Post by Doctorblue on Feb 10, 2013 11:48:00 GMT -5
Hi all! I am not an MF regular. I was raised a military brat though, and sometimes miss the lifestyle. Hope you guys will let me post this here.
My grandmother is being taken off life support today. My brother is in a high combat zone and has not yet been notified. My cousin posted on his FB page about my grandmother's upcoming death. I know his wall is completely public and has no privacy controls set up at all. I asked him to please erase or at least hide his post as not all family members have been notified and to accidentally learn something like that from facebook is seriously not cool. His response...he blocked me! I am so furious! He is also former military, so he should know that kind of thing is not acceptable. I just can't believe how insensitive people can be!
I'm sorry, that's shitty of your cousin. People feeling the need to post everything immediately on FB, and to be the first to do it, drives me insane. I wish more people could respect privacy.
If it has not been done already, someone should call American Red Cross like now to get the message to your brother as soon as possible.
Post by amaristella on Feb 10, 2013 12:32:12 GMT -5
Wow, that's pretty swell of your cousin. Ditto the Red Cross message. They were really fast when I needed to notify DH about his grandpa. I will say this too, that the person who makes the call needs to have certain information ready. Your brother's unit and rank, possibly his SSN, and for the grandmother, either the name of the hospital/nursing home and doctor, or if it's later once she has passed, the name of the funeral home that handles the arrangements.
I am really sorry your cousin is being such a jerk, family members not respecting others' privacy on Facebook is infuriating. I agree with everyone else, get in touch with Red Cross. I am so sorry for your loss.
Post by Doctorblue on Feb 11, 2013 19:04:12 GMT -5
Thank you everyone for your condolences. It turns out my brother's tour was cut slightly short and he was actually in route back to stateside when my grandma passed. Red Cross was contacted and he did not learn about it through Facebook, and that's the important thing. Thanks again to all for letting me vent. My grandma has been fighting for her life since Thanksgiving. So, while it's sad that she is gone, at least she no longer has to struggle.