It's a good thing. We've been waiting for this for about 5 years. She was no longer functional. She didn't know what was going on around her. She couldn't idenfity even herself in photos. She wasn't really living. She was a shell.
Post by partiallysunny on Mar 25, 2013 9:19:44 GMT -5
I'm so sorry, muddled. It's okay to cry, even if the death was expected. I knew my grandmother was very sick when she died. I knew it was going to happen soon. I also knew she wanted to die. I still cried my eyes out for days. You still need to mourn, no matter the circumstances.
Post by captainmel on Mar 25, 2013 10:12:31 GMT -5
Muddled, I am so sorry. Dimensia is so hard to deal with. I think the mourning process for things like this is just as hard even when you know it is coming. You are not only mourning the immediate loss of your Grandmother but you are mourning the loss of the person she was before the disease took her away from you.
It is ok to cry and it is ok to hurt. It would be weird if you didn't feel that way.
Post by fussbucket on Mar 25, 2013 13:04:02 GMT -5
I'm so sorry muddled. Even if she was not well, it's still understandable to cry at the thought of a world without her in it. It's a change and an adjustment and one you're free to feel sad about no matter what. I'm sure there were a lot of emotions pent up during her period of decline that are now all coming out at once. It's normal and understandable.
Muddled, that position of being in limbo can be very emotionally taxing. It's like you think everything might change at any minute, and yet the uncertainty stretches for so long that you're simultaneously over-prepared and under-prepared.
Muddled, that position of being in limbo can be very emotionally taxing. It's like you think everything might change at any minute, and yet the uncertainty stretches for so long that you're simultaneously over-prepared and under-prepared.
This is true.
My mom is so calm. I don't know how. In some ways I am sure a weight has been lifted for them.
I feel like hormones must be playing a role here. Yes, that's it. It's all hormones!
Dear Muddled. I am sorry. You loved your grandmother. It's OK to cry. It's OK not to cry. It's OK to cry at the most inopportune moments!
I lost my mom last month at 91. I didn't cry when she died. (It was a blessing, she was suffering.) But, when I went to CVS a couple days after she died, I started crying, because I had spent so much time there getting things for her. I automatically thought "what do I need to get for mom?" and realized she wasn't part of my life anymore, I broke down.
Post by starrieskies on Mar 26, 2013 11:41:55 GMT -5
I'm WAY late to this, but I just wanted to say that I am so sorry for your loss... And as others have said, don't worry about WHY you are crying. You need to cry, and that's ok. You're dealing with a loss, and everyone does that differently. If you need to cry, then cry. If you need to drink wine, drink wine. Do what you need to do to grieve.