Parenting a toddler questions

[jamer]

So as a first time mom I'm questioning a lot of things I'm doing and if its the right thing. I have a 15 month old daughter who isn't shy and very outgoing and mobile! She doesn't sit still for long at all which I think is normal.

I'm having to go to the doctors office a lot to get blood levels checked and have to bring her with me. I'm exhausted from chasing her around the waiting room. She doesn't listen when I ask her to stay close or not go somewhere (which I assume is normal for this age?). She shakes her head no but will still do it. I don't want to create a scene by reprimanding her, I just keep trying to redirect her. And once we finally get in office she is in to everything.

My question is when do you start disciplining? Am I creating a monster? She is generally a happy girl but can sure throw tantrums when she doesn't get what she wants. I'm not even sure how I can discipline her other than take away something or not giving in to what she wants. Sorry this is so long!

[jennlin]

I wish I knew!! Bjl can be a little bratty/needy sometimes, and I really don't know how to tell her she needs to be quiet and pout instead of screaming. It's way easier to just give in-- I do know though, that you can remove them from the situation- for example, when she fusses, just pick her up and bring her to another room so she doesn't get the attention of being in the original room where she had so many distractions.

[karebear219]

Everything I've heard about this age is about distractions rather than disapline. bkb is just starting to get it but she'll still test our limits to see how far she'll go. We're taking a toddler parenting class at evergreen in may. I'm hoping to k ow more then

[jamer]

Mar 22, 2013 21:33:50 GMT -5 karebear219 said:

Everything I've heard about this age is about distractions rather than disapline. bkb is just starting to get it but she'll still test our limits to see how far she'll go. We're taking a toddler parenting class at evergreen in may. I'm hoping to k ow more then

Oooh, come back and fill us in on what you learn!

[jamer]

Mar 22, 2013 21:38:23 GMT -5 spunbutterfly said:

Some of the women on my birth month group comment about how their toddlers are brats.

FYI? Terrible twos actually start at about 1.5 years old for a lot of babies and go on until the trying threes and then the 'fucking' fours.

Some books that have been recommended from STMs on my fb group have been:

1 2 3 Magic: Effective Discipline: amzn.com/1889140430

Toddler 411: amzn.com/188939243X

I've read through 1 2 3 Magic, and there are some things I like about it and others I don't agree with, but I'm starting to add things into our 'just in case' arsenal now, when it's not a problem yet cause Thor isn't a toddler yet, so it's easier to think about later.

I haven't managed to start Toddler 411 yet.

Thanks for the book Recs. I've started Happiest Toddler on the Block and like some parts although can really feel stupid playing it out but whatever works!

[picksthemusic]

I think that behavior is normal. Do you have an umbrella stroller you could bring her in to keep her contained? Does she have a favorite toy or books to keep her occupied?

M is really rambunctious and gets into stuff, but I notice when I pay her close attention she is pretty good. It's when I let her do stuff on her own that she gets into trouble.

[jamer]

Mar 22, 2013 23:03:29 GMT -5 picksthemusic said:

I think that behavior is normal. Do you have an umbrella stroller you could bring her in to keep her contained? Does she have a favorite toy or books to keep her occupied?

M is really rambunctious and gets into stuff, but I notice when I pay her close attention she is pretty good. It's when I let her do stuff on her own that she gets into trouble.

I need an umbrella stroller, only have the bob and too big to bring in. She loves books but doesn't entertain her enough in a new environment. I tried cookies and everything

[dana86]

With M it took a mix of distracting, focusing on her and just constantly repeating actions until she got it. I had to figure out for myself what was a good median for us, what I was going to let go and what meant most for me to react to.