Pregnant student question

[lilafowler]

Will she still be a student when she has the actual shower? If she's only 15 weeks or so she won't be due until summer-so would she have graduated by then?

ETA: Because I'm not a teacher-I don't know if it's appropriate or not-but I do think it's sweet that she likes you enough to want you to be there. Even if you don't go I would send a gift, even if it's something small.

[janiejones]

defer to school/board policy.

[pedanticwench]

If it makes you uncomfortable I would definitely not go. But I do think it would be fine to get her a gift.

[hisno1girl]

I think it crosses a boundary but I always make sure to separate my work life from my home life. I never want them to cross

If you want to go, check the policy first. The school might have rules about out of school socializing between students and teachers.

[UMaineTeach]

I would get her a card and a small gift and decline the shower invite.

[auberge]

I wouldn't go but I'd probably get her a non-personal gift. (like nursery books)

[sugarbear]

If she will have graduated by the time of the shower, AND you would like to go, I see nothing wrong with going.

Otherwise, I would decline and give her books.

[EmilieMadison]

I would not go and I would probably not send a gift. I would send a letter reminding her of her strengths and what you hope for her future. JMO

[jenna]

I would decline the shower, but send a gift.

[soozy87]

Books are a good idea!

[Deleted]

I think sending books and a note like Emilie suggested would be okay. I don't think I would go

[game blouses]

I'd get her a gift. Students would invite me to their quinces and birthdays all the time, and I'd get them a gift card instead. They were perfectly happy with it.

[Deleted]

Aww that's sweet she invited you. I would see if she invited any other teachers. Maybe a few of you can go in on a big box of diapers & some board books.

I would not attend.

[RoxMonster]

Hmm I probably wouldn't go but I would and have gone to students' open house-style graduation parties when invited. It's very common at my school for teachers to do this, and I usually get them a card and a small gift. I don't know why I feel like a baby shower is different-maybe because it's not casual, open-house style?

I think getting her a card and/or small gift would be fine.

[dragonfly08]

I probably wouldn't attend. Even if she'd graduated by then, it just feels a little squicky to me.

But I see nothing wrong with sending a book. IMO kids can never have too many of those, and it seems an appropriate gift from a teacher.

[iamgrace]

I wouldn't. I might consider a small gift. Maybe.

[Deleted]

I really like the idea of giving her a couple of books for the baby. And as others have already send, I wouldn't attend the shower, but it sounds like you are already planning not to go.
I also think a letter telling her how much potential she has, etc. and that you are there for her if she has any questions about furthering her education (if you want to be) is a great idea and would probably mean a lot.