That sly little jerk made sure his permission slip for the sex health video didn't get signed so he wouldn't have to watch it. He is requesting instead that I find him a book he can read by himself.
Our bodies Ourselves is really intended for everyone. It's the pregnancy and menopause versions he may not appreciate But they do have a teen specific version called Changing Bodies Changing Lives www.ourbodiesourselves.org/publications/cbcl.asp.
Can you get a copy of the video? That way he doesn't "get away" with hiding the permission slip from you. But also his discomfort is addressed by allowing him the option of watching at home without his peers and you are still available for follow up questions.
Our bodies Ourselves is really intended for everyone. It's the pregnancy and menopause versions he may not appreciate But they do have a teen specific version called Changing Bodies Changing Lives www.ourbodiesourselves.org/publications/cbcl.asp.
I don't care if he appreciates it lol. Dude needs to know how girls' bodies work too so he isn't stupid enough to fall for the "but I can't have kids" line when he's in college.
We just gave our son "Its not the Stork" I'm not sure of your son's age, DS is 8 and this seems right at his level.
He's eleven but we live in a low income, predominately black neighborhood which I'm pretty sure means we (the community in general) starts early so I think he needs more information. We do talk to him about it, ftr, but he gets embarrassed easily. Since he's a huge reader, I think it's more important that we talk to him about our feelings on it, about his own behavior and choices and save the more detailed information on the technical workers for books, kwim?
Seriously, changing bodies changing lives is excellent. It will be a good resource for him as he gets older, too.
Cool. I'll go with that.
It's probably about time I got something more in depth for pinky too. She has the American Girl's body book but it's general, how to take care of me knowledge. I anticipate she's likely to start her period in the next 18 months so . . . kill me now.
Post by PinkSquirrel on Feb 28, 2013 14:05:23 GMT -5
If you would like me to send you a copy of OBOS I think I still have a few of the last edition hanging around, but Changing Bodies, Changing Lives is probably the better book for Petey as it's a bit more manageable and isn't solely focused on women's bodies
I forget the other one I recommended yesterday. Wait, found it. My Body, My Self is the one I picked out for myself as a kid and remember being very informative, but I haven't looked at it as an adult.
If you would like me to send you a copy of OBOS I think I still have a few of the last edition hanging around, but Changing Bodies, Changing Lives is probably the better book for Petey as it's a bit more manageable and isn't solely focused on women's bodies
I forget the other one I recommended yesterday. Wait, found it. My Body, My Self is the one I picked out for myself as a kid and remember being very informative, but I haven't looked at it as an adult.
Yeah, I couldn't remember what you said yesterday lolol
Post by PinkSquirrel on Feb 28, 2013 14:11:20 GMT -5
Way to ask for help and then ignore it lol OBOS would be great for pinky to have lying around even if it was a bit much for her to read all at once right now (it's HUGE). Remind me to look for my extras tonight
Post by PinkSquirrel on Feb 28, 2013 14:23:01 GMT -5
Crap, I lied. It was "What's Happening To My Body" not My Body, Myself. They're written by the same person though, so close enough. The covers look so ridiculous now that it threw me off.
just a warning, I'm pretty sure the picture of the dead woman (Geri Santoro) from a botched abortion in Our bodies Ourselves made me rabidly pro-choice and the pictures of STDs made me scared to have sex :-)
This book was written by a friend of mine. She does parent / child classes locally, and this book is a compilation of all the questions kids have asked. It has the boy questions on one side and the girl questions on the other. I like it because I think it's good for the genders to know what the other gender has asked.
We just gave our son "Its not the Stork" I'm not sure of your son's age, DS is 8 and this seems right at his level.
He's eleven but we live in a low income, predominately black neighborhood which I'm pretty sure means we (the community in general) starts early so I think he needs more information. We do talk to him about it, ftr, but he gets embarrassed easily. Since he's a huge reader, I think it's more important that we talk to him about our feelings on it, about his own behavior and choices and save the more detailed information on the technical workers for books, kwim?
Yeah, Its not the Stork is probably too basic/young for an 11 year old. It worked for DS because he was just basically wanting to know where babies came from. More specifically how the daddies got the babies into the mommy's tummies. Telling him "vodka" was not working.
I may have to hedge my recommendation. It looks like the current "updated" edition is from 1998. I'm sure that doesn't affect the quality of the information (I'm pretty sure pubescent bodies and teen sexuality are the same now as they were when I was in high school), but it may have unintentionally hilarious out of date pictures, the way my spanish textbooks did. Any statistics would be inaccurate, too.
just a warning, I'm pretty sure the picture of the dead woman (Geri Santoro) from a botched abortion in Our bodies Ourselves made me rabidly pro-choice and the pictures of STDs made me scared to have sex :-)
Our Bodies Ourselves is not a good book for an 11 year old boy. Is that going to spin off into 15 pages?
I think it's great for girls, though. It's how I learned about my body, sex, sexual emotion, abortion, and pregnancy. My mom had a copy in her bathroom and I read it cover to cover several times between 11 and 13.
I think it made me more respectful of my body and what it was doing. I think it was instrumental in me not having sex until I did it because I really wanted to.
Reading OBOS and Reviving Ophelia when I was that age gave me, I believe, a much better perspective about sex and sexual identity that I would have had otherwise.
just a warning, I'm pretty sure the picture of the dead woman (Geri Santoro) from a botched abortion in Our bodies Ourselves made me rabidly pro-choice and the pictures of STDs made me scared to have sex :-)
We watched Leona's Sister Geri in my history of BC class and I had long conversation with my professor after about seeing that image as a kid and how much it affected me. It's probably what made me pro-choice, too.