needed to keep it secret. We are here for you anytime.

TTA is absolutely the right thing do while things are in turmoil. Are you getting support IRL? Have you checked out Al anon? I hope things improve.

My friends and family have been an amazing support.  My mom is the daughter of an alcoholic so she knows the disease well.  I did try out an Al Anon meeting but wasn't a huge fan due to my fear of people.  I am going to the family program his facility offers next week so hopefully I will get a lot of out that. Meanwhile he is really embracing treatment and is in as good a place as an addict can be.

[howardandbear]

Keep checking with different al anon meetings. When you go to the treatment groups family classes they are going to tell you search for a group that meets your needs. I hate the large group and found one that has about 4 people show up each week. I found life the hardest once my h returned home. That first month was a forced new normal that was hard for both of us to find a grove. But life did get better after time.
Xh was able to stay sober for nearly 7 years. The birth of our daughter after IF caused more stress then he could apparently handle and he "fell off the wagon". If you need to talk or have any questions feel free to pm me. It's a sucky place to be. Sorry you have to deal with such an ugly disease.

[bugandbibs]

Ditto PP. Shop around for a group that suites you. Every group has a different vibe and size. I'm glad you have some real life support. Don't forget to take care of you!

[biomaj5]

((hugs))

[debatethis]

Huge hugs. I hope YH and your relationship are both on the road to recovery soon.