Personality Warmth Poll

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You don't need to "get to know" a person to know that person is a warm person.

Agree or disagree?

[Kore]

Agree.

[Deleted]

Agree. Warm is a first impression kind of quality.

[annyong]

Agree!

[EmilieMadison]

Agree, with the caveat that this only holds true for IRL interaction, and not online IMO.

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This poll was inspired by a lunch conversation during which two co-workers tried to convince three other co-workers and me that a certain woman whom we dislike is "warm" when you "get to know her."

Wrong. If you have to "get to know her" to get to her nice part, she's not "warm."

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Mar 29, 2013 15:19:56 GMT -5 @scottydeux said:

Usually, I'd say 'yes', but there are the shy ones that need to be pulled out of their shell. They can have a lot of warmth.

Not this woman!  She is mean!  LOLOLOLOLOLOL.

[pooh8402]

disagree. many people think I'm a rude cold bitch when they first meet me. then they find out that I am deaf and initially shy, and thus, do not ignore people on purpose.

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is that not the textbook definition of what makes someone warm? they are always and naturally welcoming to strangers?

[Deleted]

i think people are conflating "warm" with "not an asshole" or "nice" or "lovely."

i mean, there are warm assholes (ew!) and reserved lovely people.

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Mar 29, 2013 15:25:09 GMT -5 pooh8402 said:

disagree. many people think I'm a rude cold bitch when they first meet me. then they find out that I am deaf and initially shy, and thus, do not ignore people on purpose.

People don't think "warm" people are rude, cold bitches.

This is not to say you aren't a nice, wonderful person.  You probably are.

But you likely aren't "warm" to me.

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Mar 29, 2013 15:29:53 GMT -5 @scottydeux said:

If someone is nasty, they're not warm, then, obviously. You need to tell awesome shoe coworker to trip this trife with her sassy heel.

LOL.  She really should.

Funny you should mention Awesome Shoe Co-Worker because this whole "warmth" debate started when somebody told me that Unwarm Girl was saying bad things about Awesome Shoe Co-Worker, and I was like, "WHAT?  I WILL CUT HER!!!"

And then the Unwarm Girl defenders told me that Unwarm Girl was "warm" if you got to know her, and the rest of us called bullshit.

I love lunch.

[ElizabethBennet]

This makes me nervous lol. I consider myself a pretty warm and caring person but I am very shy when I first meet people and I'm afraid that doesn't come across.

[annyong]

Mar 29, 2013 15:24:25 GMT -5 kevin arnold said:

Mar 29, 2013 15:19:56 GMT -5 @scottydeux said:

Usually, I'd say 'yes', but there are the shy ones that need to be pulled out of their shell. They can have a lot of warmth.

I agree with this, and answered no to the poll.  I'm actually quite reserved and cool when you first meet me.  Not exactly icy, but I'm not all high-fiving your vagina on our first meeting.  But I think I have a very warm personality.  You just may not see that right away.

Lies!

[Jermys]

When someone adds the caveat "once you get to know them", I always translate it as "They're a complete asshole, but you'll get used to it."

[joshlyman]

Agree.

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I think I'm generally a "when you get to know her" type and I don't consider myself warm either way.  ETA I should add b/c I'm shy and guarded, not b/c I'm an ass like Jermys will now think :-P

I'm not a heinous bitch, I am fun and nice and everything, but warm would not be an adjective I would use to describe myself.

So I said Agree. You shouldn't have to get to know someone to get the warmth.

[Jermys]

Mar 29, 2013 16:17:11 GMT -5 ninjabridemom said:

I think I'm generally a "when you get to know her" type and I don't consider myself warm either way.  ETA I should add b/c I'm shy and guarded, not b/c I'm an ass like Jermys will now think :-P

I'm not a heinous bitch, I am fun and nice and everything, but warm would not be an adjective I would use to describe myself.

So I said Agree. You shouldn't have to get to know someone to get the warmth.

ninjabridemom, I'm not particularly warm either  I feel like I'm nice and generally kind and pleasant to be around, but warm isn't a word I would use to describe myself.  I would use warm for someone like Paula Deen or Rosie O'Donnell I think.  I'm more like...shit, I can't even think of someone I'm like.  Someone who comes off cold but you still like them?  That sounds bad.

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Mar 29, 2013 16:17:11 GMT -5 ninjabridemom said:

I think I'm generally a "when you get to know her" type and I don't consider myself warm either way.  ETA I should add b/c I'm shy and guarded, not b/c I'm an ass like Jermys will now think :-P

I'm not a heinous bitch, I am fun and nice and everything, but warm would not be an adjective I would use to describe myself.

So I said Agree. You shouldn't have to get to know someone to get the warmth.

Untrue, not warm people don't vault over to the  neighbors roof to retrieve another persons phone!

[dukesilver]

Mar 29, 2013 16:35:43 GMT -5 TR said:

Mar 29, 2013 15:33:58 GMT -5 ElizabethBennet said:

This makes me nervous lol. I consider myself a pretty warm and caring person but I am very shy when I first meet people and I'm afraid that doesn't come across.

Me too. I have a big problem with feeling inferior and assuming that other people don't want to know me/hang out/be my friend bc they're cooler than I am. So I don't put forth a lot of effort at first because I don't want to appear over eager and pathetic.

This is pretty much me exactly.  Now I'll be worried that people think I'm an asshole too .

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I am happily overeager and perhaps pathetic! 

[rex]

This worries me too because I am shy & introverted.

However, most people describe me as "sweet" and "warm" and "friendly." But those are all people that know me. I have no idea what a first impression would think of me but I doubt it would be those things because I am so shy and prefer not to talk to strangers (lol). It takes me a couple times of meeting you to really be myself because I am generally so nervous at first.

[Deleted]

Oh, but I hate talking to strangers (like on a plane or while in line or stuff like that).

[Deleted]

Disagree. I'm friendly but skeptical of new people, definitely not warm. I am a generally warm person w family and friends.

[glassofsyrah]

Agree.

[Deleted]

Aww thanks!

Jeremys i think we're alike in that way, but you're more direct than me. It's my new England breeding lol.

[papie]

My mom is one of those warm people and it is definitely instantaneous. She is annoying once you get to know her, lol. I think I am pretty warm too and give that as a first impression. DH is awesome and funny and loving and wonderful, but nobody would ever describe him as warm.

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Mar 29, 2013 17:44:30 GMT -5 papie said:

My mom is one of those warm people and it is definitely instantaneous. She is annoying once you get to know her, lol. I think I am pretty warm too and give that as a first impression. DH is awesome and funny and loving and wonderful, but nobody would ever describe him as warm.

WHO THE FUCK IS PAPIE?!?!?

[wannabe]

Huh. Now I wonder if I'm considered warm or a boring ass bitch. When I'm in a situation with people I don't know I tend to stay quiet...ish.

[ElizabethBennet]

We just need to have a GTG with all the shy people so we can stare awkwardly at each other till we get a few drinks in us.