Today is my first day alone with both kids.

[matildasun]

M was two weeks old on Saturday and A is two and a half. My husband goes back to work today. I am a little terrified .
Since M was born, A has been completely attached to her daddy, and has had crazy tantrums. Hopefully today won't be too traumatic for either of us.
We have music class today, which will either make the day bearable or more difficult.

If you have two or more would you please share your stories of adjustment to a new sibling? Thanks.

[6fsn]

I won't lie. There were more than a few tears in those first days (and maybe a broken lamp). You will all figure it out though. The good news is the kids are too young to be truely traumatized.

[dcrunnergirl]

You're going to do great. I obviously don't have any sibling adjustment stories since mine are the same age, but I know that feeling of being terrified when DH goes back to work. I shed a fair share of tears those first few days by myself but then I got into a routine, and so will you. Good luck!

[Deleted]

DS had a hard time adjusting and had lots of tantrums that summer. As a matter of fact, he once threw a fork at the baby. That was a traumatic day for all of us He was pretty young though (only 21 months) and didn't entirely understand what was going on. Hopefully, it will be easier with your DD.

One thing that I did that made things a lot easier was to hire a sitter to watch the baby while I took DS to his classes and out for solo activities. I also started dropping him off at my FIL's to play for an afternoon, which the baby didn't do and that seemed to help a lot as well. You're in the survival stage right now and I would strongly encourage you to take any help that is offered or that you can afford to hire. Don't try to be a super hero right now

Also, just keep reminding yourself that little by little it WILL get easier. Now that the boys are 2 and almost 4, they play so well together and are little buddies. It's really nice to see their relationship growing.

[GailGoldie]

we kept Griffin in full time daycare when i was home on maternity leave with the twins- for us it was the best chioce- he kept up his routine, was having fun, learning, etc - and not bored out of his mind at home with me and the babies.

when i went back to work i was part time- so at that point I had all 3 home with me 2 days/week... it was an adjustment for sure! I made sure to do special fun things with DS1 when the twins were napping -- reading books, going outside to do chalk, etc... so he never felt neglected and never resented his brothers.

just remember- a baby is "luggage" and can be put down - your older child will need a lot of attentino to get through the transition - make sure to make that a prioirty... wear the baby if needed, so you can get out and enjoy time with your other child, etc.

getting out of the house is what kept me sane -even if it was just to the store... in the back yard, walks, parks, etc... and DS1 loved getting out and about - and as infants, the twins were easy to get out with, so take advantage of that while the baby is small and not mobile

[satama]

DH was home for 4 weeks but I was so scared to be alone with them when he went back. I had a csectionand was still notable to lift DS1 at that time. The first day went surprisingly well. By the next week we had our routine e down and most days go really smoothly now. DS1 did have some bad tantryms, but what two year old doesn't.

Hardest partisan if they are both crying at once. DS1 did yell at the baby and me to leave one day and another day told him "you be quiet! I want to cry!"

It helps me to have a place to put the baby down/ let him nap in almost every room.
Also having a totally childproofed room to put the toddler for a minute if I have to.

Good luck today!

[matildasun]

Thanks everyone. I appreciate all the advice. We are all dressed, fed, and on our way to music.

[brit1017]

Good luck! I remember being completely freaked out when DH had to go back to work! It is an adjustment to learn how to deal with both needing you at the same time. If I could, I would put the baby down and deal with DS first, but if I was breastfeeding, that wasn't always possible. As PP said, having one completely baby-proofed room to put DS in where I knew he couldn't get hurt helped. I also tried to get them outside every day- I wore DD a lot for the first few months.