Sleep training sucks

[eratmama]

No, really. After pumpkins sleep study, they said we really should do a modified cry it out.

We had been inching our way out of the room, but he wakes up when the floor creeks.

Bedtime is making huge strides. Down to less than 20 min of fussing. Sat night--despite our best efforts, he was up from midnight til 2:30. crying.

Nap time-- he nearly fell asleep on me, and now has been screaming for an hour. I feel like I am breaking him

[thiswillbe]

((hugs)) You are a stronger woman than I am (obviously, since we have two almost 3-y.o.s who sleep in our bed from ~midnight-on and who go to sleep holding our hands). I know how infuriating the floor creaking thing can be-- it's actually one of the reasons we moved rather than trying to renovate/add on to our old house.

ETA: Sorry, just read that over and I think it sounded insensitive. I was just trying to say I feel for you. I hope it starts going better soon.

[mk]

I'm sorry It sucks.

[eratmama]

No hard feelings, TWB. If the hand holding, back patting was working, I would probably still be doing it.

Instead, I spent an hour thinking of all the people who have abandoned my kids and that they can't trust.

[2brides]

It does suck. BIG TIME.



We did the CIO for bedtime around 2y with Gray. I thought L was going to lose her mind, but thankfully it worked. Like TWB/N2A we also had a nightly visitor in our bed, but thankfully we waited so long, we didn't have to cry it out then, just do a sticker chart.



These are the things they don't tell you when you are planning on having children.

[ElsaVonM]

The difference is that those people abandoned them. You're doing your damnedest to help them, even though it hurts to hear them cry. They know the difference.

For ours comforting them is just distracting and pushes actual sleep back further and further. It will get better if you stick with it. We've gone from 2+ hours of crying every night (even while holding, rocking, etc.) to most nights of 5 minutes or less, sometimes just right to sleep. About every two weeks we'll have a bad night with lots of crying, but that grin is always there to greet me in the morning.