WWYD if your H became a woman?

[agnes]

I recently heard about the lead singer of the punk band "Against Me!" coming out as transgender on a morning radio show. The wife gave a short interview over the phone. She has decided to stick by her husband's side.

here's an article: www.cbsnews.com/8301-504763_162-57431225-10391704/tom-gabel-announces-hes-transgender-what-is-gender-dysphoria/

It got me thinking...

[agnes]

I don't think MH would make an attractive woman.

[zeewifeandmama]

Pretty sure I'd stick around....I dunno though, to me its one of those things that I cant say until it was happening.

[agnes]

Zee! glad to see you here.

[BNL2]

We'd have to divorce. I think we could remain friends, but I have no interest in being in a relationship with a woman.

[friskypanda]

I think I'd be ok with it. I mean...I don't think I could do sexy things with her. I'm kinda icked out by vagina so I wouldn't want to go there. Could it be a completely asexual relationship?

[zeewifeandmama]

May 12, 2012 0:23:46 GMT -5 farmvillelover said:

zeesbride?

Yup! Hey ladies I figure I'm not just "Zeesbride" these days...lol

[justjen]

May 12, 2012 0:25:05 GMT -5 BNL2 said:

We'd have to divorce. I think we could remain friends, but I have no interest in being in a relationship with a woman.

Yes. If I wanted to be with a woman, I'd be with a woman.

[LauraMoser]

I couldn't say what I'd do unless I was actually in the situation.

[Balki.Bartokomous]

Sure, I'd stick around. I guess I see this as a change in equipment, not a change in the person, per se.

[starlily]

This happened to an acquaintance of mine. At first his wife stood by him but ultimately they ended up getting divorced.

[Wines Not Whines]

I don't think we could have any sort of sexual relationship, but we could be friends and co-parents.

[jinnifah]

May 12, 2012 5:23:19 GMT -5 Wines Not Whines said:

I don't think we could have any sort of sexual relationship, but we could be friends and co-parents.

Same here. I'm not interested in the female equipment.

[ECB]

May 12, 2012 5:23:19 GMT -5 Wines Not Whines said:

I don't think we could have any sort of sexual relationship, but we could be friends and co-parents.

Exactly.

[megs193]

May 12, 2012 5:23:19 GMT -5 Wines Not Whines said:

I don't think we could have any sort of sexual relationship, but we could be friends and co-parents.

I hope I would be mature enough to maintain a friendship and co-parent well. I would be a little pissed that we had both been living a lie for years.

My friends father decided he was a woman a few years ago. Everyone maintained a relationship with "her" until she said she wanted to try breastfeeding their baby since that was never an experience she got to have.

[womet]

I honestly don't know. While sex is an important part of a marriage, I really love my husband's company. But I'm not sure I could handle the whispering about it, so we'd probably divorce.

[5thofjuly]

I'd stay with him provided all he changed was his physical body. That's not a big deal to me. If he decided to change his personality radically or something, too, we'd have to renegotiate.

[megs0]

I would like to think I could stick it out, but it would be really hard. In public we would be perceived as a lesbian couple. That almost makes it seem like the roles would reverse and I would be pretending I'm something I'm not. Divorcing and staying friends may be the best way for all parties to be happy.

[Deleted]

We would divorce but hopefully remain friends.

[rex]

May 12, 2012 0:19:39 GMT -5 agnes said:

I don't think MH would make an attractive woman.

LOL. Me either.

That being said, I really love my H as a person. So I think while we would need separate bedrooms, I could at least still be his friend/stay married. I just would not be attracted to him at all.

And…I would need therapy. Lots of therapy.

[AllieHound]

My husband would make a hideous woman, and although I don't have a problem with femAle equipment, I would have an issue with the public perception of how damn ugly my wife was.

I don't know how it'd go. If it didn't require a huge change in personality, I'd probably try to make it work. But so many of the things I love about H are so stereotypically male, that I don't know how I'd feel of that changed.

[dr.girlfriend]

May 12, 2012 5:23:19 GMT -5 Wines Not Whines said:

I don't think we could have any sort of sexual relationship, but we could be friends and co-parents.

Yeah. Did anyone see the HBO movie "Normal," with Jessica Lange and Tom Wilkinson. It was really, really good.

[chia]

I'm just lol'ing at the thought of dh as a woman. I really can't get past the picture in my head of dh with a wig on.

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[adlove]

I sort of think, if my husband decided he wanted to become a woman after years together, it would be a sign that HE wanted our marriage to end. I'm all for friendship, but I don't know that our marriage could continue.

[Deleted]

I would try stay with him/her. I love him as a person, not because he is a man. I don't see the need to break up our family.

But of course I don't know for sure until it would actually happen.

[Deleted]

Yeah there would be a divorce. As much as I love my DH I don't want to be with a woman.

[SpicedApplePie]

I dont think there is any way that I could stay, for the reasons listed above.

[Deleted]

If you knew my husband, you'd know there is no way this would EVER happen.

I actually wish my DH was a little more like a woman in some ways. He's very much a guy's guy and that means we have less in common than would be ideal. Maybe if he was a woman he'd take up some interests that we'd share.

I really wouldn't care about people talking or thinking I was a lesbian. I have never dated a woman, but I've always said that you fall in love with a person, not their genitals and I'd be open to being with either sex if I found the right person.

[heightsyankee]

May 12, 2012 1:01:22 GMT -5 LauraMoser said:

I couldn't say what I'd do unless I was actually in the situation.

This.

I can speculate that I might try to stay but I would eventually want to be in a romantic, sexual relationship again. Maybe we would have an open marriage at that point? Who the F knows... But I kind of think, because we have kids, it would be good to make a full transition from married couple to very close friends who have kids in common. This would,I think, be easier to explain to the kids and they wouldn't get that "divorced" feeling which would come with us splitting later on.

[imojoebunny]

It is too hard for me to imagine my DH as a woman. He is 100% guys guy. Some of my male friends, sure, but not DH. He would be a freak as a woman. With his demeanor, looking like a woman would baffle people, me included.