Mom/Baby Shower Vent

[Deleted]

How do you feel about her in person? If she's annoying like my mom, then the day after she gets back all jet-lagged, she'd be too tired to be very obnoxious!

That's really irritating that she's kind of stealing your thunder and planning a bit. Didn't she decide when the wedding was going to be after she found out when you were having the baby?

[sarack]

I'd do it without her, especially if you're having a family one too.

[catbus]

Honestly, the wedding's nearly ten weeks before your due date. Before your follow-up, I wondered if the reason she wants to hurry things up is so that 1. Her h can be a "real" grandpa from the start, and 2. So the wedding is over and done with before baby stuff is a concern. With you basically confirming that, I don't think she's being selfish at all. Is there a reason you want your shower at that time? I think 34-37 weeks is pretty typical. What about mid-June, like the weekend of June 15/16? You'd be 34/35 weeks, right?
Now, if this were sarack posting this, my answer would be different. But for a healthy singleton pregnancy, that's pretty good timing.

[catbus]

Ok, then. Sorry for saying anything.

[sarack]

I'd want to have it sooner too. I only posted that i thought you should do it without her because I feel like PP do, she is being selfish. Would it be a perfect time to hold the shower while the OOT family is here staying? That sounds ideal, they'll be here for the event, more presents for you and bj! right?

Knowing how we are with planning, I'd want it like like late May. I think you having to change things for her is messed up. Plus, you know she'll come, especially if she is in town, so do it sooner and you'll be happy. She'll figure it out!

[jennlin]

i agree with sarack. weekend after your moms wedding sounds ideal to me.

sorry she's making it difficult for you!