Horomones and Husbands

[ashleyp728]

Unfortunately I can't help much here. I do agree, though. My H is the same way, he doesn't really seem to react as much to the baby as I expected, but I have heard that men don't really get super excited until we are heading to L&D! Hopefully your H will get a little more excited soon, I know how frustrating it can be to want to get things planned and on the same page but not have their understanding.

[jamer]

Spunbutterfly I can relate to a lot of what you have said. You really captured the changes well and hopefully being warned ahead of time makes it easier for some of you. My husband does a ton and I know I'm lucky but sometimes it's hard and seems unfair. I feel myself on weekends asking permission to do things while he watches the baby...why do I do this? I'm working on telling him instead of asking...it's his baby too!

[dana86]

Spund hit some good points and I can agree with them. For us H wasnt really as into things as I had hoped while pregnant. When the kicking began I thought he would be more excited and he didn't seem phased. When we found out what we were having- nothing. When it came time to do M's room, I ended up painting, putting the crib together and refinishing an old dresser. He did go out and do the final shopping trip with me for last things we needed but it wasnt until he actually held M and all this prep became a living thing in his arms that he got more involved.

[jennlin]

ditto spun.....sorry. it drives me insane to the point of laughing when i tell people how much time my h took off work when bjl was born. (she was born wednesday, he took half day on friday, half day on monday, half day on tuesday, and went back full time on wednesday). and when he went back to work, he still went out after work for HH with friends, basketball games (he joined the league that started in january, that i told him not to)....his life never changed one bit.

even when he gets home, he does *his* stuff. i watch bjl until i need his help (while cooking a crucial part of the meal)....he watches bjl probably 10 minutes a day.

it's just men. sorry.

[jennlin]

although, when i hear about @legalbritt 's husband, i get extremely envious. she's got a keeper for sure.

[jennlin]

Mar 23, 2013 9:30:38 GMT -5 spunbutterfly said:

Mar 22, 2013 23:03:07 GMT -5 jamer said:

Spunbutterfly I can relate to a lot of what you have said. You really captured the changes well and hopefully being warned ahead of time makes it easier for some of you. My husband does a ton and I know I'm lucky but sometimes it's hard and seems unfair. I feel myself on weekends asking permission to do things while he watches the baby...why do I do this? I'm working on telling him instead of asking...it's his baby too!

This is crazy dumb, but I realized a while ago, I was asking my husband to 'do me a favor' by watching the baby while I go poop. TMI? Maybe. ;p But... the point is, I realized I shouldn't have to ask a /favor/ for him to watch his own child. Maybe it's my own issue to work through, but I get the feeling a lot of other moms have done/do the same thing.

yup. common occurrence in the jennlin house.

[picksthemusic]

I have to say that I'm one of the luckier ones. J is an amazing father who loves to take care of and play with M. He changes diapers, bathes, feeds... He's great. And she thinks the sun rises and sets with him.

[sarack]

h seriously has no sympathy for me at all and seems more overwhelmed than excited about our babies. he normally doesn't really show his excitement about anything anyway, but all this baby talk is making him crazy. it makes me feel like he isn't excited, but I know he is.