New Friends v. Old Friends

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Recently, I have made some new friends at work. If I'm being completely honest, I like these new friends more than my old friends.

Well, at the moment. Maybe I haven't known these new people long enough yet. LOL.

Do you find it difficult to juggle your friends? Especially when they don't really mesh? What do you typically do to keep everyone entertained and happy?

[LauraMoser]

Friends? What are they? lol My friends are mainly family members, as sad as that is.

[Mrs.Beagle]

I don't worry about making everyone happy, I just try to make myself happy. I find that there are some old friends I'm less interesting in spending time with, I just don't make plans with them. Eventually the shiny newness of the new friends fades and it balances out.

Or it doesn't and people change and move on.

[fuddyduddy]

Yes, for a variety of reasons. I have friends from different parts of my life that really wouldn't relate to one another. I am also long-distance from many friends and struggle with keeping in touch with everyone since it takes a lot of effort.

I don't have any helpful suggestions for you.

[Deleted]

Oh, and to make this more ridiculous and amusing for you, one of the primary reasons that I like these new friends more is that they are better eaters.

[LauraMoser]

May 11, 2012 22:13:58 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

Oh, and to make this more ridiculous and amusing for you, one of the primary reasons that I like these new friends more is that they are better eaters.

Perfectly acceptable reason!

[Deleted]

Yes, I find it very hard to balance people. And I don't even have that many friends currently, but the ones I do have I know for different reasons and I can never figure out how to hang out with one person or group without feeling like I'm snubbing another.

Mostly I just go with whoever invited me to do something first, and if I'm initiating plans I just go with who I feel like going with and try not to make it too obvious to the people left out that I didn't invite them.

I think if your new friends like to eat and your old ones don't, the old friends can't really be offended if you invite new friends out.

[Kore]

Friends are awesome! You've met my newest new BFF. I like her better than old friends.

[isabel]

I really only have a couple of friends outside of work and I don't hang out with those two groups together. So, in a way, yes. But ultimately I think it's kind of nice because they're so different. I get to choose who I'm in to mood to hang out with.

[isabel]

May 11, 2012 22:17:36 GMT -5 LauraMoser said:

May 11, 2012 22:13:58 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

Oh, and to make this more ridiculous and amusing for you, one of the primary reasons that I like these new friends more is that they are better eaters.

Perfectly acceptable reason!

100% Agreed.

[Deleted]

I'm going to add little details bit by bit for your continued attention.

All of my new friends are guys.

Now what do you think?

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL.

[Deleted]

May 11, 2012 22:18:24 GMT -5 Kore said:

Friends are awesome! You've met my newest new BFF. I like her better than old friends.

Yes, she's swell!

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May 11, 2012 22:11:06 GMT -5 LauraMoser said:

Friends? What are they? lol My friends are mainly family members, as sad as that is.

I don't think that's sad at all.

People who are friends with their family members are the most fortunate people in the world

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May 11, 2012 22:13:46 GMT -5 fuddyduddy said:

Yes, for a variety of reasons. I have friends from different parts of my life that really wouldn't relate to one another. I am also long-distance from many friends and struggle with keeping in touch with everyone since it takes a lot of effort.

I don't have any helpful suggestions for you.

It's helpful just to know that I'm not alone in facing difficulties with juggling friends.

[isabel]

May 11, 2012 22:20:43 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

I'm going to add little details bit by bit for your continued attention.

All of my new friends are guys.

Now what do you think?

LOLOLOLOLOLOLOL.

Eh, most of the people at work that I like the most are guys... I find this interesting since I had literally no male friends through all of high school and most of college.

[fuddyduddy]

May 11, 2012 22:23:07 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

May 11, 2012 22:13:46 GMT -5 fuddyduddy said:

Yes, for a variety of reasons. I have friends from different parts of my life that really wouldn't relate to one another. I am also long-distance from many friends and struggle with keeping in touch with everyone since it takes a lot of effort.

I don't have any helpful suggestions for you.

It's helpful just to know that I'm not alone in facing difficulties with juggling friends.

Group hug!

[Deleted]

May 11, 2012 22:18:03 GMT -5 @buckybells said:

Yes, I find it very hard to balance people. And I don't even have that many friends currently, but the ones I do have I know for different reasons and I can never figure out how to hang out with one person or group without feeling like I'm snubbing another.

Mostly I just go with whoever invited me to do something first, and if I'm initiating plans I just go with who I feel like going with and try not to make it too obvious to the people left out that I didn't invite them.

I think if your new friends like to eat and your old ones don't, the old friends can't really be offended if you invite new friends out.

More often than not, I am the planner. I suggest lunch. I suggest happy hour. I suggest even simple coffee breaks.

New friends are quick and easy to schedule. Old friends bring the drama.

[ijack]

Hot guys, right? LOL!
Eh, no big deal. I mean I wouldn't totally drop your old friends if you want to stay semi friendly with them. But there is no reason you can't spend (more) time with your new friends.

[Deleted]

May 11, 2012 22:18:33 GMT -5 isabel said:

I really only have a couple of friends outside of work and I don't hang out with those two groups together. So, in a way, yes. But ultimately I think it's kind of nice because they're so different. I get to choose who I'm in to mood to hang out with.

New friends make me laugh more.

It's nice not having to be the main act.

[Deleted]

May 11, 2012 22:25:17 GMT -5 ijack said:

Hot guys, right? LOL!
Eh, no big deal. I mean I wouldn't totally drop your old friends if you want to stay semi friendly with them. But there is no reason you can't spend (more) time with your new friends.

Only one is cute. Well, I think he's cute.

Ok, everybody thinks he's cute. But he is cute in a sea of ugly, so he's probably just average in the general population.

Hmm. Arguably one more is cute, too.

Third is not cute, but I've known him the for five years. He's not really a new friend, but the four of us go to lunch together now.

[Deleted]

This thread is making me think I need new friends.

I am an excellent eater & easy to schedule. Too bad we are 2000 miles apart.

Will they let me have two portions at brunch? I am having trouble with narrowing down my menu choices.

[justjen]

I feel like my new friends and old friends always wind up friends with each other. Which is both awesome and weird.

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May 11, 2012 22:29:03 GMT -5 @ameliapond said:

This thread is making me think I need new friends.

I am an excellent eater & easy to schedule. Too bad we are 2000 miles apart.

Will they let me have two portions at brunch? I am having trouble with narrowing down my menu choices.

It really is too bad!

There are no rules at brunch!

[Deleted]

We moved last summer and since I have had time to reflect on my friendships by myself, I realized that I don't really enjoy spending time with a lot of my old friends. We don't have a lot in common and are at different points in our lives.

I am hoping that we will meet new people and build better friendships now that we are finally feeling settled. I anticipate letting go of a lot of the 'old' friendships rather than trying to juggle them.

[Deleted]

We are going to be such friends. ;D

Double portions for all!

[Deleted]

May 11, 2012 22:29:17 GMT -5 justjen said:

I feel like my new friends and old friends always wind up friends with each other. Which is both awesome and weird.

I think many of my friends are extremely different.

[wife2dj]

May 11, 2012 22:30:37 GMT -5 @blessed said:

May 11, 2012 22:24:33 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

More often than not, I am the planner. I suggest lunch. I suggest happy hour. I suggest even simple coffee breaks.

New friends are quick and easy to schedule. Old friends bring the drama.

I don't deal with drama. I don't need people that cause me stress to be my friends, not worth it. So yeah I definitely wouldn't feel bad liking new friends more. I don't think it matters at all that they're all guys. My bff is female, but I have really close, fun and meaningful friendships with a few guys.

It's exactly they drama aspect that my pool of friends has dwindled down to basically one or two. I can't handle drama.

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May 11, 2012 22:30:54 GMT -5 cuadrado said:

We moved last summer and since I have had time to reflect on my friendships by myself, I realized that I don't really enjoy spending time with a lot of my old friends. We don't have a lot in common and are at different points in our lives.

I am hoping that we will meet new people and build better friendships now that we are finally feeling settled. I anticipate letting go of a lot of the 'old' friendships rather than trying to juggle them.

I hope you make new friends, too!

Really is a breath of fresh air.

[yellowbrkrd]

Ah, see, I make friends, we become close and then I end up moving and then suck at keeping in touch with everyone.
Now we live where I grew up and I am hanging out with a lot of friends from high school. Most of them never left and we're very different people. I need new friends in the area.

[Deleted]

Don't get me wrong. I'm very happy that I'm so lucky to have choices in friends!

Maybe in a few months, it won't even be an issue because the boys will tire of me. LOL.