I try to be in bed around 10:00 pm since DD is usually up at 6:00 am, but I usually get sucked into HGTV shows, drinking wine or reading and don't end up in bed until 11:00-11:30. But then I feel tired and crappy the next day.
On worknights, about midnight. But I go upstairs and do massages with H at 10ish. Then he falls asleep and I stay awake and read/internet/watch a movie for a while.
I wish my H would do this - I'm so sore at the end of some days and just once a week would be nice! It's like pulling teeth to get him to give me a massage. I've offered him a massage, and other things in exchange. No dice
Anyway...
Em goes to bed by 10:30, so sometimes I go to bed with her. But if H is at work until 10pm I'll often stay up until get gets home (10:45pm) and we'll go to bed around 11:30.
Mmm, like 5 out of 7 nights, yeah? Haha. There's no oil or anything fancy or (usually) anything sexy about it. We just trade anywhere from 10-20 minutes. It's a nice ritual.
My H would not be able to massage me without trying to get sex too.
2 nights/week DH works until midnight, and I'm a night person anyhow, so I wait up for him. If I fall asleep at like 11:30 and I wake up when he gets home I'm wide-awake and energized from my catnap. It's quite irritating.
The other 2 nights he works until 2am so I can crash about midnight and be out enough that he doesn't wake me later.
When he's off we're still about midnight. I hate myself every single morning.