SIDS - know anyone "personally"?

[jennlin]

Apr 4, 2013 14:38:54 GMT -5 @jennuinne said:

I know all the things to do to decrease the risks, but I think I'm going to have a hard time sleeping when LO gets here. I remember my mom telling me she used to get up and in the middle of the night all the time just to make sure we were breathing.

this will happen no matter what. i have a friend who told me she still does this with her 8yo. she'll wake up randomly to worry (about once a month), and go check on him. i'm sure she's in the minority, but i don't doubt that it pretty much never goes away.

[InBetweenDays]

I still check on the kids (4 and 6) each night right before I go to bed. Just to make sure they're not half way off the bed, but I have to admit if they are sleeping very quietly I also put my hand on their chest to make sure they're breathing.

[jennlin]

Apr 4, 2013 14:22:01 GMT -5 cdmay said:

Apr 4, 2013 13:30:21 GMT -5 jennlin said:

So your personal reference proves me wrong, but your link #3 shows there may be a link. Interesting thanks.

It only says you are wrong if your hypothesis was that it is specific to lower-income families.   But i think you were hypothesizing that it's less common -- not non-existent -- among higher-income families (right?).  Either way, I think all of those sources indicate an economic link.

yes, you are right. my hypothesis was really that it is less common among higher income/more common in lower income...but also secretly hoping it was non existent in non-low-income situations.

[jennlin]

Apr 4, 2013 11:52:45 GMT -5 spunbutterfly said:

Apr 4, 2013 11:51:10 GMT -5 jennlin said:

in chinese culture, the "cold in your bones" causes arthritis and headaches. the "cold in your bones" also happens after swimming and/or showering, which is why you're technically not supposed to shower during the one month-healing period, either. i washed my hair once a week as an alternative.

I managed to go 2 weeks without washing my hair and then I just had to. OMG. I felt so gross. ._. My mom was pretty strict. More strict with me than how her mom was with her. Go figure.

I only ate Korean seaweed soup for about 2.5 weeks. Breakfast, lunch, dinner.

we didn't go this extreme, but there was definitely hot soup everyday. no ice, no cold drinks, i even had to let my salad sit out for 2 hours before eating it because it was too "cold".

[cdmay]

Apr 4, 2013 21:56:30 GMT -5 @lauralynne said:

I think with SIDS it's good to remember that it's a "death with no other obvious cause" category so seeing it more among low income nigh also have to do with quality of care - an infant dies and the parent feels like the SIDS diagnosis is "enough" whereas a middle to upper class family would have the resources to ask for an autopsy and a more concrete cause of death. I think the statistics would be misleading because of this.
That being said I think that generally being un- or mis- informed would lead to a higher incidence of SIDS. improper/dangerous sleeping areas being a prime example.

I didn't know this until looking stuff up earlier today, but since i now do...
A SIDS determination requires an autopsy that doesn't indicate another possible cause of death (http://www.cdc.gov/sids/, www.sids.org/ndefinition.htm.)

[pandangie]

I know of two:
-a white female friend from high school, her second son, single mom who was a grocery store dept head. She fell asleep on the couch with her 2 month old son face down on her chest... he was still on top of her.

- my brother's BFF from school, African American, grad from U of W, upper class, his 3rd  daughter. I don't know many deets...

sad sad, breaks my heart

[catbus]

Apr 5, 2013 1:32:45 GMT -5 pandangie said:

I know of two:
-a white female friend from high school, her second son, single mom who was a grocery store dept head. She fell asleep on the couch with her 2 month old son face down on her chest... he was still on top of her.

- my brother's BFF from school, African American, grad from U of W, upper class, his 3rd  daughter. I don't know many deets...

sad sad, breaks my heart

Is that really SIDS, though? Was the cause of death not found to be suffocation?

Anyway, that's really sad. The only way I could get E to take good naps from about 4-10 weeks was on me like that. I was paranoid I'd fall asleep and exactly that would happen.

[cdmay]

Apr 5, 2013 14:33:10 GMT -5 @lauralynne said:

 I was always under the impression that SIDS was a general catch all category.  

The way it's talked about it seems like it.

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A former coworker of mine lost his daughter at 7 weeks to SIDS.

E's pediatrician told us to get out ASAP. He told us that if I felt good enough to leave the house I should and take E with me. Edmund was 4 days the first time we left and he went to his first soccer match at 2 weeks. I understand following your culture. There was no way I could have stayed cooped up for a month.

I once got flamed on TK for leaving the house before I stopped bleeding.

[sweetredheadx]

My sister lost her 3 month old son. She is college educated, middle class, working husband/active father. No drugs or alcohol in the house. She has 2 older children. At the time they were 2 and 5.

On a Sunday she woke up, checked on baby and placed him in his crib properly with no hazards. She went into her daughters' room to wake them and start getting ready for church. 5minutes later, she returned to her room and found him. Did CPR until ambulance arrived. Father was out checking pipes (2 hour job he does every sat and sun) He never revived. Autopsy showed no sign of mistreatment or accident. Listed as SIDS on death certificate.

[pandangie]

As far as I know, because his head was turned to the side (not nose straight down) and he was still on top of her, as in not wedged to the side between her and the back of the couch, it was listed as SIDS and not suffocation. I am not 100 percent positive of the official outcome though