If one of you ever posts a pic of my kid on here or anywhere

[sonrisa]

else in internet land, I'll hunt you down. I don't care if you crop it or later delete. 

Just a friendly PSA 

[Deleted]

FOR REAL. i don't care if it's your niece/nephew/cousin/the kid you babysit/your next door neighbor/bff's child/younger sibling. under 18, no way jose.

it's weird, yo. i KNOW that many of you will read this and think "omg, what a stick up the ass pearl clutcher." I OWN IT, BABY. it's a metal rod and my pearls are 1920's style 3 strand ropes down to my knees.

[AlpineSlide]

I don't blame you one bit. Is this a S/O of another post??? Just wondering what brought it about.

[psychmom]

Yes! Unless my kid is missing and I beg you to spread the word, there will be blood.

[cereal K]

i get that. it's my kid. i can put her pictures up if i want to, but SOMEONE ELSE cannot.

my SIL is the worst for this. she likes to put pics of my kid on her facebook page. i'm not okay with it. H thinks i'm being crazy, but i finally had the opportunity to make a comment last fall and it's essentially stopped. i get that she loves my kid, but still. you make the baby, you make the rules.

[goaskalice]

I never post pictures of my friend's or family's kids, but I see it happen all the time on Facebook. I'm not a mom yet, so this is likely to change, but I don't see myself minding too much with my own kids. Maybe it's because I'm out in the Internet world so much with my job that I just don't see avoiding it.

But I completely understand that I'm in the minority.

[Deleted]

I'm a fan of my grade school on Facebook, and constantly see tons of kid pictures from pre-K to 8th grade. I wonder how they are allowed to do this...

[sonrisa]

Mar 23, 2013 14:10:24 GMT -5 goaskalice said:

But I completely understand that I'm in the minority.

I'm in the minority too, but the extra paranoid minority. (DH has a pedophile client who has graphic rescue fantasies about "saving" DH's coworker and her kids from their husband/father. I'm not interested in becoming the next family that needs "rescuing." I don't need photos out there making us easier to recognize.)

[rex]

It always bothers me when people do this. It's not your kid, so you don't get to put their face on blast.

My SIL gave us permission when my niece was a baby to put up pictures of her on Instagram/Facebook. Even with this permission I almost never do it.

[goaskalice]

Mar 23, 2013 14:24:25 GMT -5 sonrisa said:

Mar 23, 2013 14:10:24 GMT -5 goaskalice said:

But I completely understand that I'm in the minority.

I'm in the minority too, but the extra paranoid minority. (DH has a pedophile client who stalked his coworkers and had rescue fantasies about "saving" her and her kids from their husband/father. I'm not interested in becoming the next family that needs "rescuing." I don't need photos out there making us easier to recognize.)

And that would definitely make me change my mind! 

[muffin0]

Mar 23, 2013 14:27:09 GMT -5 nicbreeful said:

Wait, what'd I miss?

I posted a cropped picture of my cousins kid. It was deleted, all you could see was the tip of his chin and the fact that he wasn't properly buckled in a carseat.

[muffin0]

Mar 23, 2013 13:55:05 GMT -5 cville said:

FOR REAL. i don't care if it's your niece/nephew/cousin/the kid you babysit/your next door neighbor/bff's child/younger sibling. under 18, no way jose.

it's weird, yo. i KNOW that many of you will read this and think "omg, what a stick up the ass pearl clutcher." I OWN IT, BABY. it's a metal rod and my pearls are 1920's style 3 strand ropes down to my knees.

You are one of my favs here, and I'm not trying to throw you under the bus but you posted a picture of L with another little girl a while ago on a post for me showing the birthday party dresses that you made. You blacked out the girls face, but that is no different then me cropping out everything but the seatbelt and coat.

[tulip]

I told H to stop giving crazy MIL pics of DD after she told me she was sending them to the men she was dating. I don't "know" these guys, I was very pissed over this. Why the heck she felt the need to email them to these guys I will never know.

I wear my pearls very proud.

[Deleted]

My sister almost always "shares" pictures of L that I post on FB. It definitely irritates me a little. I don't say anything because I know she loves her and is proud of her niece, but I just don't know all of her FB friends, so it weirds me out.

And I don't really post pics of L on here, because I remember the pedo on CE&P- it doesn't seem like many other people do.

[Deleted]

Mar 23, 2013 17:31:52 GMT -5 muffin0 said:

Mar 23, 2013 13:55:05 GMT -5 cville said:

FOR REAL. i don't care if it's your niece/nephew/cousin/the kid you babysit/your next door neighbor/bff's child/younger sibling. under 18, no way jose.

it's weird, yo. i KNOW that many of you will read this and think "omg, what a stick up the ass pearl clutcher." I OWN IT, BABY. it's a metal rod and my pearls are 1920's style 3 strand ropes down to my knees.

You are one of my favs here, and I'm not trying to throw you under the bus but you posted a picture of L with another little girl a while ago on a post for me showing the birthday party dresses that you made. You blacked out the girls face, but that is no different then me cropping out everything but the seatbelt and coat.

well, considering that you remember that almost a year later even though i deleted the picture, i'll be sure not to do so again in the future and consider it a lesson learned.

[Jalapeñomel]

Where did this come from? Did someone do this?

[sonrisa]

Mar 23, 2013 17:40:48 GMT -5 @jezebel said:

And I don't really post pics of L on here, because I remember the pedo on CE&P- it doesn't seem like many other people do.

Hell yes, I do. 

(muffin0: I don't think a chin + puffy coat is going to get pedophiles all hot and bothered. I just have a very strong "no, no, no, no, no" reflex on this issue.)

[lola]

Mar 23, 2013 18:01:16 GMT -5 Jalapeñomel said:

Where did this come from? Did someone do this?

Muffin posted yesterday about her cousin who did not buckle her baby into her/his car seat the right way. Then to prove her point, despite a number of people telling her she did the right thing to email her cousin and her cousin's mother about the right way to buckle a baby in, she posted a picture of said poorly buckled in baby. She deleted the picture. But still.

[dizzydee]

Mar 23, 2013 17:54:51 GMT -5 cville said:

Mar 23, 2013 17:31:52 GMT -5 muffin0 said:

You are one of my favs here, and I'm not trying to throw you under the bus but you posted a picture of L with another little girl a while ago on a post for me showing the birthday party dresses that you made. You blacked out the girls face, but that is no different then me cropping out everything but the seatbelt and coat.

well, considering that you remember that almost a year later even though i deleted the picture, i'll be sure not to do so again in the future and consider it a lesson learned.

I also enjoy you, but this happened a couple weeks ago, because I remember it too.

Also wasn't the kids head cropped out of the picture?  If it showed the babies face, then yes she shouldn't have done it. The picture I saw showed nothing distinguishable.  I don't get what is the big deal?

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Mar 23, 2013 18:16:49 GMT -5 dizzydee said:

Mar 23, 2013 17:54:51 GMT -5 cville said:

well, considering that you remember that almost a year later even though i deleted the picture, i'll be sure not to do so again in the future and consider it a lesson learned.

I also enjoy you, but this happened a couple weeks ago, because I remember it too.

Also wasn't the kids head cropped out of the picture?  If it showed the babies face, then yes she shouldn't have done it. The picture I saw showed nothing distinguishable.  I don't get what is the big deal?

i assure you that it wasn't a couple weeks ago.  because i too remember it.  because i was uncomfortable, thought that a quick, redacted post for the benefit of people asking questions about a dress pattern was okay (i was wrong), and because i remember specifically choosing a different picture than the one my friend gave me permission to post on facebook even though it didn't show the dresses as well so that weird google photos search function couldn't match them.

like i said, lesson learned.  i'm sorry i did it, and i won't do it again.


ETA:  and, fwiw, i don't feel as strongly about cropped photos as does sonrisa.  i posted that before i saw anything from muffin stating that her photo was cropped, and i stand by my opinion as stated here and by my acceptance of culpability and blame for my former mistake.

[lilafowler]

Oh FFS.

[lilafowler]

Mar 23, 2013 18:22:53 GMT -5 nuggetbrain said:

Yeah, so I have posted a picture of my nephew on FB with H playing on my tablet. I was unaware this was wrong. My sister liked it so I'm assuming everything is kosher.

I guess it depends?  I post pics of Ellie and my niece on Facebook all the time and my bro and sil do the same...we never had a discussion about it because we're, ummm, family and all.  Different strokes for different folks though.

[muffin0]

Mar 23, 2013 17:54:51 GMT -5 cville said:

Mar 23, 2013 17:31:52 GMT -5 muffin0 said:

You are one of my favs here, and I'm not trying to throw you under the bus but you posted a picture of L with another little girl a while ago on a post for me showing the birthday party dresses that you made. You blacked out the girls face, but that is no different then me cropping out everything but the seatbelt and coat.

well, considering that you remember that almost a year later even though i deleted the picture, i'll be sure not to do so again in the future and consider it a lesson learned.

A year later? I think it was like a month or two ago. (and it's not like I think about that picture daily. I honestly forgot until I was posting in response to nicbreeful.)

[Jalapeñomel]

Thank you lola!

[muffin0]

I'm honestly not trying to debate (because duh you're a lawyer and you will kick my ass) and like I said I wasn't trying to throw you under the bus, I didn't think your picture was a big deal, just like I don't think what I posted was a big deal.

The fact that I even REMEMBERED that post is some sort of accomplishment because I don't remember posts from last week usually.

[sonrisa]

Like I said, this is a hot button issue for me. That doesn't mean it has to be for anyone else. I didn't see the photo, but I'm paranoid about this stuff. This isn't a big enough community for me to risk it. DH has some really unstable patients. I'd rather none know I or my child exist. I can either post nothing at all on the internet at all, or just do my darnedest to avoid photos and identifying info. Let's just pretend my kid is a gosling.

[sonrisa]

Just conversation :-) If I thought any of you actually were a pedophile stalker patient of DH's I'd be out of here before you could blink.

ETA for Lucy Honeychurch: Hell, I just started a thread on comma splices.  Clearly I'm just posting to see myself talk.

[lilafowler]

You have a kid Sonrisa?



Ha!

[sonrisa]

Mar 23, 2013 18:48:27 GMT -5 lilafowler said:

You have a kid Sonrisa?



Ha!

It's a huge ML secret ;-)