flameful post

[chickenlittle]

Adorable, not flameful!

[Sloane]

I think this is awesome, not flameful

[underwaterrhymes]

Awesome, not flameful.

[circa1978]

Not flameful to me. My almost 2-year-old son loves to wear my jewelry and put my hair clips in his hair. I know both he and his best buddy wear the princess dresses at school. I think it's great to encourage non-gendered play or let them explore whatever they want.

[Sloane]

Feb 12, 2013 11:57:55 GMT -5 @stpete said:

I don't think there is anything wrong-that's why I did it. But it seemed like one of those things people would get it up for.

Maybe mention "mod" and "powers"?

[sonrisa]

Nothing flameful there. My 2 year old expects to grow up from little girl to big boy. We'll see if she does.

[mamasaurus]

I wonder if kuus is going to come in and tell you to stop oppressing him.

[lime]

Not flameful.

Unless the heels on those shoes hurt his little ankles.

[anastasiabeaverhause]

not flameful at all. My little brother used to love playing dress up and wearing my heels, shirts as dresses and tried to wear my moms earrings. It did not inhibit him in any way like people who saw him do this in the early 90's thought.

[LLL]

lol, will he be able to share with big sis?
not flameful.

[Deleted]

Whats flameful about that?

[mommylikestattoos]

I have no problem with that, but my DH can be pretty uptight about following gender stereotypes though. When picking out Valentines to pass out at school, I had to veto the Tinkerbell cards my DS initially picked out because I didn't want to deal with my DH being all pissy with me. We ended up with Scooby-Doo instead.

[Jalapeñomel]

  Worst flameful ever!

You'll have to take a picture of him all dolled up!

[Jalapeñomel]

Oh, I have a flameful! I am tired of all the sick posts here...so many every single day.

Maybe the real issue is that I am spending way too much time on ML.

[dcannie]

when you buy tickets for the ballet you specifically pick the seats you want. the one i'm going to in march has nudity, so i chose seats as close to the stage as possible, even though they are more off center than i usually choose. kind of a perv.

[MWOS]

Feb 12, 2013 12:24:24 GMT -5 dcannie said:

when you buy tickets for the ballet you specifically pick the seats you want. the one i'm going to in march has nudity, so i chose seats as close to the stage as possible, even though they are more off center than i usually choose. kind of a perv.

This isn't flameful, this is MM.  If you're gonna pay for nudity, get a good look.

[sugarbear]

If that's flameful, then I should put on a retardant suit.
Every morning when I put on makeup, DS asks for some. He is particularly enamored with the idea of mascara. I'm not about to buy him any for himself (holy mess!), but I'm happy to put some on him.

[dcannie]

Feb 12, 2013 12:25:54 GMT -5 MWOS said:

Feb 12, 2013 12:24:24 GMT -5 dcannie said:

when you buy tickets for the ballet you specifically pick the seats you want. the one i'm going to in march has nudity, so i chose seats as close to the stage as possible, even though they are more off center than i usually choose. kind of a perv.

This isn't flameful, this is MM.  If you're gonna pay for nudity, get a good look.

it was definitely NOT mm. i'm on the second row, lol. but i only paid $80 more than i usually pay, so not awful. 

[MWOS]

If you're gonna go to a strip club, don't stand in the back
If you're gonna buy porn, don't watch it on a black and white TV

If you're going to the nudie ballet, you fork over the cash for the close seats

[mamasaurus]

Feb 12, 2013 12:31:36 GMT -5 MWOS said:

If you're gonna go to a strip club, don't stand in the back
If you're gonna buy porn, don't watch it on a black and white TV

If you're going to the nudie ballet, you fork over the cash for the close seats

LOL @ "nudie ballet." I think they might sell more tickets if they officially adopted that name.

[psychmom]

Feb 12, 2013 12:24:24 GMT -5 dcannie said:

when you buy tickets for the ballet you specifically pick the seats you want. the one i'm going to in march has nudity, so i chose seats as close to the stage as possible, even though they are more off center than i usually choose. kind of a perv.

More bang for your buck


Teehehe. Yes, I'm a 12 year old boy.

OP I dont think thats flameful but I know what you mean about your DH. My H is the same way.

[Marle]

Logan went through a phase here I had to paint at least one nail on each and make him "tattoos". They do want to be just like mommy.

[macmars45]

Feb 12, 2013 12:07:40 GMT -5 mommylikestattoos said:

I have no problem with that, but my DH can be pretty uptight about following gender stereotypes though. When picking out Valentines to pass out at school, I had to veto the Tinkerbell cards my DS initially picked out because I didn't want to deal with my DH being all pissy with me. We ended up with Scooby-Doo instead.

Sadly I'm sure this will be a problem H and I will disagree about as well since we've bumped into it once already. I wanted to buy our 3 year old nephew a dress up skirt for Christmas. I have no problem with it. When I mentioned it to H... omg. You'd have thought I was going to teach nephew how to drown kittens or something equally horrible.

[Jalapeñomel]

Feb 12, 2013 13:11:02 GMT -5 macmars45 said:

Feb 12, 2013 12:07:40 GMT -5 mommylikestattoos said:

I have no problem with that, but my DH can be pretty uptight about following gender stereotypes though. When picking out Valentines to pass out at school, I had to veto the Tinkerbell cards my DS initially picked out because I didn't want to deal with my DH being all pissy with me. We ended up with Scooby-Doo instead.

Sadly I'm sure this will be a problem H and I will disagree about as well since we've bumped into it once already. I wanted to buy our 3 year old nephew a dress up skirt for Christmas. I have no problem with it. When I mentioned it to H... omg. You'd have thought I was going to teach nephew how to drown kittens or something equally horrible.

That's sad.

[Jalapeñomel]

Feb 12, 2013 13:16:50 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

Feb 12, 2013 12:18:49 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Oh, I have a flameful! I am tired of all the sick posts here...so many every single day.

Maybe the real issue is that I am spending way too much time on ML.

You mean sick as in illness?

Yeah.  It seems like in the last week every third post is about the stomach flu or fever or flu either with the OP or their child/DH/SO.  But like I said, it's probably more because I am on here all the damn time lately and if I went away and came back, I doubt I would notice them. Put down the ML, Mel, put it down!

[Marle]

Feb 12, 2013 13:19:32 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Feb 12, 2013 13:16:50 GMT -5 Lucy Honeychurch said:

You mean sick as in illness?

Yeah.  It seems like in the last week every third post is about the stomach flu or fever or flu either with the OP or their child/DH/SO.  But like I said, it's probably more because I am on here all the damn time lately and if I went away and came back, I doubt I would notice them. Put down the ML, Mel, put it down!

That's because you are in a tropical paradise where no one is getting sick while over here all kinds of viruses are floating around. ML complaining is par with IRL amount of people that are sick.

[jayded]

Not flameful, just a sign that you are a great mommy.

[macmars45]

Feb 12, 2013 13:17:47 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Feb 12, 2013 13:11:02 GMT -5 macmars45 said:

Sadly I'm sure this will be a problem H and I will disagree about as well since we've bumped into it once already. I wanted to buy our 3 year old nephew a dress up skirt for Christmas. I have no problem with it. When I mentioned it to H... omg. You'd have thought I was going to teach nephew how to drown kittens or something equally horrible.

That's sad.

I know. I'm hoping I can change his mind eventually. He grew up in a very gender stereotypical household. His mom did all the chores, raised the kids, was a SAHM & home-schooled H & his sister while his dad worked full time and came home to sit in front of the TV all night. I can see how boys dressing up like girls would've been frowned upon in his house.

When we were first dating he assumed all women wanted to be a SAHM and home-school their kids. I quickly set him right on that score and now he's fine with our plan for when we have kids. So maybe there's hope yet.

[fuckyourcouch]

i kind of love this. good for you, stpete.

[Deleted]

i'm not posting about a self-conscious reaction about something physical here again. the first time i did it, sparky told me my dress was unflattering and i'm still pissy about it. i did it again, and she told me that probably the first time my bra just sucked and fields was all "yeah, wrap dresses are bad". so i'm pissy again. and both times it was my fault since the first time i posted a photo saying essentially "someone said they hate my dress" and this time i felt compelled to "correct" a misperception conveyed IN A COMPLIMENT.

clearly, i don't know how to handle my shit and, really, that deserves some fucking flames because A) no one was ill-intentioned and both sparky and fields were trying to be nice; and B) both posts resulted in compliments to me.

apparently--15 years later--i'm not over having gotten heavy and then the hard work it took to work it all off. and how both my extended family's and the public's reactions to it conveyed so strongly that, no matter what else i did in life, that was going to be viewed as my biggest "success."

i'm still waiting to be a grownup and to be a person who has her shit together, emotionally. hasn't happened yet.