Experience with Gestational Surrogate?

[genet313]

I know this is a long shot since we're such a small board, but does anyone have any experience with this?  Or can refer me to some blog or something?

Backstory is that I just got back from a different RE, who also thinks my fibroid will be a problem and that it would need to be removed.  Except he would prefer doing an open surgery, not laproscopic, which means a 6 week recovery and 6-9 months off TTC to let my uterus heal.  

He did recommend that we try 2-3 IUIs in the meantime, but cautioned that the fibroid could have been the cause of my first m/c and could cause another m/c, as well as many other pregnancy complications.  And if they don't work, he won't do anything else w/o removing it.

So, I obviously don't have a great home for a child.  And I'm not particularly inclined to go through such a demanding surgery, especially with no guarantee that it will actually solve anything (b/c, hello, the last surgery I had was *supposed* to do that).  So I'm thinking GC.  RE confirmed my eggs are healthy and I have a lot of naturally-growing follicles, all my other tests are normal and DH has great sperm (thank goodness for something!).  So maybe that is the best course?

I don't know, it's early stage thinking, but if anyone can recommend any resource, I would appreciate it!!

[discogranny]

I don't have personal experience with a GC or GS, but I do know of a few blogs and some websites that are more for carriers/surrogates but could help you:

This woman used her cousin as a carrier: myjourneytomylesandbeyond.blogspot.com/

This woman is a carrier: www.theirbunmyoven.com/

This website has forums: www.surromomsonline.com/support/forum.php?s=5be2377f705973e22f6ff436069dc213

Here is a big, long list of blogs dealing with either donor eggs/sperm or GS/GS situations: www.stirrup-queens.com/a-whole-lot-of-blogging-brought-to-you-sorted-and-filed/donor-gamete-and-surrogacy-room/

Hope this helps!

[changedname]

Good luck Genet. I have no experience whatsoever and know nothing except from Guiliana and Bill.

[BNL2]

I have no advice but I want to say Good Luck! Have you asked your RE if he/she can point you toward some resources?

[greenmonster]

I don't know anything either, but just wanted to say good luck! I am just the opposite..I have a good "home" for a baby, but my eggs are really crappy! 

[azurely]

I don't have any experience, but I have considered it. Not seriously yet, but my BFF offered to be a surrogate for us if we need it someday. It is a very generous offer... I know she is serious, but I'm not sure I could take her up on it.

[genet313]

Thanks ladies!  I will definitely look into all of this.  

[genet313]

Apr 18, 2013 15:27:11 GMT -5 BNL2 said:

I have no advice but I want to say Good Luck! Have you asked your RE if he/she can point you toward some resources?

I haven't yet b/c he seems pretty confident I can get pregnant again and he didn't even mention it himself.  I was just thinking about it.  But I'm already 32, and I'm OK to do the surgery and wait but I still would prefer to try to get some baby, somewhere, cooking.  Parallel track this reproductive thing, if that makes sense.  I'd obviously prefer to carry my own children, but if I can't, or if I can't do that now, why not try it?

[ilovecandy]

I know of one site. She carried for her cousin, and it has a link to her cousin's blog itstartedwithabump.com