Post by fussbucket on May 11, 2012 23:53:27 GMT -5
Just chiming in with another "good luck."
I'm sorry it feels like crap now, of course that's understandable. Your disappointment is very real. But someday, and maybe someday not so far away, you will look back and thank yourself for getting out of this relationship. Something much, much better than this is out there for you.
Post by BettyBookWorm on May 12, 2012 7:51:47 GMT -5
Another good luck to the pile.
Also, if he is on steroids then you need to exit the shared living space ASAP. If you have any pets (you didn't mention it) then take them with you. Find a safe, secure place to be with friends, family-- even the battered women's shelter.
Steroids (like other drugs) can cause a man to go off the handle if used improperly. Roid Rage is nothing to fuck with. Get out. Get safe. NOW.
First thing you need to do is go to bank and withdraw 50% of your savnigs. Call phone company and get your own account. You wont get a lawyer today, but you can start doing these other things.
Good luck. I promise that feeling like crap goes away. I'm going to second the suggestion that you find somewhere else to be if he refuses to be the one to do so. Sharing a living space while going through a divorce won't help the situation, especially when he clearly has some anger issues.
This is a simple divorce situation because you don't own any property or have any children, but I would get a lawyer if you feel like he will make the process difficult or drawn out.
Call a lawyer, pack your bag, take half of the bank account and go. File for divorce and don't look back. Do not give him your new address. Let your lawyer handle all the paper work that he needs to get. You have no ties to him.
You can talk to your phone company about splitting up your phone plan. Break the lease, set up the insurance for you and there you go. Take him off of any all all CC that are in your name.