"Fun" family event

[melindafelinda]

Just got back from an extended family visit.  Immediately the questions about when we would have kids started.  The "best" part was when everyone stood around the family tree on the wall and pointed to the branches where our children should be and everyone was arguing about whether there was room for three children.  Obviously we have none right now.  

So good times.  Also, this kept going on even after I just came out and said "we'd like to but we've had some serious trouble."

[sundancekid]

People are dumb. It's like they don't get it. I am to just cry some days when people say stuff. It's hard.


Hugs.

[lola]

Oh, Melinda. I'm sorry your family sucks. :drink:

[mae141]

Urgh. People suck sometimes.

[G22]

Seriously, I wonder what goes through peoples heads. Maybe it just me, but there are certain personal questions I would never ask someone, no matter how close we are.

I echo the PP. People are dumb. I'm sorry.

[changedname]

Omg, so sorry Melinda. Sometimes people just don't think.

[BNL2]

Hugs melinda. People suck and I'm sorry you had to endure that.

I've started getting mean with family because that's the only way to get them to back off. I've asked single cousins why aren't they married and have told aunts that if they want a new baby in the family they should have one themselves. I know you shouldn't meet rude with rude but it shuts everyone up at least for a moment.

[trace]

Oh Melinda, I'm sorry you had to deal with those idiots.  I feel your pain and this is exactly why I dread going home. My husband's awful second cousin asked if I was pregnant at Christmas Eve dinner, while I was actively m/c. I was kind of expecting it because I gained weight though. Just STFU, people!

[azurely]

Ugh I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I hate when people ask me when we're having kids. I suck at lying, but it's usually not someone who I want to discuss IF with. I usually just ignore the questions, but it's tough :/

[belovedbride07]

Ugh. I hate people sometimes.

[KaraOrNot]

What the fuck is wrong w/ people?

[Deleted]

Aww, I'm so sorry! MH's aunt and cousins won't even speak to us b/c they don't know what to say. Which to me is ridiculous, we aren't going to give you cancer, we just can't have kids. You don't need to treat us any differently. We aren't infirm or fragile. Just be your normal respectful selves and you'll be golden.

[genet313]

 hugs melinda.  i definitely would have freaked out over that.   it really sucks to be around insensitive people.