"i told you so"

[jennlin]

are you allowed to say this to your husband? or is it one of those things that are not recommended if you want to stay married? his "mistake" cost us $25...so it's not like a hearbreaking live or die situation. i just want to tell him to be smarter next time.

[picksthemusic]

It depends. J loves to tell me "I told you so," or "SEE?!" when something happens that was my fault if he warned me or something.

So, I think it's totally fair to say it if the other says it to you.

However, J is one of those men who holds grudges and brings stuff up from the past when we fight, so there's that.

[jennlin]

Apr 15, 2013 12:35:25 GMT -5 picksthemusic said:

However, J is one of those men who holds grudges and brings stuff up from the past when we fight, so there's that.

oh hey, me too. sounds like your h and i would make a terrible couple lol.

[picksthemusic]

Apr 15, 2013 12:38:07 GMT -5 jennlin said:

Apr 15, 2013 12:35:25 GMT -5 picksthemusic said:

However, J is one of those men who holds grudges and brings stuff up from the past when we fight, so there's that.

oh hey, me too. sounds like your h and i would make a terrible couple lol.

Yeah, it's pretty awful. It's one of those big rules as to how NOT to fight, and he breaks it ALL. THE. TIME.

I keep trying to tell him that it's not a fair fight when he brings up stuff from the past to justify his anger now. But then he says that he brings it up because it's a 'repeat offense' or something like that.... I dunno. I wish we could learn how to fight, haha.

[jennlin]

Apr 15, 2013 13:00:16 GMT -5 picksthemusic said:

Apr 15, 2013 12:38:07 GMT -5 jennlin said:

oh hey, me too. sounds like your h and i would make a terrible couple lol.

Yeah, it's pretty awful. It's one of those big rules as to how NOT to fight, and he breaks it ALL. THE. TIME.

I keep trying to tell him that it's not a fair fight when he brings up stuff from the past to justify his anger now. But then he says that he brings it up because it's a 'repeat offense' or something like that.... I dunno. I wish we could learn how to fight, haha.

totally legitimate reason.

[picksthemusic]

Apr 15, 2013 13:21:45 GMT -5 jennlin said:

Apr 15, 2013 13:00:16 GMT -5 picksthemusic said:

Yeah, it's pretty awful. It's one of those big rules as to how NOT to fight, and he breaks it ALL. THE. TIME.

I keep trying to tell him that it's not a fair fight when he brings up stuff from the past to justify his anger now. But then he says that he brings it up because it's a 'repeat offense' or something like that.... I dunno. I wish we could learn how to fight, haha.

totally legitimate reason.

Yeah, but I feel like there should be a statute of limitations or something. >3 years? Yeah, don't bring it up.

[jennlin]

Apr 15, 2013 13:24:49 GMT -5 picksthemusic said:

Apr 15, 2013 13:21:45 GMT -5 jennlin said:

totally legitimate reason.

Yeah, but I feel like there should be a statute of limitations or something. >3 years? Yeah, don't bring it up.

yeah, over 3 years is a lot...unless it's a repeat offense that happens every so often, and his exact example was over 3 years, lol. if he can *also* provide more recent examples, perfectly legitimate.

[dana86]

Most of our 'i told you so moments' are ones we can jokingly say it, so yeah we say it to each other all the time but we never get butt hurt over it lol

[niq]

We don't actually ever say "I told you so" but it's clear when one of us WOULD say it. I dunno, I think we are both trying to be a little less mean spirited, so we're "keeping score" a little bit less.

Even on a tablet, I blame all wrong words in Swype

[cdmay]

We say it all the time, but only when joking.  We tend to admit fault/wrongness in situations where it's significant (this hasn't always been the case).