Can you guys humor me?

[Bernadine]

I've started ignoring xh completely. We don't currently have anything to discuss, and I think we're at a point where he thinks any attention is good attention. So, instead of replying to his emails, can I just reply here and get it out? lol.

He keeps asking me on dates. Background- he's an alcoholic, nasty drunk. I moved out 6 months ago, because I couldn't stand living with him anymore and he refused to move out. So, he's still living in the house, but refusing to pay towards the mortgage. I'm stuck paying the full mortgage during our entire one-year separation (mandated by the state), while I live at my parents' house. He emailed me a few weeks ago complaining that the lawn mower wasn't working, he didn't have money to fix it, and that I'm responsible for it because it's still my house, too.

Anyway, today he emailed me and asked me out on a date, which he does every few weeks. Here's what I'd like to reply-

-A lawn mowing date?

-Why don't you save your money and get the fucking lawn mower fixed.

-Neverrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

-I hate your face, stop emailing me.

-Get the fuck out of the house.

[usedtobebear]

I love all of the replies and good job not responding to him. I would want to reply to saying to shove the lawn mower up his ass. I can't believe you have to pay the mortgage while he's living there, I bet you hate him every second of every day for that, I just don't see how that is possibly fair, but I guess thus is life.

[dakotadangerdog]

Haha I like the second one best.

[Deleted]

That really sucks! I can't believe you have to pay the mortgage on that place. There isn't something in the separation documents about him having to pay half? Can you show that he didn't pay and maybe recoup that in the divorce somehow?

[Bernadine]

I am hoping in the divorce settlement to be compensated for paying the mortgage all this time. My lawyer has some ideas. We don't have separation documents- I can't force him to agree to anything until the divorce, as he loves to remind me.

[missbetty1]

Good job at ignoring him! I text my one my girlfriends and vent to her about the texts I get from my ex..and then I'll text her "I responded to him" to which she'll call me "cuckoo" and then I"ll text her back that I lied and that I actually didn't text him...and then we start cracking up...well through text with a bunch of lmaos and haaaahhhas and LOLs .... ;D

[BookLover]

You are doing awesome at ignoring him! Keep it up. I do love your responses though.

My ex still tries to get me to go out with him. It's gotten less and less though.

[stephbfan]

How about 2, 3, 4 AND 5?

[explorer2001]

Good job ignoring. I am constantly reminded how lucky I am that I was able to kick my psycho ex out

[cemacmil]

Completely agree with great :Y: on not responding and good responses to us!

I wish I did not have to respond to XH - but he is DD's "father," whether by urban defintion or not - so in some cases I have to, even just to re-itterate.

I am getting better at not re-acting though by writing angry letters if I get really pissed. The pety stuff is just unfortunatly who he is and I don't see that changing....so I try and let the pety stuff roll off or do what you just did in the car or with a friend