Did you register

[mamasaurus]

We registered.

We had been using my thrift shop plates and cutlery mixed in with random stuff from Ikea we would get when something broke. I don't think anybody who had eaten at my place wondered why we wanted new stuff!

[eb777888]

Yes and I felt weird about it. I didn't want to register at all, I didn't even want gifts. My friends were all "but people are going to buy you things anyway so blah blah blah." I ended up registering and got nice, brand new towels, new lamps, pots and pans, etc. I pretty much upgraded the things that needed to be upgraded.

But yeah, I get your FI.

[eb777888]

Mar 30, 2013 18:06:50 GMT -5 sent said:

I side eye the people who DON'T register because then it feels like a money grab to me.  

I think this is a little unfair and definitely not true for everybody. Not registering doesn't mean you have to give someone cash. If I was that worried about it, I'd pick up something with a gift receipt and call it a day.

The funny thing is, I usually give money for weddings whether they are registered or not. It seems easier for everyone involved.

[Deleted]

Yes of course we did. We weren't living together officially until after we were engaged if that makes any difference. I didn't want to register for china but my mother made me. Apparently the stuff I registered for was too expensive though because no one got any of it so I took it all off between the shower and the wedding. I liked it but it's a relief since I have no place to store it at the moment. People didn't get any of our flatware either, which makes me sad because ours is crappy. My sister thinks that was too expensive too. Who knows.

[Deleted]

Yep!

[mellimel19]

We did. We upgraded our cookware, some of our appliances and registered for some matching dishes.

[sparkythelawyer]

We totally registered, and since we just had our second shower last week (I live in IL, most of my family is on the east coast, so there was an IL shower and a NY shower), we look like a Bed Bath and Beyond Warehouse.  Register!

I will say I have never felt so gluttonous in my life as when I was registering.  Its all, "Yes, people should buy me this, and this, and this, and holy shit that platter costs HOW MUCH?".  But, it was also a chance for us to do things like, swap out the crappy cracked plates we have for new ones, and sort of "upgrade" what we have.  Which also sounds gluttonous and pretentious as hell, but we are very grateful for what we've gotten (and I'm fucking baller with thank you notes, so that helps assague my guilt!)

[partiallysunny]

Yes.

[fuckyourcouch]

yes

[Yankees21]

We did, we got married the summer after graduating college so our stuff was hand-me-downs or really cheap. I really doubt anyone would side-eye this!

[katie80]

Lol, my H was convinced we didn't need to register because "I already have towels." No, dude. You have A towel. We were also 22, didn't live together, and had some extremely crappy stuff  

That said, I don't think it would even occur to me to judge a couple in your situation for having a registry! Pick out some nice things!