I feel bad for a friend

[monkeybabe]

I'll preface this by just saying, her sister is, and always has been, a giant bitch (known them nearly 20 years). Her sister just gave birth. My friend lives in Oregon, her sister lives in Southern California. I guess she got really excited and told her sister she can't wait to come down and meet her nephew, to which her sister responded, that she'd have to wait anyways. She's been informed that she has to wait until the baby is at least 3 months old before she can come visit. This is her only sibling and her sister will very likely make it impossible for her to be part of her nephew's life. She thinks of my Zoe and my nephew as her's, but it's just not the same and I hurt for her.

[eav2c]

That's awful. How come?

None of my siblings met C until he was at least 3 months--if not older. It made me really sad. I cannot imagine holding out on a sibling. Is her sister letting anyone else see the baby? Like, grandparents or siblings of the father?

[thedahliharpa]

:-(
That stinks. My girls better be nice to each other when they grow up!

[thedahliharpa]

Ughh stupid emoticon...I forget that typing the sad face equals crying face here...

[monkeybabe]

She lives with her H's parents and, as far as I know, his family is welcome. My friend says her BIL is awesome, but totally whipped and goes along with whatever her sister wants.

[jaime183]

that sucks
some people are very odd when it comes to sheltering a newborn. TETO i guess...
I'm sorry for your friend but at least she has you and can spend time with zoe all the time!

[monkeybabe]

Feb 27, 2013 0:48:41 GMT -5 jaime183 said:

that sucks
some people are very odd when it comes to sheltering a newborn. TETO i guess...
I'm sorry for your friend but at least she has you and can spend time with zoe all the time!

Unfortunately, she lives in Bend, so we don't see each other as much as we'd like. She's planning on coming to Zoe's party though and my sister and nephew should be in town, too. She and my sister were BFFs in HS, so hopefully we can cheer her up.

[eav2c]

But why!?!? It makes no sense. Honestly, I'd probably say something to my sister if she did that. I mean, I understand giving space... but, 3 months?

[dojo]

That's really hurtful, but I guess you just have to respect a new mom's wishes and roll your eyes behind her back.

[JuliaGulia]

That sucks so bad! I would be be so incredibly hurt if my sister did this to me. My sister was the first one at the hospital to see DD. I would be crushed if I didn't get to do the same when she has kids.

[katfco]

Wow. Even if she wanted some time to herself, what a rude way of responding. It sounds like she's taken too much to heart the whole, "I pushed the baby out I get to control everything" line. Do the two of them have bad blood between them? Why do you think she'll make it impossible for your friend to know her nephew?

[kdrake8]

That sucks. Maybe if she took an expensive lasagna, her sis would have to let her in?!

Seriously, though. That's super rude. 3 months?!

[Deleted]

No way in hell my sister could have kept me away. I was there when she gave birth and I see my niece every chance I get even now that she's 15.

[monkeybabe]

Feb 27, 2013 7:51:29 GMT -5 katfco said:

Wow. Even if she wanted some time to herself, what a rude way of responding. It sounds like she's taken too much to heart the whole, "I pushed the baby out I get to control everything" line. Do the two of them have bad blood between them? Why do you think she'll make it impossible for your friend to know her nephew?

She thinks she's better than her family now, because she married into a family with money. Like I said, she's always been a bitch and has just always treated my friend poorly and now she's just worse. I actually started out being friends with the sister and my sister was super good friends with the one that's now both of our friend. I stopped hanging out with her because she would constantly talk down to me and treat me like an idiot. I think she was just my friend because I was willing to spend time in her presence and I'd let her play with my hair.

Anyways, it wouldn't surprise me if she's just trying to separate herself from her lesser family.

[rjamz]

That sucks, your poor friend.

I like kdrake8 idea - bring her expensive lasagna!

[musiclover]

What the F? That is just awful. My sister is a specialsnowflake too so I kinda get it, I REALLY hope my boys have better communication than my sister and I do.....which has been none for the past 4 years. Your poor friend...

[Deleted]

WHAT?!? 3 months? you've got to be kidding me. I can totally see why this would upset her!

[creamsiclechica]

That would devastate me to no end. I was at the hospital all night for my first nephew's birth, and flew up a week after my second one was born. I simply could not imagine being told 3 months. It kills me to be away from mine as much as I am, but we skype and send pictures constantly.

That poor girl, I'm sorry for her, monkeybabe.