It totally does. Are you sahmom-ing or just on mat leave? I was just telling Dh the other day how, while I enjoyed her, I was still desperate for adult faces. I feel less desperate for it now, though I still enjoy adult time or out w friends w kids. Now that sea more interactive, mobile, making decisions, playing jokes, etc, its more fun. Though some days still drag. And I don't have to spend every second watching her, even if she's playing with toys. I don't get much else done because she "helps" so much, but I feel less like "omggggggggg when does Dh get home??" (And he worked til 4 am, woke up around noon and was back to work by 1 or 2pm most days when she was newborn. I thought I'd go nuts some days esp when I wanted to just wake him up.). This 1.5 year time seems especially fun though other stages were as well.
Just home for 3 months mat leave, so I'm sure I will change my mind when it is time to go back to work lol.
I think once there is a little more of a predictable schedule it might be better?
Yeah- esp If your Dh has predictable schedule. You look forward to adult return time!! Haha. I didnt feel like I was ready to commit to making it to any baby groups til she was about 4 months old. But... I did have to bf and then pump every 2.5 hours at first, and then every 4 hrs pump later. It made it so hard to time anything so it might be easier earlier than what I felt like I could handle. I'd take her to our workplace to visit Dh (we own/it's not a formal place) and the walk to it was easy/nice. I'd take her to the river walk or park nearby. (For myself, not her haha). Honestly, life revolved a lot around boob and pump which prob depressed me a little more. Libraries are good. Art museums are great. Do you have a baby carrier you feel comfy using?
My spring cleaning fever is hitting a high point. I pass this house every morning and I want to knock on their door and tell them to clean all the random branches from their rooftop because it makes their otherwise very nice home look really dirty and messy.
I think it's a great state. I grew up in gr and while I also enjoy where I live now, I was back there for the weekend and am always blown away by how absolutely polite most people are! The grocery store by my parents' home doesn't have cart corrals- they still take your groceries to the car for you. Not all areas are the same, but it's nice. And lots of art activities.
I love a ton about detroit, too. Check out a recent Forbes article and prob crains detroit. There is a huge tech boom going on in detroit. Many, you could live in a downtown apt and walk to work if that's what you desire. That's what we did for a decade and loved it. We live in a house now and while there Are perks, I miss my downtown life a lot.
I keep telling H that I will eventually end up back in Detroit. It gets such a bad rep, but if you're right downtown, it really is such a vibrant and fun place.
Michigan is great... as long as you stay around the edges. Once you venture into the center of the state, there's nothing but cows.
Just home for 3 months mat leave, so I'm sure I will change my mind when it is time to go back to work lol.
I think once there is a little more of a predictable schedule it might be better?
Yeah- esp If your Dh has predictable schedule. You look forward to adult return time!! Haha. I didnt feel like I was ready to commit to making it to any baby groups til she was about 4 months old. But... I did have to bf and then pump every 2.5 hours at first, and then every 4 hrs pump later. It made it so hard to time anything so it might be easier earlier than what I felt like I could handle. I'd take her to our workplace to visit Dh (we own/it's not a formal place) and the walk to it was easy/nice. I'd take her to the river walk or park nearby. (For myself, not her haha). Honestly, life revolved a lot around boob and pump which prob depressed me a little more. Libraries are good. Art museums are great. Do you have a baby carrier you feel comfy using?
I haven't tried the Moby yet because I was afraid to tie it near my incision, and I think she is still kind of small for the Ergo insert. I'm sure I'll start to get the hang of it:) It is literally my second day on my own, so this is all a bit premature haha
I think it's a great state. I grew up in gr and while I also enjoy where I live now, I was back there for the weekend and am always blown away by how absolutely polite most people are! The grocery store by my parents' home doesn't have cart corrals- they still take your groceries to the car for you. Not all areas are the same, but it's nice. And lots of art activities.
I love a ton about detroit, too. Check out a recent Forbes article and prob crains detroit. There is a huge tech boom going on in detroit. Many, you could live in a downtown apt and walk to work if that's what you desire. That's what we did for a decade and loved it. We live in a house now and while there Are perks, I miss my downtown life a lot.
I keep telling H that I will eventually end up back in Detroit. It gets such a bad rep, but if you're right downtown, it really is such a vibrant and fun place.
Michigan is great... as long as you stay around the edges. Once you venture into the center of the state, there's nothing but cows.
DH read about the tech boom about a year ago and started talking about moving since he is IT. He is looking around Detroit/Ann Arbor but yesterday applied for some in Grand Rapids. I'm not a city person so living downtown anywhere doesn't appeal to me but if he gets a job I'm going to need help figuring out where to live and stuff. Hopefully the ML Michiganders can help me (Karma this means you!)
I'm frustrated with life in general today. There is not even enough space here to type it all out. I just want to run away.
LOL, me too. I figure people are probably sick to death of me bitching about my issues right now, so .gifs seemed like a better option. I can't stop laughing at that lady in pj's banging the trays. I love her.
She is my favorite too! I keep going back to watch it over and over again. LOL
Gifs are always fun but FWIW I am not sick of the bitching. I don't always post in the randoms but read them almost daily and I think of you a lot because I know you've been having a rough time. Lots of hugs heading your way from a stranger! (hug) (hug2)
I am at work and trying desperately to fight off a migraine. I really think I need to go to the doctor and get back on meds for these. It's like clockwork, every single month just before my period and they are brutal.
H and I got into a huge fight last night. We talked this morning and are fine but I'm still feeling tense and upset. Kids are HARD on a marriage, man.
I'm thinking about trying Herbalife. I want to lose about 30 pounds and I really suck hard at the dieting. A friend of mine started Herbalife a couple months ago and is now selling it. She looks great so I'm thinking about giving it a shot. Has anyone done it? Pros/cons??
I keep telling H that I will eventually end up back in Detroit. It gets such a bad rep, but if you're right downtown, it really is such a vibrant and fun place.
Michigan is great... as long as you stay around the edges. Once you venture into the center of the state, there's nothing but cows.
lol @ cows.
I'm right in the middle and never see cows!!
Go 50 miles west, lol. You're in the city! I had to stop and wait last week because there was a random cow trying to cross 46. I was laughing my ass off as the owner (i assume) was trying to corral him back to the farm.
Go 50 miles west, lol. You're in the city! I had to stop and wait last week because there was a random cow trying to cross 46. I was laughing my ass off as the owner (i assume) was trying to corral him back to the farm.
I frequently have to stop for turkeys. God, those birds are assholes!
Post by cheeseandcrackers on Apr 3, 2013 8:16:05 GMT -5
im in a terrible mood this morning and its because i got into a fight with H last night, and he slept on the couch. Over something completely stupid. Ugh.
My kids told me they prefer the rental car we have right now (our car is getting repaired) because it is red and CLEAN. Listen, assholes, it would be clean if it weren't for the two kids in the back.
I told my therapist I was feeling better and would not be coming anymore. Now I think it was maybe a mistake. The thing is, she was very helpful, but I really really don't like her, and I don't know why.
In therapy yesterday, I decided that I will finish analyzing my dissertation results before getting pregnant. This makes me feel better. So no TTC this month, but hopefully next month.
I keep telling H that I will eventually end up back in Detroit. It gets such a bad rep, but if you're right downtown, it really is such a vibrant and fun place.
Michigan is great... as long as you stay around the edges. Once you venture into the center of the state, there's nothing but cows.
DH read about the tech boom about a year ago and started talking about moving since he is IT. He is looking around Detroit/Ann Arbor but yesterday applied for some in Grand Rapids. I'm not a city person so living downtown anywhere doesn't appeal to me but if he gets a job I'm going to need help figuring out where to live and stuff. Hopefully the ML Michiganders can help me (Karma this means you!)
Some parts of Michigan, especially the western coast, are gorgeous. Traverse City/Leelanau are beautiful areas, but pretty far up the mitten. Lake Michigan is awesome. I love Grand Haven and Saugatuck. But West Michigan (including GR) is very conservative. Kalamazoo is a little less conservative, but not as great of a city IMHO. On the other side of the state, Ann Arbor (U of M) is eclectic, and East Lansing (Michigan State) is a city but small enough that its not overwhelming. All those cities have suburbs ten minutes away that have homes on acres of land if you are not a city person.
I keep trying to convince H to buy a beach house on Lake Michigan, or one of the thousands of smaller lakes. Except we are a 3 hour plane ride away and we would hardly ever be there
My spring cleaning fever is hitting a high point. I pass this house every morning and I want to knock on their door and tell them to clean all the random branches from their rooftop because it makes their otherwise very nice home look really dirty and messy.
Come help me clean my house. I'll pay you in drinks.
I really under estimated how two children would leave me in a perpetual habit of unorganization, feeling frazzled etc. Every week H and I are so close but miss the mark of getting our shit together. It is exhausting. This brought to you by the fact that I left my phone, which was dead, charging on our window sill this morning and spent 5 minutes going through baskets of laundry to find the socks I wanted. Laundry that should have been put away this weekend. Cellphone that i knew was dying but still couldn't get my act together to charge it until the last possible second thus making me forget it. These are little things but they are one of many. It doesn't help that I worked really late last night. H will work late tonight. There is always shit going on.
Jack woke me up at 4:30 to change his underwear because he ad skid marks on them. WTFWTFWTF-You are five dude do it yourself. Then he came up to let me know Scarlett had eaten a loaf of bread in the night, I swear to god guys I am going to kill that dog soon, then I went down stairs to find Jack eating a cookie. All at 4:30 am. This also added to me feeling like my life is chaos. I know my dog can get into the cupboard if we don't shut it. Obviously it wasn't shut. it is always something around our house.
I am just frazzled this morning. But I look nice at least.
I just killed a huge silverfish bug in my bathroom. I hate them!
::shudders::
I hate those, they are the fucking grossest most terrifying bugs ever!
Agreed! They are repulsive, and they run so fucking fast (not that they ever outrun me, I'm like the fucking orkin man when it comes to killing bugs in my apartment). The worst part is I'm pretty sure we have an infestation, because I kill about 1 of these fuckers ever day. H is just like "la dee da, there's a bug" and thinks I'm making up how many of them I kill every week. Meanwhile I'm afraid to walk into our bathrooms without checking for them first.
I just sprayed a bleach/water combination in all the cracks and crevices where I've seen them and I set a trap (glass jar covered with something they can climb (BARF) with sugar water inside. Hopefully they will climb in and get trapped and die a slow sugary death. Tomorrow I'm going to hunt down borax (which according to my google searches kills them).
I really under estimated how two children would leave me in a perpetual habit of unorganization, feeling frazzled etc. Every week H and I are so close but miss the mark of getting our shit together. It is exhausting. This brought to you by the fact that I left my phone, which was dead, charging on our window sill this morning and spent 5 minutes going through baskets of laundry to find the socks I wanted. Laundry that should have been put away this weekend. Cellphone that i knew was dying but still couldn't get my act together to charge it until the last possible second thus making me forget it. These are little things but they are one of many. It doesn't help that I worked really late last night. H will work late tonight. There is always shit going on.
Jack woke me up at 4:30 to change his underwear because he ad skid marks on them. WTFWTFWTF-You are five dude do it yourself. Then he came up to let me know Scarlett had eaten a loaf of bread in the night, I swear to god guys I am going to kill that dog soon, then I went down stairs to find Jack eating a cookie. All at 4:30 am. This also added to me feeling like my life is chaos. I know my dog can get into the cupboard if we don't shut it. Obviously it wasn't shut. it is always something around our house.
I am just frazzled this morning. But I look nice at least.
I feel like we are living the same life, complete with the digging 5 minutes for socks. I wish we could GTG with some drinks, I'd even invite you in my messy chaotic house.
Alzi- it is ok to sit at home. I still have to tell myself this. I feel like I need to be on the go all the time. I think I felt that way eap in the early days. I'll try to find the videos that heloped me most w the Moby wrap. I don't know how it's be w incision. I nearly cried when I first used it. For some dumb reason, I didnt watch videos or try til she was 2 or 3 weeks old. Omg, I put a napkin over her head and peacefully ate breakfast while she slept. It was so freeing, even around the house. I hate the ergo infant insert. I felt so insecure about her safety in that, and really didnt feel like I could bend down and pick up dog poop with her in it. Ergo was nice later but I hated that insert
Puddle.... what a rough night. And I love the pan woman
Melo- I feel like that when there's a rough night and we have gotten used to sleep. It's like getting hit by a train, isn't it?
My mom takes C for the afternoon, yay! She has also said she wants to have her for an overnight soon, double yay!
My anxiety has been up the past couple days which means I am sleeping like shit, but it also means I am down a pound.
I am really afraid that left knee is pretty messed up. While both knees have been bad, my left is now really bad. Giving out on me when I am walking up stairs, hurting when I am just sitting in a normal position. ugh
Post by ProfessorArtNerd on Apr 3, 2013 8:35:36 GMT -5
eddy, for me it was my black skinny pants yesterday. Which were sitting on top of the disheveled pile when I came home from school yesterday. I only have one kid!
I slept like crap from about 3 am until I woke up. I was all congested and having weird dreams.
Our accounting girl here is the #1 hated employee in my office (and we have 100+ people). She is a complete hosebeast. She makes everyone miserable, makes people cry and is just a crabby bitch. And yet, she is still employed.
Also I am being annoying and obsessing about Leo. He is 10 months. He is not pulling himself up but can stand while holding onto stuff. He army crawls. I feel like he should be eating more finger foods, but I am not organized enough to have all of these baby friendly things available. Now ninja has me worried that he isn't talk enough lol.
This is why I don't read baby development stuff. It makes me mental. I wouldn't have even worried about the pulling up thing until our doctor was like "Oh he is in the gray area for motor skills development, but I am sure he will be fine." I was like record screech "Wha gray area." I didn't know babies were expected to be pulling up and cruising by this point.
I want to go back to my ignorant place where I can't remember what happened with Jack and I was perfectly fine with how Leo was doing.
Post by daisybuchannan on Apr 3, 2013 8:43:26 GMT -5
I've been sahm for the past six months and have loved it. Just this week im starting to feel bored. When I think about how my day revolves around nap, feed, play, cuddle, I love it but am still like hmmm what else?
This week I haven't had plans outside of the house and I normally do, so im sure that has a lot to do with it.
I've committed to a one year maternity leave (they have to hold my position). I haven't wanted to go back, and we were prepared for me to stay at home. There's just something really scary about walking away from my job.
I wouldn't feel ready right now to go back full time, but how will I feel when he's a year?
If you went through this, how did you decide/what did you end up doing?
DH read about the tech boom about a year ago and started talking about moving since he is IT. He is looking around Detroit/Ann Arbor but yesterday applied for some in Grand Rapids. I'm not a city person so living downtown anywhere doesn't appeal to me but if he gets a job I'm going to need help figuring out where to live and stuff. Hopefully the ML Michiganders can help me (Karma this means you!)
Some parts of Michigan, especially the western coast, are gorgeous. Traverse City/Leelanau are beautiful areas, but pretty far up the mitten. Lake Michigan is awesome. I love Grand Haven and Saugatuck. But West Michigan (including GR) is very conservative. Kalamazoo is a little less conservative, but not as great of a city IMHO. On the other side of the state, Ann Arbor (U of M) is eclectic, and East Lansing (Michigan State) is a city but small enough that its not overwhelming. All those cities have suburbs ten minutes away that have homes on acres of land if you are not a city person.
I keep trying to convince H to buy a beach house on Lake Michigan, or one of the thousands of smaller lakes. Except we are a 3 hour plane ride away and we would hardly ever be there
Last night when DH was googling GR while I was making dinner, since we know NOTHING about it. He's from the Detroit area. So he googles and says "oh it's like 30 minutes from the beach." I yelled "CAN WE LIVE AT THE BEACH?!!" And then said "nah, Michigan is cheap but I bet the beach probably isn't" Now I'm going to scamper off and see how much it costs to live at the beach.
I've been sahm for the past six months and have loved it. Just this week im starting to feel bored. When I think about how my day revolves around nap, feed, play, cuddle, I love it but am still like hmmm what else?
This week I haven't had plans outside of the house and I normally do, so im sure that has a lot to do with it.
I've committed to a one year maternity leave (they have to hold my position). I haven't wanted to go back, and we were prepared for me to stay at home. There's just something really scary about walking away from my job.
I wouldn't feel ready right now to go back full time, but how will I feel when he's a year?
If you went through this, how did you decide/what did you end up doing?
I never planned on SAH, but I have to say that after 6 months, I definitely did not feel ready to go back. I was enjoying the time with the baby still, and didn't feel the need for more. The first time I went back at 10 months and it was perfect. The second time I was ready at 8 months, but went PT until she was 12 months.
I wouldn't decide yet, see how you feel when you approach the end of your year. For me, I was really itching to go back.
alzi- I was BORED for most of maternity leave. We started going on marathon walks, meeting DH for lunch 3 times a week, and cooking 3 course dinners. I told my mom I was bored so many times she told me that I was being "mean". I really wish I could have stayed home for a month, worked for a few months, and then stayed home for another 2 months. I would hate putting him in daycare that early but gosh, BORED. They do get more fun though, and you will find fun things to do.
DH and I argued last night, he slept on the couch, I don't feel bad. I got a great night of sleep and he needed a reality check.
I feel like we are living the same life, complete with the digging 5 minutes for socks. I wish we could GTG with some drinks, I'd even invite you in my messy chaotic house.
It gets better! They eventually get old enough that you can tell them to find their own damn socks.
Oh it was my own socks, lol. But yeah, eventually I'll get them to fold their own laundry and then hopefully I'll get around to mine. This weekend I folded everything except my and DH's socks/underwear/workoutclothes. My laundry is always last...
Post by mommylikestattoos on Apr 3, 2013 9:03:21 GMT -5
The general state of education depresses me. The chances of my finding an elementary teaching position in one of the local districts is slim to none. They're trying to close two of our elementary schools next year which blows my mind because all the kindergarten classrooms were full at 29/30 students apiece.
I'm starting to branch out my job search to educational publishing and technology companies since I have graphic design and (some) web experience.