Anger?

[sonrisa]

Last fall, I found myself getting angry and resentful during the 2 weeks waiting. After my miscarriage this feeling is worse. It isn't that I'm angry at any particular person or for any real reason (although some of it is resentment at my body for failing me). I just wake up angry and spend the whole day trying not to let it show. 

Has anyone else had this problem?

[sonrisa]

Oh yeah, and DH "forgetting" to get his SA for *four months* isn't helping me feel zen. I did all my blood work in October, plus dealt with a miscarriage in the interim. Buck up, buddy and take your fucking test. We can't see the RE until you do.

[G22]

I can relate. I woke up to cramps and my period today. Usually I am sad and upset when this happens. And have a crying pity party for myself. Today I'm angry and pissed off. Angry we timed things perfectly and it didn't work, angry I feel like my body is failing me, angry over Facebook and all the pregnancy posts.

I'm sorry your feeling like this too. it sucks.

[lola]

Hugs Sonrisa. And, also, a swift kickintheass for your H. lol. WHY do they hate this so much? I don't get it.

And, yes, during my last cycle I felt angry. It was a first for me, usually I just feel sad.

[bronxgirl]

I ususally feel a mix of emotions, including angry, sad, bitter and the like. It just sucks all around.

[trufflefries]

Hugs to you! I can definitely relate. At any given point during the 2 week period I fluctuate between hopeful, jaded, angry at the whole process, and then disappointment. Also some jealousy for those that have had it easier, which is a crappy feeling. I'm a pleasant person to be around, I swear!

[KaraOrNot]

Feb 10, 2013 18:27:43 GMT -5 bronxgirl said:

I ususally feel a mix of emotions, including angry, sad, bitter and the like. It just sucks all around.

This, exactly.

Feb 10, 2013 17:20:44 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

Oh yeah, and DH "forgetting" to get his SA for *four months* isn't helping me feel zen. I did all my blood work in October, plus dealt with a miscarriage in the interim. Buck up, buddy and take your fucking test. We can't see the RE until you do.

I was annoyed w/ H when he put it off for two weeks, so this would push me over the edge. Does he have a reason for putting it off?

[jewel]

Feb 10, 2013 21:05:03 GMT -5 KaraOrNot said:

Feb 10, 2013 17:20:44 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

Oh yeah, and DH "forgetting" to get his SA for *four months* isn't helping me feel zen. I did all my blood work in October, plus dealt with a miscarriage in the interim. Buck up, buddy and take your fucking test. We can't see the RE until you do.

I was annoyed w/ H when he put it off for two weeks, so this would push me over the edge. Does he have a reason for putting it off?

No kidding. Your husband needs a swift kick in the ass.

You've been much more patient than I would be. I would quickly be telling my my husband that there will be no more sampling at home, until he submits his sample to the lab.

I don't recall how long ago you had your m/c, but those first couple of months are the worst. My emotions calmed down quite a bit after that. Of course, I'm still not happy about the current situation, but my feelings aren't as extreme as they were immediately after my m/c. I hope the same happens for you. I'm sorry....

[sonrisa]

Last week I told him he had to do it sometime that week. Nothing. Today I kind of snapped about it. He talked about how the test was just going to show everything is normal, he has trouble finding the time to go in, and it isn't as if the RE is going to see us anyways after the m/c (he had this idea we'd need to wait two cycles, an idea he pulled out of his ass and that is irrelevant since this is the second cycle, day 23, so at this rate we'll be well past that anyways). Ugh.

[statlerwaldorf]

I go through angry phases. The holidays are always rough on me.

That would really upset me about your DH. He needs to suck it up. I get that it's uncomfortable, but HSGs, dildo cams, and everything else aren't exactly pleasant either.

[Cheesecake]

Everyone who's hung out on GP before we had this board, knows of my anger. It fairly frequent and irrational and usually thrown in the face of pregnant people.

And yeah, your husband needs to grow a pair and have their contents tested!

Sent from my phone, please disregard typos!

[changedname]

Hugs Sonrisa. It took my DH about 3 months to get his s/a too. It was so annoying. I think deep down he was so scared to find out something was wrong. When he got the results back and they were great he was acting like he was king of the World.

I had to keep nagging DH and we had some nasty arguments about it but now he is a real trooper when it comes to giving his samples for IUI etc.

[mae141]

I'm angry a lot. It's annoying, because I don't know what I'm supposed to be directing my anger at. But I'm definitely angry.

[ilovecandy]

Feb 11, 2013 6:52:50 GMT -5 changedname said:

Hugs Sonrisa. It took my DH about 3 months to get his s/a too. It was so annoying. I think deep down he was so scared to find out something was wrong. When he got the results back and they were great he was acting like he was king of the World.

I had to keep nagging DH and we had some nasty arguments about it but now he is a real trooper when it comes to giving his samples for IUI etc.

When H got his done we talked.  He was all what if it is me? There was some blame from him because he was scared that the problem was him.  I assured him no matter what I would still love him but it would be better if we knew because then we know what course of action to take.  Of course it wasn't him it is just my body hates me.  

[discogranny]

I found that before IVF I had finally kind of made peace with everything. But the time immediately post miscarriage has been the angriest time for me. It's stupid because being angry/bitter is not in my normal personality and I just get angry at myself for being like this, which is completely not helpful.