This is just gross

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Bonidiebab...

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DH had tried multiple times for some oral but every time dude would start to fuss or seriously cry so I had to attend to the baby. When he got out of the shower yesterday he surprised me by jumping up on the couch and shoving it in my mouth. I was nursing the whole time.


On the April 2012 FFFC.
I am WTFing on all levels.

[Deleted]

I don't call that surprise, I call that sexual assault.

[Deleted]

Yea, her response was I want to be a great wife. Someone on the toddler board on TB used the word teabagging and I cannot stop laughing/gagging.

[Deleted]

And also...in mention of this on my BMB someone admitted to having in the bed with the baby sleeping right next to them.

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I would bite if my DH did that to me.

[Deleted]

Exactly!!! Like wth? Unless I offer it's not happening!!!!

[Llama in Mules]

DH would never... we won't even have sex with her sleeping in the room, that's disgusting. His balls were probably whacking the baby!

[camelblossom]

Out of pure laziness, I'll just C&P my response from Oct11:

I'm just going to come out and say it: I don't think it's really that big a deal.Her baby is so little, it's not like it will be traumatized. It's also not an indicator that she would be comfortable doing it when her kid is older. Would I do it? Probably not. But I generally don't give a lot of oral under any circumstances. To me it's on the level with making out during labor. Kinda weird to me, but I don't begrudge anyone their offbeat sexual behavior. Confession: We did it with DD in the bed once when she was brand new (which you guys were hating on the other day). She slept through the whole thing and I'm fairly certain she enjoyed the bouncing.

[Deleted]

The logistics of giving a BJ while nursing is what gets me. Also getting aroused with your baby right there creeps me out, and that she used to word "shoved." The whole situation, yuck.

[Llama in Mules]

Cameltoe, would you LAP while nursing?

[EloiseWeenie]

My eyes seriously popped. When your child is attached to your breast, the last thing you need is a mouth full of penis. Think about the poor baby. How would you like pubes in that close proximity while eating? BARF!

[statlerwaldorf]

That is disgusting. And it takes a lot for me to say that.

[overture]

Jun 1, 2012 17:24:14 GMT -5 camelblossom said:

Out of pure laziness, I'll just C&P my response from Oct11:

I'm just going to come out and say it: I don't think it's really that big a deal.Her baby is so little, it's not like it will be traumatized. It's also not an indicator that she would be comfortable doing it when her kid is older. Would I do it? Probably not. But I generally don't give a lot of oral under any circumstances. To me it's on the level with making out during labor. Kinda weird to me, but I don't begrudge anyone their offbeat sexual behavior. Confession: We did it with DD in the bed once when she was brand new (which you guys were hating on the other day). She slept through the whole thing and I'm fairly certain she enjoyed the bouncing.

I don't get too pearl clutchy about sex with the baby in the room...not a big deal to me. But a blow job...I just don't understand the logistics.

My H is a bit of a sleep molester. I would be nursing DD in bed and I'd feel his morning wood between my thighs and it would piss me off so bad. It wasn't about him feeling sexual with the baby present, more like "Jeez can I get a body part to myself right now? I am not a pleasure vending machine."

[camelblossom]

I am so not into doing anything sexual while my kid is nursing. I do think it is gross, I just don't think she is a bad person/parent/has a bad marriage. I think she has probably been having a lot of the mixed feelings and identity crises we all had after giving birth, saw a chance to be spontaneous and show her H a good time, and took it. I guess if she said they did it on the regular I would feel more judgey.

[jjfiend]

If my husband shoved his peen in in my mouth I would pinch his nut sack. I have no problem with sex in the room when they are brand new. J slept in a bassinet in our room for three months and there was no way he was going that long without sex.

[joolz]

I am not a pleasure vending machine is my new favourite everything.

[NandaB]

Jun 2, 2012 11:24:26 GMT -5 joolz said:

I am not a pleasure vending machine is my new favourite everything.

:Y:

[EloiseWeenie]

So I googled, and found this:

Non-contact sexual abuse includes:
Showing pornography to a child
Deliberately exposing an adult's genitals to a child
Photographing a child in sexual poses
Encouraging a child to watch or hear sexual acts
Inappropriately watching a child undress or use the bathroom

I would say that this couple's actions fit under this description.

[Deleted]

Yea, my SO basically told me if someone really wanted to they could make a case for it.

[camelblossom]

I want to be clear that I don't support or encourage what she did, I just don't think it is abuse or that she is a bad parent.
But just to play devil's advocate here...so where do you draw the line with exposure of genitals? Because parents shower, sleep naked, etc. I would imagine that when the adult is getting some sort of gratification from it, it becomes wrong. There is no indication that either of them were getting off on the baby being there, so I think it falls more into a grey area. The same grey area where sex in the family bed falls. Do I want to bone down with my kids in the bed? Not fucking likely. But if someone else is okay it in their family, I don't run for my pitchfork.

[Llama in Mules]

I don't know that I'd call it abuse, I would call it grossly inappropriate.

[EloiseWeenie]

I think that engaging in a sexual act on top of your child crosses the line. I understand people do things with their sleeping infant in the same room, but this is 100% different.

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Jun 2, 2012 13:24:11 GMT -5 EloiseWeenie said:

I think that engaging in a sexual act on top of your child crosses the line. I understand people do things with their sleeping infant in the same room, but this is 100% different.

Yea, like they are in VERY close proximity for that to happen. Your literally exposing yourself to a child.