Weekly TTTC check -in

[changedname]

Hi Ladies! Hugs to Bronx this week and everyone else who needs them.

** I am not going to be able to do the check in next week - can anyone take over?**

1) What's going on with you? Where are you in the journey?

2) Any updates or appointments coming up this week?

3) Do you do acupuncture or any other alternative methods/supplements for ttc?

[pamela]

1) This weekend was O weekend and basically a bust. DH has low drive, so it is sometimes an issue. I made the "mistake" of spontaneously initiating 2 nights too early so by the time we made it to actual O time, it had been too many attempts in too short of a time for success. So we gave up that night, try again the next one. During which it was storming and my cell phone (which I can't silence because I'm on call) kept going off with storm warnings and the house phone rang with a parish storm warning. So mood killed, failed again. Today should be 1 dpo, but I don't even know if it's worth trying. So our only hope was 3 days before O. I'm just pissed that I sat through 3.5 hours of an IV plus the cost of that and progesterone that I should take just in case. Grr...

2) No appointments.

3) I don't really do any alternative methods/supplements. I had a chiro once tell me that their treatments could help me, which I declined.

[changedname]

1) What's going on with you? Where are you in the journey? I am cd 6 and waiting for cd 21 to begin Lupron for ivf.

2) Any updates or appointments coming up this week? I had a complete meltdown this weekend. I guess I never thought it would really get to ivf for us and it's taking some time to get used to the idea.

3) Do you do acupuncture or any other alternative methods/supplements for ttc? I have doing acupuncture since November. I don't think it does anything but will continue through ivf just in case. If this ivf fails then I will stop because it is way too much $$.

[linz]

1) What's going on with you? Where are you in the journey? AF showed up saturday.

2) Any updates or appointments coming up this week? H is getting his SA this week - have to call Dr. today and get it set up plus tell her I'm taking a couple months off. Mainly b/c of my work schedule and also stress. I want to be med free for awhile - I'll still do metformin so I could ovulate but we'll see. I'll temp but not daily. If no period in 60 days I'll get provera and start back on femara that following cycle. I'm super bummed - I was hoping to HAVE a baby in 2013, now I just have to hope to get PG in 2013.  I'm very scared for the SA results. It never worried me - hence putting it off but now I'm scared H is shooting blanks or something bad.

3) Do you do acupuncture or any other alternative methods/supplements for ttc?
I'm running a half in April and trying to pour myself into running. I've been struggling. I just can't get it out of my head.

[HoneySpider]

1) What's going on with you? Where are you in the journey? Waiting for 1st post-D&E period

2) Any updates or appointments coming up this week? Going to my MFM doctor tomorrow for my D&E follow up...don't expect anything unusual, but I do think it is going to suck emotionally 

3) Do you do acupuncture or any other alternative methods/supplements for tic? Our last 2 months TTC DH was taking maca root supplements, I have no idea if it
 actually helped or not

I can do the check in next week if no one else wants to, I honestly think I might forget though. 

[G22]

1.) Middle of my cycle somewhere. I haven't been keeping tracking this month.

2.) No appts. Still waiting for new Dr to call me once they get my paperwork. I called the base and pitched a mini fit and the nurse resent the paperwork. Really....it takes 3 weeks for paperwork to make it 2 miles down the road?? Ugh!

3.) No not really. I gave up for now. Not like anything has helped anyways. I even have stopped my prenatal for a few months.

[trufflefries]

CD 19. Pretty sure I O'd yesterday. I don't temp anymore so I can't confirm it but body signs were there.

No real news on appointments, etc to report. Have an appointment in late April to talk about fertility meds. It's possible I may be switching to a day shift at work, which is full time and means I'll be able to be on the hospital's health insurance, so I'm trying to wait that out before contacting my ob/gyn to ask to move up the appointment. Would much rather bill all of that to new insurance if I get it. Fingers crossed!

[mae141]

1) What's going on with you? Where are you in the journey? CD 11, I think. On BC waiting to start IVF.

2) Any updates or appointments coming up this week? Wednesday- Mock transfer and consult to go over consent. Friday- Blood and sono to see if the cysts are gone and we can get this show on the road. I think the one on the left is gone, but I still feel something on the right. 

3) Do you do acupuncture or any other alternative methods/supplements for ttc? I do not do acupuncture. DH and I take a million vitamins based on RE recs. I have also cut processed foods out of my diet and limit my sugar (even natural sugars).  

[degal99]

1) What's going on with you? Where are you in the journey? CD18. I'm interested to see how long this cycle is going to be. Since last month was 26, and every other one in the past 1.5 years has been 35 or more days. Next cycle with be IUI cycle #1.



2) Any updates or appointments coming up this week? I had my "clomid" teaching today for my IUI cycle.  I'm actually pretty relieved because it looks like most of my appointments can be done outside works hours, which makes me much less stressed.  I'll just have to call on CD1 to get the ball rolling.


3) Do you do acupuncture or any other alternative methods/supplements for ttc? Nope, nothing conventional.  Just ordered some prenatal vitamins off amazon today though!

[degal99]

Feb 25, 2013 10:52:16 GMT -5 G22 said:

2.) No appts. Still waiting for new Dr to call me once they get my paperwork. I called the base and pitched a mini fit and the nurse resent the paperwork. Really....it takes 3 weeks for paperwork to make it 2 miles down the road?? Ugh!

That sucks!

Can they fax it and/or can you pick it up and take it yourself?

[G22]

Feb 25, 2013 19:36:29 GMT -5 degal99 said:

Feb 25, 2013 10:52:16 GMT -5 G22 said:

2.) No appts. Still waiting for new Dr to call me once they get my paperwork. I called the base and pitched a mini fit and the nurse resent the paperwork. Really....it takes 3 weeks for paperwork to make it 2 miles down the road?? Ugh!

That sucks!

Can they fax it and/or can you pick it up and take it yourself?

The nurse supposedly faxed it on Thursday when I called again about it. I also found out I can print it out offline too. (the referral, not the lab work) So I'm thinking I'm going to do that this week and take it into the new office on my own. I'm just feel so fed up with everything...I'm naturally laid back and non-confrontational, so its really hard for me to keep calling and getting frustrated with people.

[BNL2]

1. I'm in 2ww hell trying to busy myself and not think about it.

2. Nothing scheduled for this week.

3. My therapist has suggested acupuncture but it creeps me out. The only supplement I take is a prenatal.

[changedname]

Feb 25, 2013 18:36:38 GMT -5 mae141 said:

1) What's going on with you? Where are you in the journey? CD 11, I think. On BC waiting to start IVF.

2) Any updates or appointments coming up this week? Wednesday- Mock transfer and consult to go over consent. Friday- Blood and sono to see if the cysts are gone and we can get this show on the road. I think the one on the left is gone, but I still feel something on the right. 

3) Do you do acupuncture or any other alternative methods/supplements for ttc? I do not do acupuncture. DH and I take a million vitamins based on RE recs. I have also cut processed foods out of my diet and limit my sugar (even natural sugars).  

Mae, what is your ivf timeline looking like? Just wondering if we will be on the same track?  They are estimating I will start stims on March 26th and ER on April 6.

[mae141]

Feb 25, 2013 20:25:24 GMT -5 changedname said:

Feb 25, 2013 18:36:38 GMT -5 mae141 said:

1) What's going on with you? Where are you in the journey? CD 11, I think. On BC waiting to start IVF.

2) Any updates or appointments coming up this week? Wednesday- Mock transfer and consult to go over consent. Friday- Blood and sono to see if the cysts are gone and we can get this show on the road. I think the one on the left is gone, but I still feel something on the right. 

3) Do you do acupuncture or any other alternative methods/supplements for ttc? I do not do acupuncture. DH and I take a million vitamins based on RE recs. I have also cut processed foods out of my diet and limit my sugar (even natural sugars).  

Mae, what is your ivf timeline looking like? Just wondering if we will be on the same track?  They are estimating I will start stims on March 26th and ER on April 6.

I don't know yet. My RE said that he didn't want to make me a schedule until the cysts are better. I don't think they have to be completely gone, but he said the two on my right pretty much took over my ovary and that was not good. They don't hurt nearly as bad anymore, so I am taking that as a good sign. I think I'll find out more on Friday. I'm getting so nervous!

[KaraOrNot]

1) What's going on with you? Where are you in the journey? Month 18. CD6.

2) Any updates or appointments coming up this week? I am waiting for the results of my ultrasound and blood work. H needs to get his bloodwork scheduled. I need to follow up w/ the RE because they still haven't gotten back to me on the costs for IUI.

3) Do you do acupuncture or any other alternative methods/supplements for ttc? I have looked into acupuncture, but it is so expensive that I didn't move forward. I should look into it again. H takes a million vitamins, but that is it.

[lola]

1 - I'm CD6, Cycle A Lot. I stopped counting.

2 - No updates. I have to call my doctor and see what we do next. When all my blood work looked good, and my HSG looked good, and my H's SA looked good I just really, really thought I had made this all up in my head. I gave myself three cycles from then to give it a good shot. This is Cycle 3. I think it's time to give up on optimism.

My H told me this weekend that he's starting to feel upset about this all which was harder than I thought it was. I was annoyed when he just had no strong feelings (that he was sharing), but now that he's shared I somehow feel even worse.

3 - I haven't done anything. I tried the green tea, pom juice, pineapple core, etc. None of that worked, so I'm not really going to keep trying other things I don't think.

I feel bummed this time around. Just like it's never going to happen. And it's not so much that we'll never have A baby because there are still a lot of options available I think. It's that if it is taking this long to get pregnant with one, I'm starting to feel like we're never going to have more than one and I guess I never imagined I'd only have one. I feel like I'm being a huge baby.

[BNL2]

Feb 25, 2013 22:08:57 GMT -5 lola said:

I feel bummed this time around. Just like it's never going to happen. And it's not so much that we'll never have A baby because there are still a lot of options available I think. It's that if it is taking this long to get pregnant with one, I'm starting to feel like we're never going to have more than one and I guess I never imagined I'd only have one. I feel like I'm being a huge baby.

I feel like this a lot. I always wanted 4 kids and now that dream is long gone. DH and I still talk about life with our kids but I often feel like it's silly and unrealistic to think that way.

[changedname]

Feb 25, 2013 23:22:12 GMT -5 BNL2 said:

Feb 25, 2013 22:08:57 GMT -5 lola said:

I feel bummed this time around. Just like it's never going to happen. And it's not so much that we'll never have A baby because there are still a lot of options available I think. It's that if it is taking this long to get pregnant with one, I'm starting to feel like we're never going to have more than one and I guess I never imagined I'd only have one. I feel like I'm being a huge baby.

I feel like this a lot. I always wanted 4 kids and now that dream is long gone. DH and I still talk about life with our kids but I often feel like it's silly and unrealistic to think that way.

  Agree with both of you. Being unexplained I have always thought it would just happen one month and have been more or less optimistic. Now we are moving to ivf, I am starting to freak out and keep wondering if I will never get pg.  I almost can't believe this is my life if you know what I mean.

[KaraOrNot]

Feb 26, 2013 7:02:26 GMT -5 changedname said:

Feb 25, 2013 23:22:12 GMT -5 BNL2 said:

I feel like this a lot. I always wanted 4 kids and now that dream is long gone. DH and I still talk about life with our kids but I often feel like it's silly and unrealistic to think that way.

  Agree with both of you. Being unexplained I have always thought it would just happen one month and have been more or less optimistic. Now we are moving to ivf, I am starting to freak out and keep wondering if I will never get pg.  I almost can't believe this is my life if you know what I mean.

I feel the same way.  IF we can even get pregnant with one, I don't know that I could go through this again to have another.  I have always wanted 3 kids.  Just another thing to grieve because of IF.  

[aliciar6]

1) Well I finally had a cycle that was UNDER 57 days. This last one was 36 days, but if I charted everything correctly, I only had a 9 day LP. We timed everything perfectly according to the chart and OPK's but alas, no luck. Temping is proving to be a bit of a challenge since I rarely get 4 hours of sleep in a row and do a lot of tossing and turning. Probably explains the huge deviations in my temp.

2) No appointments this week, but I conferred with the OBGYN and they said to schedule a pre-conception visit, so that is 2 weeks from now. 

3) n/a

[mae141]

Feb 26, 2013 7:02:26 GMT -5 changedname said:

Feb 25, 2013 23:22:12 GMT -5 BNL2 said:

I feel like this a lot. I always wanted 4 kids and now that dream is long gone. DH and I still talk about life with our kids but I often feel like it's silly and unrealistic to think that way.

  Agree with both of you. Being unexplained I have always thought it would just happen one month and have been more or less optimistic. Now we are moving to ivf, I am starting to freak out and keep wondering if I will never get pg.  I almost can't believe this is my life if you know what I mean.

I know exactly what you mean. The last time I broke down this is what I was sobbing to DH. It's so hard. 

[Deleted]

Feb 26, 2013 19:12:18 GMT -5 mae141 said:

Feb 26, 2013 7:02:26 GMT -5 changedname said:

  Agree with both of you. Being unexplained I have always thought it would just happen one month and have been more or less optimistic. Now we are moving to ivf, I am starting to freak out and keep wondering if I will never get pg.  I almost can't believe this is my life if you know what I mean.

I know exactly what you mean. The last time I broke down this is what I was sobbing to DH. It's so hard. 

Ditto all this.  We're not unexplained but our options really suck.  IVF with donor sperm, adoption, or no children.  I'd be okay without kids, I'm not sure MH would be.  I have huge reservations about donor sperm, MH is all for donor sperm.  I lean towards adoption, MH is adamantly against it.  Never in a million years did I think this would be my life.  Never in a million years did I see myself faced with marriage counseling to keep this IF shit show from destroying it all. 

[geppiegirl]

I'm pretty new to this journey relatively speaking.

1. Status - tried for two years with no luck / bounced around to different doctors. Issues on both side of the equation from IF perspective. Had first cycle of IUI on 2/16.

2. No appointments. Supposed to test on Saturday I think. Actually kinda dreading it - though feel weird to even say that, but its the truth.

3. No - although other posts have got me thinking that I should look into it.

ETA - Hi everyone!

[discogranny]

Hi Ladies! Hugs to Bronx this week and everyone else who needs them. Big hugs to Bronx and everyone, it seems like we could all use one.

** I am not going to be able to do the check in next week - can anyone take over?** - Let me know if you'd like me to do this and I can post it @icedgems - PS: Your package is in the mail. I kind of got crazy sidetracked with work travels and school and drug my feet on that (sorry!!), but it's en route!

1) What's going on with you? Where are you in the journey? - Still waiting for post m/c AF to rear her ugly head. I am a month out from D&C tomorrow, so I am hopeful she arrives in the next week or so. My boobs started hurting last night, so I feel like that's a decent sign. Then it will be on to cycle 26 of my most excellent TTC journey!

2) Any updates or appointments coming up this week? Nothing here.

3) Do you do acupuncture or any other alternative methods/supplements for ttc? I looked into accu for IVF but then didn't do it. I am seriously, seriously considering it for the FET. Other than that I don't do anything.

[discogranny]

Feb 26, 2013 19:56:43 GMT -5 @bonsoirlune said:

Feb 26, 2013 19:12:18 GMT -5 mae141 said:

I know exactly what you mean. The last time I broke down this is what I was sobbing to DH. It's so hard. 

Ditto all this.  We're not unexplained but our options really suck.  IVF with donor sperm, adoption, or no children.  I'd be okay without kids, I'm not sure MH would be.  I have huge reservations about donor sperm, MH is all for donor sperm.  I lean towards adoption, MH is adamantly against it.  Never in a million years did I think this would be my life.  Never in a million years did I see myself faced with marriage counseling to keep this IF shit show from destroying it all. 

I am right here with you guys. DH and I have an excellent marriage and we have been so supportive of each other during this whole IF thing. After the loss though I feel like stuff is starting to crack it in way that scares me. My DH turns 30 in May and his one goal was to have a child by 30, we started TTC when he was 28, that seemed very doable. We were so excited when IVF worked because I would have been 7 months pregnant at his birthday and he would be well on his way to having that child at 30. When it feel apart on us I think that really hit him. We started TTC when I was 25, I really never thought I would see 28 come to pass and still not be a mother.

I know it's no big help, but the phrase "be kind to yourself" is one I use a lot when I start allowing myself to fall down the rabbit hole of IF suck. I will tell myself that and it will give me enough pause to look at what I am thinking/causing myself anxiety with and stop. Sometimes.

[ilovecandy]

Welcome geppie.

I just got done with af. No appointments and I forgot the third question and am on my phone so I can't see it. I am so done right now. H is all but let's try this and that ( things we can do in our lives that supposedly help). I just told him I can't I need a break. Which makes me feel worse because we only have a few more cycles that we can even try for this year since H will be gone again. I just can't kee doing this and am about ready to just be done. I can't believe after 2 and a half years we still don't even have a pregnancy but we have been diagnosed as unexplained.

[genet313]

1) What's going on with you? Where are you in the journey?   Cycle I don't know, CD 16, maybe 17, I don't care.

2) Any updates or appointments coming up this week?  No.  I just no longer care, really.  I'm kind of getting used to the idea of being child-free, although my DH likes to say he doesn't think that's really the case for us.  He believes wholeheartedly this will work.  DH will probably push me to start the IUI once I get AF, but I really don't like my doctor and I'm not sure my unexplained diagnosis is really right.  I just don't even want to take the energy to actually try to figure it out anymore.

3) Do you do acupuncture or any other alternative methods/supplements for ttc?  I did do acupuncture, yes.  I no longer do, only b/c I switched jobs and the office isn't convenient anymore.  As I've said before, I saw definite impact on my cycle with acu.  Before, I was ovulating CD 18-CD 21.  With, I was ovulating CD 13-16, much more in line with the "typical 28-day" cycle.  I did not get pregnant, but I though that was always a good sign.  I will probably go back to acu if I can get appts. before work.    I also take a bunch of vitamins my acu recommended (though I stopped taking them for a while, felt guilty, and got back on the train again).  Le sigh.

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[sonrisa]

1) First half of my cycle
2) nothing until mid march
3) I want to start acupuncture

[lola]

Feb 28, 2013 8:25:17 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

1) First half of my cycle
2) nothing until mid march
3) I want to start accupuncture

Tell me more about this! I have considered it as well, but I'm slightly skeptical. At the same time, I watched Pete perform acupuncture on Private Practice (so, clearly I'm almost an expert) and the idea of having 5 minutes alone with myself sounds awesome. And slightly terrifying. But mostly awesome.

[sonrisa]

I'm looking into it right now. I'll keep you posted :-)