Whose family are you closest to?

[cc]

Yours or your DH/SO?

(relationship wise, not necessarily location)

[cc]

We are closest to my family. DH's family is also local, but we don't see them that much and they aren't as family oriented. They are more about running their family business.

[papie]

Mine.  My family lives 2 hours away, the ILs live 5 minutes away, but we see my side more often.  I can't stand FIL and he dislikes kids, soooooo...

[melodramatic26]

lol. mine. I don't really like his at all. I make the bare minimum small talk when around them, and that's about it.

I'm not super close to mine either, but definitely on better terms.

[eb777888]

That's hard. Sadly, I'm not close with either families. IL's are all close and most of my family is in California. I think I'd be much closer to mine if we lived closer.

[Deleted]

I don't know. We see my family more and they fall more in line with our beliefs, etc., but Jake's family is more family-oriented. My family makes more of an effort but Jake's family is less intrusive.

It's probably a draw. What we tell one we tell the other and we're choosy about what we tell anyone, so.

[rodeored]

Mine and they live 1,000 miles away and my ILs are about 30 miles from us.

[cuddlyevil]

DH's. MIL & SFIL watch our kids during the day. But we're on good terms with both his side and my side of the family.

[fuckyourcouch]

mine. we don't have contact with his.

[anasara]

My family for sure.  I have good relationships with 95% of my extended family while DH has none with his aunts, uncles, cousins.  Granted they are all in India, but there's a whole lot of family drama that went on & nobody talks to anybody really.

[CityLights]

Mine for sure. H's parents do live out of state now but even when they lived here we didn't see them as much as my family. H often says he likes my family better. I'm good with that!

[bcv513]

Mine, although we see both families the same amount of time. My family is more "how are you" while his is more "what can you do for me"

[verycontrary247]

Mine. Both of our families live about 10 minutes away, we saw mine several times a week and his maybe once a month or every other month.

[Deleted]

We are equidistant to both. 

 
I'd say he talks to his mom a little more often, but we can be ourselves more around my family.

[luckyval]

H's older sister lives about 20 minutes away and our neice is 1 year older than Hart, so we get together with them a lot, swap child care, etc... love her, she's one of my bffs

My parents all live pretty close too and I see my dad and stepmom a lot. I visit them more than my mom because visits with them are actually enjoyable

H's parents live an hour away, we don't see them quite as much, but H talks to his dad at least 1-2 times a week mainly because they play Battle Pirates online together. I would lament being a gaming widow, but it's kind of great that they've bonded over this game

[Yankees21]

I'm very close with my mom, but she lives 8.5 hours away so we don't see her nearly as often as I'd like. We are close with my inlaws and they only live about 5 minutes away, so we see them frequently-especially in the summer as they live on a lake My dad is also local but we aren't as close with him.

[LLL]

We're each closer to our own families but get along quite well with both. Geographically, we are closer to my family.

[Deleted]

Probably mine, but mine travels a lot so we don't see or speak to them regularly. H's is just more drama, so there's less of a sincere connection. We do spent activities with them, though.

[adhdfashion]

We are closer to mine. His family is made of crazy hermits.

[amberlyrose]

Mine.
MIL passed away and his dad lives in AZ and is so far into the conservative right wing that any time DH talks with him, he brings up something about what we're doing wrong in life. They've always had a strained relationship anyway.
We see SIL and her husband frequently and we are close to them, but not the rest of his family.

[stephlove]

Mine. It kills me that I'm 2 hours from them.

We're less than an hour from H's parents, and his sister lives in our town. But the drive me nuts, so we don't visit often.

[Deleted]

Mine for sure. Even though they live 1,300 miles away, my mom has been to our house more than my IL's and they live 45 minutes south. They just don't make an effort, my mom does. 

[ECB]

Mine. Dhs parents have just gotten really whacky in their old age and it's hard to carry a conversation w/ them. And they just hit the mark on so many things - how to have a conversation, how to related to DS, how to jus tspend time w/ us as a family. To spend much time w/ them is exhausting.

Where as my parents just make everything easier.

[Bernadine]

We seem to spend more time with my family, although I get along with his family, and his family gets along with my family as well.

[Deleted]

we are equally non-enmeshed with our respective parents. his visits more, but that may change once my mom retires. personally, while i like my ILs, i'm closer to my family. i presume likewise for my husband, although he's not really "close" with anyone except me. that makes him sound weird, but he's a "tons of acquaintances, 1 BFF" kinda guy.  i'm FAR closer to my brother than my husband is to his sister.

[Marle]

I'm just closer in location to DH's obviously. And without my mom I'm feeling really isolated from her family

[Deleted]

Ehh. We're all in the same small town and we see both sides pretty often. I'm closer to mine and H is closer to his. Well, his parents. He doesn't really talk to his sisters who are also in the same town.

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Apr 3, 2013 10:46:37 GMT -5 bcv513 said:

Mine, although we see both families the same amount of time. My family is more "how are you" while his is more "what can you do for me"

This is the situation I'm in. My parents are very giving and thoughtful people while MIL, sFIL, FIL, and sMIL are all about themselves and what we can do for them. I get pretty irritated by it too. DH acknowledges it and tries to stay out of certain situations with them but he does love them because they are his family.