Oh Lord. I met him online- he messaged me first. He's 26, so a little young, but whatever. His pictures looked fine, he seemed to have his shit together, he was very nice in his emails and texts.
I show up last night- dude looks to be about 16. I'm not even kidding. I'll be 30 in a few weeks. I look like I'm about 30. I was embarrassed sitting there with him because he looks SO much younger than me. He was also very shy and quiet. Nice enough, but I was just uncomfortable the whole time.
I didn't say anything about seeing each other again, and neither did he, so I was hoping I just wouldn't hear from him again. But he just texted me and said he'd like to see me again. Ugh.
I'd give it one more try, but don't go against your gut feeling if the idea of meeting him again doesn't appeal to you. It's okay. If that's the case then I'd text him back with the "no spark" message.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
I'd give it one more chance. True story:I did not want to see my FI a second time. I didn't feel any sparks the first time. I went because he was nice and my sister set us up and I didn't want to disappoint her. Second date I fell head over heels.
my husband is younger and i wrote him off into the "just friends" category when we first met. that lasted about a month until i jumped him (sorta, i pretty much yelled at him).
anyway, the main difference is that he didn't LOOK 16, so there was no initial awkwardness on that front. and also that he had a girlfriend so we were just friends.
hmmm...my response is slowly becoming pointless.
WAIT! i have it. if you are writing him off because you think he IS too young, then so be it. but if you otherwise liked him and thought he was hot and its just the young look, i say give it another shot.
maybe one more chance? I dunno, I can understand being shy on the first date so maybe if you guys communicate more before scheduling something that would ease it a bit? is he cute?