Confession time

[themysteriouswife]

I felt like I had a newborn this week.  Allie was up several times a night, sleeping during the day, crying for no reason, needing help to eat and drink, the list goes on.  Her being sick this week made me happier about our choice of no more babies. 

[bugandbibs]

I love my kids, but sometimes being a parent sucks. More often than people are willing to admit.

[gogadgetgo]

Every time Caleb is sick or super whiney I totally question my desire for #2. I'm scared for when this next one comes that I'm not going to be able to handle it.

[gogadgetgo]

Every time Caleb is sick or super whiney I totally question my desire for #2. I'm scared for when this next one comes that I'm not going to be able to handle it.

[bugandbibs]

Mar 3, 2013 20:16:42 GMT -5 gogadgetgo said:

Every time Caleb is sick or super whiney I totally question my desire for #2. I'm scared for when this next one comes that I'm not going to be able to handle it.

We have the worries about adding #3. Some days I don't know if we can do it, and then G will sleep through the night without a peep and we will have a sunny day and spend all day playing and then I think it's doable.

themysteriouswife I didn't realize you guys had fully decided to be done. If you don't mind, what were the factors that made you decide?

[themysteriouswife]

I cannot have any more children. My body isn't cut out for it. We talked about adoption. In the end we decided against it.

[bugandbibs]

Mar 4, 2013 11:38:51 GMT -5 themysteriouswife said:

I cannot have any more children. My body isn't cut out for it. We talked about adoption. In the end we decided against it.

I think this may be where we end up if I continue having problems. DH wouldn't mind adopting again, but I'm leaning towards no. The almost 4 years it took to finalize J's adoption were agognizing and I can't take the stress.

[themysteriouswife]

Mar 4, 2013 11:55:20 GMT -5 bugandbibs said:

Mar 4, 2013 11:38:51 GMT -5 themysteriouswife said:

I cannot have any more children. My body isn't cut out for it. We talked about adoption. In the end we decided against it.

I think this may be where we end up if I continue having problems. DH wouldn't mind adopting again, but I'm leaning towards no. The almost 4 years it took to finalize J's adoption were agognizing and I can't take the stress.

I am an emotional person by nature. After researching and knowing IRL adoption stories, we knew it wasn't going to be an easy process. There is no guarantee of a child in the end, either. We weren't willing to have heartbreak all over again. (There were several other factors we took in consideration)

I have one confirmed blood disorder and one not so confirmed disorder. I also have a heart defect. My last pg took a huge toll on my body and I was only in my second tri when it ended. Full term pg could be dangerous for me and/or baby.

[bugandbibs]

Mar 4, 2013 12:05:27 GMT -5 themysteriouswife said:

Mar 4, 2013 11:55:20 GMT -5 bugandbibs said:

I think this may be where we end up if I continue having problems. DH wouldn't mind adopting again, but I'm leaning towards no. The almost 4 years it took to finalize J's adoption were agognizing and I can't take the stress.

I am an emotional person by nature. After researching and knowing IRL adoption stories, we knew it wasn't going to be an easy process. There is no guarantee of a child in the end, either. We weren't willing to have heartbreak all over again. (There were several other factors we took in consideration)

I have one confirmed blood disorder and one not so confirmed disorder. I also have a heart defect. My last pg took a huge toll on my body and I was only in my second tri when it ended. Full term pg could be dangerous for me and/or baby.

((hugs))

The emotional aspect is huge for me. J's adoption was an unusual situation, and turned out well, but it was still hard. I'm fast headed towards advanced maternal age (Ha!) and 3 losses are wearing on me. Realistically, I don't know how much more I can take.