Would this be creepy of me?

[saywhatnow]

DS's day care teacher is expecting her first baby...due in April. She is fantastic and I'd love to get her a baby gift. Would it be creepy for me to look up her baby registry and buy off of that being that we don't know her THAT well (been his teacher for less than a year) and it's not like I was invited to a shower or anything.

What say you?

[mrssandro]

I don't think that is creepy at all. I would do it.

[ECB]

No. It's a registry. Technically public knowledge. I don't see the big deal.

[soozy87]

A little creepy, I would do it. You don't have to tell her that you picked it off the registry.

[tripleshot]

I vote not creepy. Registries are public online, no super sleuthing required.

[Deleted]

I would probably buy her something off the registry but make sure it was something where it wasn't too painfully obvious that were stalking her registry, like onesies and other common baby stuff. And I wouldn't mention anything about looking at her registry, nor would I have the store mark her registry that it was purchased. Just use the registry as a general idea as to what she wants.

Which really, sounds even more creepy, but not so creepy in theory.

[CloudBee]

Not creepy at all. I think it's a really nice idea. She'll be thrilled, IMO.

[raangoli]

I don't think it's creepy. You know her, and registries are public. It's a nice thought.

[mrssandro]

Why are people so weird about the registry? It's public knowledge for all to see. If someone likes you enough to get your unborn baby a gift I don't see what the big deal is. I would appreciate 100% that it came from the registry in case I needed to return it (dup gift) or something. If you don't want people to see your registry then why register at all.

[CloudBee]

Feb 14, 2013 10:11:45 GMT -5 papiercherri said:

I would probably buy her something off the registry but make sure it was something where it wasn't too painfully obvious that were stalking her registry, like onesies and other common baby stuff. And I wouldn't mention anything about looking at her registry, nor would I have the store mark her registry that it was purchased. Just use the registry as a general idea as to what she wants.

Which really, sounds even more creepy, but not so creepy in theory.

This sounds so intense, lol. Doesn't everyone know these days there there are databases out there where you type in a mother or bride to be's name and bam, a list of their registries pops up?

It's sooo nice to have items checked off as purchased in advance to avoid dupes. And those small, random items on registries are often what people need most.

Team buy off the registry.

I think when you have a registry, you can pretty much expect that your best friend from 2nd grade who is your FB friend is stalking, as could be your neighbor.  It's human nature.

ETA: I purchased $20 worth of random registry items for an old high school friend recently, who was due a few weeks before me.  And another girl from high school bought something for me off of my registry recently. I haven't seen either of them in 7-8 yrs and we were never super close.

[Deleted]

My general opinion is if you have to ask if it is creepy, it probably is. However, in this case, no I don't think that would be creepy at all.

[Deleted]

I think it's sweet and if someone did that for me, I'd be really flattered that they were that thoughtful and went to the effort to find out what I actually wanted.

So, not creepy.

[glynn]

It's fine and nice.

[Deleted]

I think it's thoughtful.

[Deleted]

That's her name + google. Not creepy at all.

[aspentosh]

Not creepy at all.

[countthestars]

Not creepy!

[Deleted]

No, a very nice idea!

[jene]

I think it's nice

[Deleted]

Feb 14, 2013 10:15:02 GMT -5 CloudBee said:

Feb 14, 2013 10:11:45 GMT -5 papiercherri said:

I would probably buy her something off the registry but make sure it was something where it wasn't too painfully obvious that were stalking her registry, like onesies and other common baby stuff. And I wouldn't mention anything about looking at her registry, nor would I have the store mark her registry that it was purchased. Just use the registry as a general idea as to what she wants.

Which really, sounds even more creepy, but not so creepy in theory.

This sounds so intense, lol. Doesn't everyone know these days there there are databases out there where you type in a mother or bride to be's name and bam, a list of their registries pops up?

It's sooo nice to have items checked off as purchased in advance to avoid dupes. And those small, random items on registries are often what people need most.

Team buy off the registry.

I think when you have a registry, you can pretty much expect that your best friend from 2nd grade who is your FB friend is stalking, as could be your neighbor.  It's human nature.

ETA: I purchased $20 worth of random registry items for an old high school friend recently, who was due a few weeks before me.  And another girl from high school bought something for me off of my registry recently. I haven't seen either of them in 7-8 yrs and we were never super close.

I've apparently overthought this topic. lol

[mbcdefg]

I don't find it creepy at all. It's a nice gesture.

I would only find it weird if you bought her a big-ticket item, like the stroller or carseat or something. But I'm sure that's not what you're talking about here

[jerseyjaybird]

Not creepy at all!
I'm sure she'll be thrilled.

A close colleague of mine recently had a destination wedding. I registry stalked them and sent a gift to their home. They did not find this creepy.

[brooklyn]

I'd be totally thrilled if someone bought off my registry!