J posted a pic of the baby eating a strawberry on Instagram and our sitter commented "Seductive" so I replied and nicely stated my opinion of "Kids are not sexy/seductive, I don't like when people use those words for kids. )". Sitter responded that the comment was a joke and J replied to her "I know", thanks for the backup hun......
J was upset that I nicely stated my opinion but wasn't upset at all that our SITTER would make a comment like that about one of our kids.
I'm guessing there may be a bit of a cultural difference here, but yeah... babies =/= sexy. and not cool of J...if she disagreed, she could do so in a private conversation with you, not publicly taking someone else's side.
J's sister and mom have been known to tell the girls to dance sexy (makes my skin crawl) and J will tell them to stop but she is on this kick about how I'm offensive to our sitter. I would rather set the sitter right than have her use inappropriate words to describe my kids, if I do it nicely and she is offended than oh well, she is a sensitive person.
I'm guessing there may be a bit of a cultural difference here, but yeah... babies =/= sexy. and not cool of J...if she disagreed, she could do so in a private conversation with you, not publicly taking someone else's side.
Even if it was a cultural difference, I also would have pointed out to people in contact with my kids(especially a sitter---eeeeew) what words and attitudes we want conveyed in our house
Yikes. Maybe I'm overreacting, but I would start looking for another sitter. That really calls into question her judgement on what is appropriate and what is not. That "joke" is not at all funny.
Yikes. Maybe I'm overreacting, but I would start looking for another sitter. That really calls into question her judgement on what is appropriate and what is not. That "joke" is not at all funny.
I've not been 100% comfortable with her for awhile, last time she sat for us she asked if she could have her bf over (a guy we hadn't met) and when I said no that J and I wouldn't be comfortable with it, she text J at work and asked her. I came home from my Dr appt to find a guy sitting on the couch and the baby in bed "because she kept crying". J was upset with me because she felt pressured to say yes because she said the sitter made it seem like I didn't mind the bf being here.
She is J's employee at Chipotle and J trusts her so pretty much anything that bothers me about her goes in one ear and out the other.
Not cool. Time for a new sitter. You don't have to formally "fire" her if you're worried about things being awkward at J's work with her. Just stop scheduling with her, and if she asks, say you don't need a sitter any more.
Post by seattlekari on Feb 25, 2013 13:34:19 GMT -5
Ditto hensmum and twotrue, I would be looking for someone new. The fact that she went around what you said about the BF would piss me off to no end. Seems like she's trying to pit you and J against each other and that is not cool in my book.
Not cool. Time for a new sitter. You don't have to formally "fire" her if you're worried about things being awkward at J's work with her. Just stop scheduling with her, and if she asks, say you don't need a sitter any more.
THIS THIS THIS THIS !!!! We stopped calling a sitter after she was watching the girls and we got home and she said it was the best birthcontrol she ever had... and when M picked up or tiny dog to say hello to him he licked her face and the sitter said O "Oh I bet that's only man allowed to kiss you " WTF - there were like 5 other things she said and I walked her to the door paid her NO TIP and said THANKS and never called her again ...