May I join you? Not sure if this is the right board.

[trace]

Hello, I'm new here, just created an account actually. I lurked a little on Getting Pregnant/Got Pregnant over the past few months but I think it's time to become official. I've also lurked on TB very briefly but they kind of scared me.

Anyway, I'm 36 and H is 31. I went of bcp about a year ago and we started actively TTC early Fall 2012. I had a suspected chemical pregnancy in October. I then miscarried at 8 weeks in late December, just a week after my first u/s and seeing a heartbeat. It happened during a 5 day trip home for the holidays. Not that there's ever a good time or place to m/c but getting on an airplane pregnant (I even chose to be hand searched to be extra cautious) and excited to surprise our parents on Christmas and then getting on the airplane home very NOT pregnant was surreal. I should also add that they found a cyst and a fibroid at that first u/s but the doc wasn't too concerned, just said we'd keep an eye on them.

We waited the 2 cycles as suggested and tried again in March. Got pregnant and had my first appointment on Monday. Hcg and progesterone came back low so I was put on prometrium (same as with the last pg). Started spotting Wednesday and blood tests done on Thursday confirmed I was misscarrying. I passed the baby yesterday and am so very heartbroken.

I have a follow-up appointment on Wednesday and the doctor said he's ordering some additional blood work to check for a number of possible problems/antibodies or something. I don't know, it was a blur, I guess I'll understand better when we meet. He's also sending me to their infertility specialist to be sure, even though they normally wait until the third m/c. He said if the first blood tests show a problem, I may just need medication and that there's also a chance this was just really really bad luck that I had two in a row. I'm hoping it just one of those things but it's hard to be so optimistic after all this.

So anyway, that's my story. I haven't received a diagnosis so if I'm on the wrong board I'm sorry, please tell me. And if you're still reading, thanks for listening.

[HoneySpider]

Hi, you are definitely on the right board, so welcome! I am so sorry to hear of your losses The ladies here are great though and I hope that you find some support.

[azurely]

Welcome. You're in the right place. I'm sorry you have to be here, but this is a great board with some wonderful ladies.

I'm sorry for your losses. I've had two m/c's and they are so hard. I hope you can get some answers soon. We just started seeing an RE and she has been very helpful. We are waiting on insurance approval now to do recurrent m/c testing.

[lola]

God, I am so sorry for your losses. Please stick around. So much support on this board. I hope you get some answers from your doctors and that whatever the problem is it is relatively easy to solve.

[trace]

Thanks, Honey, Azurely, and lola. I'm glad to have found a supportive place and look forward to getting to know you all better.

Azurely, I hope you get all the insurance issues worked out soon. That is definitely a big fear of mine. I'm not sure what ours covers in terms of testing and treatment but I guess we'll find out more in the coming week.

[mae141]

Welcome. I'm so sorry for your losses. Hopefully you will get answers soon.

[azurely]

Apr 13, 2013 16:45:30 GMT -5 trace said:

Azurely, I hope you get all the insurance issues worked out soon. That is definitely a big fear of mine. I'm not sure what ours covers in terms of testing and treatment but I guess we'll find out more in the coming week.

Thank you!

Yes, I'm very thankful to have insurance coverage, but it's frustrating to have to wait for them to approve things. Honestly though, I've been surprised at how much they have covered. My insurance says they do not cover anything fertility related, but they've covered most of the monitoring for IUIs, everything for both of my m/c's, my HSG, genetic testing, my sono-HSG, all bloodwork so far, progesterone supplements, and our initial consult with the RE.

[G22]

I'm so sorry for your losses. You are most definitely welcome here. Waiting for answers is hard, but the ladies here are wonderful for venting and letting off steam during/after that. Also an amazing support system!

[trace]

Thanks, Gumby!

Azurely, that's awesome that your insurance has covered so much. H is in grad school so we bought our insurance through there. It wasn't super cheap because we chose an enhanced plan but it has a pretty good deductible, copays, etc. and better coverage than a plan through my employer. Basically ours covers maternity the same as any other illness and I know a lot of plans out there exclude maternity. We are always holding our breath when another statement arrives from my hospital but we keep seeing $0 for patient responsibility. We got one that included all of my labs during/after the first miscarriage and it was actually several thousand dollars. Such a relief. We're hoping things continue with the additional tests and IF specialist consult.

[speyedr]

Welcome! I'm still fairly new here too but have to say that these ladies are all great! I am so sorry for your losses and hope you get some answers.

[bronxgirl]

Welcome. I'm sorry about your losses. Hopefully your luck will change soon.

[melindafelinda]

Welcome. We have similar stories. I had a loss at 7 weeks over Christmas while visiting my family and then had an ectopic (with heartbeat which kills me) removed in March.

Im sorry for your losses.

[trace]

Thanks for the warm welcome, ladies.

Oh Melinda, I'm so sorry for your losses. The Christmas vacation thing made it seem extra cruel to me. And now this baby had a Thanksgiving due date, I don't know how I'll ever be happy at the holidays again.

[ilovecandy]

Welcome. I am so sorry for your losses.

[changedname]

Hi trace, welcome and sorry you are joining us. I hope you get some answers on the tests and that in the meantime we can offer some support. hugs.

[degal99]

Welcome, although I'm sorry you're here. Hopefully you'll be able to get some answers fairly quickly.

[KaraOrNot]

Welcome. Hopefully you get some answers and your stay will be short. I am sorry for your losses.