doing a private spin off board - where things are not moderated and random people can't lurk?
several years ago a group of us who were active on The Knot created a private board where we could post personal info without worrying that random people were lurking and anything could be posted. 10y later, it is still going strong. We have a larger group that the number of regulars who post here - but it could work.
I don't think I'd check yet another board. I'm guessing the people that move to a private board would eventually not post here or not post as often (as happens with all of our moves (knot to nest to bump to gbcn). As much as I love the regulars I also like 'meeting' new people, although most of those come through the other boards and not the LGBT one.
What would the main difference be between the private board and the FB group? Not using real names?
And would it be like the old school yahoo group where everyone got to speak up and share concerns before a new person was added? Or would it be more like the FB group where anyone can add anyone at anytime?
Probably not much different than the FB - but I am not a fan of how that is set up - more or a single question/comment and less of a message board where multiple threads are going on. Just a thought. Perhaps we don't have enough regulars to sustain it - the other board I am on, has about 40 active participants.
Post by bluedaisyus on Mar 5, 2013 13:03:55 GMT -5
I would be. The moderation doesn't bother me, but I'd like a place that was private. There are definitely some things I'd have talked about here and just kept private or shared with a couple of people off board, and things that I would be willing to discuss, just not so much in the open like this without knowing who is (or at least might be) reading.
Yeah, tough call. I do like it here But I 100% don't trust the security of the FB group. FB is the company that accidentally made private messages public, and seeing the topics come up in my feed next to things that are public makes me uneasy - hence my pretty much never starting a thread there.
I would like to know that what I say here with my friends is private. I do like the idea of new people coming aboard, though they don't really at this point. And I guess "new regulars" could still come out of the TB board, since some of "us" are still there, and could invite people to the new private board in the same way that we have brought some people over here.
I think it would be nice to ditch facebook in favor of a private board. Can we do private ones here on ProBoards? Because I like the set up.
Yeah, tough call. I do like it here But I 100% don't trust the security of the FB group. FB is the company that accidentally made private messages public, and seeing the topics come up in my feed next to things that are public makes me uneasy - hence my pretty much never starting a thread there.
I would like to know that what I say here with my friends is private. I do like the idea of new people coming aboard, though they don't really at this point. And I guess "new regulars" could still come out of the TB board, since some of "us" are still there, and could invite people to the new private board in the same way that we have brought some people over here.
I think it would be nice to ditch facebook in favor of a private board. Can we do private ones here on ProBoards? Because I like the set up.
I'm not on the FB group. I like the false sense of anonymity I can maintain here that I wouldn't have there.
LOL at false sense of anonymity, but I'm not on the FB group for the same reason.
And since I'm not on the FB group, I wouldn't mind ditching it for a private PB board. My local area has a private PB board (also a nest spinoff), and it's seamless to move between GBCN and that board, especially on the app. I never thought I'd check two boards, but since they're both PB and it just seems like clicking between two subboards, I do.
Post by rikkiandjulie on Mar 5, 2013 21:49:58 GMT -5
Although I feel like this board is pretty private, it takes a lot to just stumble upon it, I do like the FB group for updates, but not for much else, and I'm annoyed that I don't know the majority on that page. Could we start a new group similar to the yahoo one where we have to ask others permission to join? I liked the exclusivity of this, and how it was maintained.
You could, but who is automatically in? Everyone who already posts here? And then why the need to vote? Because you know everyone will just leave here so you won't have any newbies wanting in.
Post by rikkiandjulie on Mar 5, 2013 22:30:22 GMT -5
Honestly, ill post wherever the majority goes, but I think what it's getting back to is the point a few weeks ago, of having a board for the members that have been around for 5+ years now.
Well in that case even 2brides wouldn't be part of it. I've said plenty of times that people should post wherever they want. However I don't think talk about a board that would basically be about 8 of us should be discussed with everyone. Form a private board all you want, but if you discuss it here and then limit it it's sort of shitty.
And just for the record, I'm not totally against the idea of a truly private outlet. But what needs to be considered is that each of us is going to have a different list of who we trust and who we would want there. So short of taking a vote on each and every member I don't know how you'd get consensus. Know what I mean?
Post by awkwardpenguin on Mar 6, 2013 1:05:29 GMT -5
I'm torn. I really liked the community of the old board, and some of that was having new members and old members and people in between. That said, I definitely am beginning to feel more conscious of how much I've put out there under a name readily tracked back to me, hence the new username/profile. And I do have things I'd probably post if things felt more "private". I agree the Facebook format is not very conductive to multiple ongoing discussions.
Part of wanting a little more privacy is that in the app, all recently posted threads from all boards come up. I know we don't have a ton of lurkers from post read counts, but I still feel weird about people reading our threads just out of curiosity. That said, it's not like I read other board's random threads because reading personal details of strangers isn't that interesting.
For obvious self-interested reasons, I think the board could be "regulars" in the broadest sense. I've only been posting here for 1.5 years.
I definitely agree that there are topics I don't post about (esp since my name isn't totally anonymous, which I often think of changing). Changing this to a private board or moving to a private board could deepen/broaden the conversations. That said, ultimately, I'm on board with whatever the most folks want.
I'll go where everyone else is. I'm also torn because I would *love* privacy, but I also have been on the other side of a board going private and not being part of it (and it sucks and I'm still sad about it 2 years later).
Post by ballandchain on Mar 6, 2013 7:25:05 GMT -5
I like the idea of a private, non-FB board for all the reasons others have listed. My only concern is that it seems like every time there is a board change/new board, the group fractures a little. Ever since this board was created, there have been people who I think we consider "regulars" who post there but not here, and regulars who post here and not there. There are people here who are not in the FB group and people in the FB group who don't post here. The Bump board isn't what it used to be, and I'm not really interested in becoming a regular there again because of that, but there are people I miss who posted there and never migrated here. It makes me a little sad. No one is going to check 5 boards, so everyone picks their favorite "home" board and it's not all the same one.
And I agree with tt that the consensus issue is pretty tricky. Not to mention I think there are more than a few of us (?) that haven't been part of this "community" (whichever board it was on) for 5 years. I started posting on TB board about 19m ago.
Going private only solves the issue of lurkers. I think some people here would still be guarded/annoymous because there are people among us that aren't trusted or really 'known.' If the goal is simply to eliminate lurkers then you'll achieve that but probably not much more in terms of deeper more open conversations.
Post by rikkiandjulie on Mar 6, 2013 9:22:08 GMT -5
Two,
I wasn't saying that a board with like 8 of us was a good idea, I was just trying to figure out if that was what was wanted since it was brought up. After rereading this morning I think people want this group but 100% private....
You didn't offend. And I don't think you are totally wrong about some people wanting a smaller group. I was just trying to point out the mess that comes out when people try to decide who 'qualifies' to be in that smaller group. It's near impossible to do without hurt feelings unless the whole creation of a new board is done off-board. kwim?
Post by rikkiandjulie on Mar 6, 2013 9:48:18 GMT -5
I understand. I don't know how that would happen, and making the cut would be hurtful regardless. Ill post where the masses post. Privacy isn't really a concern for me, but I know it is for others, and ill go where they are comfortable.
I agree with Two that if there is interest in doing this, and limiting membership, we need to organize it off-board. Through email or even personal messages on this site.
Though, I think it's obvious that that would be the way to go. I don't think anyone here has the kind of personality to post "HEY NEW BOARD CREATED!! If you get an email, you're invited, if you don't - you're out!"
I like the idea of a private board. I don't post about my personal life/ relationship simply because I'm worried about lurkers. I don't necessarily trust everyone here but it's not anything I'm concerned about. I'm concerned about a few specific people in my day to day finding this board or the bump. I think talking about a time limit is silly. I've met a good number of people in this board IRL even though I've "only" been posting for 2+ years.