another sleep question

[sawineaux79]

DD is 3 months old. She is still in RNP next to bed. She has taken some naps in crib, but has not made a full transition yet and has not slept in the crib overnight yet. She is starting to STTN but its conditional.

My DH and I both work nights at different ends of the week, so one of us is usually alone with her overnight. When he is home, she STTN. When I am by myself, she will sleep in 20 minute catnaps until about 230am. Everything else is the same- swaddle, rock to sleep, bathtime, etc. The only difference is that she wakes up for me and wants to be held or nursed. With him, its just normal transitional grunting and she stays asleep.

I would like to move her to the crib now. Not sure how that will affect the situation. I do remember her pedi stating after 12lbs or so they shouldn't really need to get up during the night and she may start getting up just to "see me" or nurse unnecessarily. I also thought about her possibly going through her 3 month growth spurt, but it was very clear this week that it was my presence. He had off a night, and she STTN in the middle of a few nights of not STTN.

My co-worker suggested placing one of DH's shirts with her for his scent. Thoughts?

[hopecounts]

If she's still in your room and doesn't wake when you're not there she most likely smells your milk and it prompts her to wake up.
I'd try moving her to her crib and see how it goes.

[vanillacourage]

Jun 8, 2012 7:15:43 GMT -5 hopecounts said:

If she's still in your room and doesn't wake when you're not there she most likely smells your milk and it prompts her to wake up.
I'd try moving her to her crib and see how it goes.

Agree with this. Start putting her in the crib for all her naps, then use the crib at night too.

I wouldn't put much weight (lol) in your pedi saying 12 lbs = STTN. Every kid will reach that milestone at a different point and expecting more than your DC is ready to do will just make you frustrated.

[karinothing]

I agree that it sounds like it is time to move her to her own room and I agree with starting with naps.

AND I want to ditto vanilla about the 12lbs= STTN. I actually think it is stupid and irresponsible of pedis to say this. There is no magical weight that will cause your kid to sleep through the night (heck I don't sleep through the night and I weigh far more than 12lbs). Just know that night wakings are common until 2-3 years of age (although obviously not ever 20 minutes).

[Ashley&Scott]

I agree with everyone else that she may be smelling you & that's prompting her to wake up. (Maybe she just wants some cuddle time with mom since she'll sleep if you hold her?)

I also think it's total BS that Pedi's say babies should automatically sleep through the night at a certain age/weight. I certainly hope they aren't suggesting you withhold night feedings.

[hannamarin]

I agree that STTN is unlikely at this age, but waking every 20 minutes is not necessary. When the baby wakes, dont feed her. Soothe without the breast, even try not to pick her up. Then at 3 hrs (when food is probably necessary) let her eat. Maybe even stick with the bottle for a few nights like your husband.
Good luck