anyone interested in..

[ElsaVonM]

I'm in.

[ssg73]

I will go were ever we go but I can't keep up with multiple boards. I don't really do the facebook one since I just can't keep up. My private preemie board is "public" but you have to join and write an intro to get into the full site. While not fool proof it keeps lurkers out and fakers (yes people fake having preemies).

[ssg73]

oh we also have a posting and response requirement. If you don't participate you are removed. You can always rejoin but you can't be a member and not contribute to the community.

[twotrue]

Mar 6, 2013 6:34:00 GMT -5 ct said:

I don't particularly care - I'll go wherever everyone goes...any by 'everyone', I mean all the folks that post here currently.

This gets said every time I've seen a group debate whether to go private, and without fail someone is left behind. Whether it be because their work blocks the new site format or they just don't want to.  I think it's a good thing to say but in the end, if everyone but me went, would you not go?  Or if everyone could access it except blue (if her work blocked it), would you stay?

I'm not calling you out CT, these are just general questions.  I hope 2brides experience was different but in the handful of public to private transitions I've seen people say this with good intention but then the herd effect takes over and if the majority move people are willing to sacrifice one or two.

[ct]

i didnt really mean that - i was just saying who i would be comfortable having on a private board. there's no way i'm going to check 1000 different places.

mostly my answer is: i dont particularly care.

[twotrue]

Mar 6, 2013 13:06:02 GMT -5 ct said:

i didnt really mean that - i was just saying who i would be comfortable having on a private board. there's no way i'm going to check 1000 different places.

mostly my answer is: i dont particularly care.

lol! Best answer in here

[ElsaVonM]

I'm not sure I see the value in staying here, where people don't post freely b/c of lurkers, in order to preserve the exact make-up of the board we have right now. If we did the private board through Proboards I don't think anyone would be blocked, and if people don't want to come, that's on them. I would participate more often and more openly if this was a private board. Whether anyone desires that, I cannot say :-D

[seattlekari]

I'm in the group of not particularly caring where, just tell me where and I will be there. I don't know if I would fall into the "amount of time" you've been on the board restrictions and there are some other people here who haven't been around as long as I have that I would be sad to not have them included also. I'm not in the FB group because I'm not on FB yet and honestly knowing how much the population has changed over at TB, I'm not sure I'll join there whenever I do get around to FB. I think I'd rather just be friends with the peeps on this board.

[hensmum]

Mar 6, 2013 13:33:01 GMT -5 ElsaVonM said:

I'm not sure I see the value in staying here, where people don't post freely b/c of lurkers, in order to preserve the exact make-up of the board we have right now. If we did the private board through Proboards I don't think anyone would be blocked, and if people don't want to come, that's on them. I would participate more often and more openly if this was a private board. Whether anyone desires that, I cannot say :-D

Ya know what Elsa? You've got a hell of a point right there. There is a core group of us, that really consider one another friends, who value each other's input and truly feel one another's successes and hardships. I have held back big time here, when I really could have used the sounding board of my friends.

We have all moved around a lot (some of us since way back on the knot!), and the group has changed makeup since then. Some people don't post here anymore - but I am still FB friends with them. Some we've never heard from again. If people really want to stay connected, they will. 

It does seem a bit silly to say "we can't move so we don't lose people," when we are going to lose people eventually, no matter what, and really who exactly are the people we are going to lose? (<-- that is a rhetorical question)

Anyway, I think we should probably stop this thread. It's not helping. Those of us interested in pursuing this can talk about it off-board, through various means. 

If people leave, then people leave. If anyone misses someone enough - they'll go looking for them. I hope that doesn't sound callous - I just feel like it's the truth. If we were all "IRL" geographical friends, the makeup of our friend-group would surely evolve and change over time. I kinda feel like that's life.

[mel]

I've been a lazy poster the past few years but mostly because I was always reading the boards on my phone and for the longest time couldn't figure out how to reply. Lately it's because a lot of things have been going on that I haven't felt like making public knowledge. I do however, read faithfully and have ever since we were all on the knot. So I'd like to stick around

[rikkiandjulie]

I don't care, but I hate the idea kf picking and choosing who goes. Cant we just make a group private with the EXACT memebers we have now, vs survivor style? and ill miss you Because if the private group launches the posts will stop here bc the majority will be gone, but the people that weren't invited will be left without the group they thought they were friends with, thus support they thought they had is now gone.


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