Everything went pretty much according to plan. The string quartet who was supposed to arrive 45 minutes before the ceremony didn't arrive until about 5 minutes before. I was shitting bricks. I was so scared we weren't going to have music but it was fine.
The worst thing about my wedding was my own doing. I was so nervous I took a few xanax beforehand and had a couple glasses of wine (I was NOT a big drinker back then) and my whole wedding is basically a blur. It is so odd. I know they say it goes by fast but I remember very little about my actual wedding.
The Good: I got married to the love of my life, we got married in a gorgeous church in a beautiful location, I felt really beautiful, and the food/cake was really good!
The Bad: A handful of guests, including our minister, were about 30 minutes late so we didn't start the ceremony on time. Not horrible, but annoying. We shared with our guests before the wedding that we would be taking pictures after the ceremony so we would be about 30 minutes late to the start of the reception. Apparently this was a horrible amount of time to wait...even with food/drinks?....and we heard never-ending complaints that we were so late to the reception....I didn't think it was too long, but I felt bad that my guests did.
The Ugly: My MIL never spoke one word to me during the entire wedding. Not surprised since we don't particularly like each other, but I still thought it was rude and made parts of the wedding rather uncomfortable. My H's parents also brought their dog to our wedding. Yea....they left the poor thing in the car and kept running back and forth to let the dog out during our wedding and reception. I found the whole situation incredibly rude, and have no clue why they did it. They are pretty selfish people, and the dog is perfectly healthy and is left home all the time. But apparently not when it came to our wedding!
The Good- My dress, veil, makeup and hair, cake, venue and church (for the ceremony) all turned out perfect. I was so happy with it all and I had a ton of fun. It was a fun, happy day for all.
The Bad- The DJ sucked. He was disorganized and got drunk and during dancing wouldn't play my husband's playlist because he thought "it sucked". My husband's friends told him during my father/daughter dance that he was supposed to cut in, so he did. I was pissed, and my husband quickly retreated, lol. It still irritates me, actually.
The Ugly- A longtime friend of my husband's family was there and he kept hitting on every female there, including my mom, aunts, 13 year old cousins (he told them to 'pose sexy' for the camera-gag), etc. We all found about it later though. Also, after all the grandparents and my pastor and his wife left I got drunk. I was totally 'that bride'--but at least it was when half the people were gone.
The Good: The whole day was nearly perfect. Everything we planned happened exactly the way it was supposed to. It didn't rain. Unexpectedly, the sun was actually out. I felt beautiful. I didn't have any stomach pain or issues all day. There was sex afterward.
The Bad: My Grandma came very close to running over my nephew when she lost control of her car after the ceremony. Luckily, she didn't hit anyone, but she did run her car through a Christmas tree farm (uprooting full grown trees in her path). This all happened while we were taking group pictures.
The Ugly: My SIL got upset about a misunderstanding the night before the wedding and decided that she didn't approve of me marrying her brother. She then called every person in their family to tell them they shouldn't support the wedding, but she still showed up for it anyway. H's grandparents believed her and left as soon as the ceremony was over, without speaking a single word to me.
The good: Beautiful September day, got to have the cocktail hour outside, almost everything was perfect.
The bad: The car that was taking me to the church backfired on me just as I about to get in it. Black soot all over the bottom of my dress. One of my bridesmaids ran up to the drug store and bought the following: "white out, white spray paint, chalk, colored chalk - that's for my class" (she was a kindergarten teacher and I guess it was a good deal?) Our biggest mistake, getting it wet. It probably would have vacuumed off pretty well.
The ugly: the fact that my husband turned out to be a cheating bastard?
Post by jackpackage on Apr 19, 2013 14:25:30 GMT -5
The good: Loved our venue, the food, cake and booze, and my dress. Oh, the weather was awesome too. The days before our wedding there were major snow storms, but the day of it was 50 and sunny. Unheard of in Dec in SW MI!
The bad: None of my dad's side of the family came.
The ugly: My SIL (BIL's gf at the time) spent most of our reception bawling in the bathroom. Her dress was insanely short and she overheard someone commenting that it was inappropriate.
Oh. I forgot, because I keep trying to erase this from my memory:
I spent a butt load of money on flowers; they arrived AT MY HOUSE after the wedding. My neighbors, bless their heart, when across the street to talk to that neighbor and she cut me flowers from her yard and gave them to my Husband to take up to the venue. I cried my heart out the morning before our wedding because "weee don't haveeee *sniffle* flowwwerrrs".
I gave my neighbors LOTS of cake afterwards.
Didn't mean to "like it" because that would be wrong, but OMG, I would have been so pissed if that happened.
Good: I looked and felt gorgeous (priorities!), everyone said they had a blast, and we ended up with nice weather after it was terrible the day before
Bad: the prime rib came out a tad more rare than at the tasting and many people complained to me about being served raw steak. Dude, it's not raw and its not steak. Don't order the beef if you're picky.
Ugly: the makeup lady had to tell my mom to back off because she was harassing me about B.S. while getting ready; I think one of my friends was upset at the cost of the VERY optional hair/makeup. I would have even paid for her had I known. We haven't spoken much since the wedding and I feel like crap about it.
The Bad- ExDH's former fling showed up uninvited to my reception wearing ALL black like she was in mourning. She wasn't there long. A few weeks later she tried to brag about it at mutual friends shower...everyone laughed at her pathetic ass.
I don't know why she was so obsessed with him. He wasn't much of a catch after all. I should have let her keep him.
Post by clairedunphy on Apr 19, 2013 14:44:17 GMT -5
The Good: I got married, the October weather was beautiful--sunny and 60 degrees. Everyone had a great time. The Bad: My sister in law, who is a huge PITA, had to dump her boyfriend and my reception and make a scene. She's an attention whore, and no, she wasn't 16, she was 26. The Ugly: Not sure. Overall it was a nice experience. Having to get up at 3:30 a.m. to go to the airport the next morning was kind of ugly. OH, and the hotel where our reception was was also hosting a dog show the night of our wedding so while it didn't really bother our reception, you could hear dogs barking all night long while we tried to sleep.
Post by Captain Serious on Apr 19, 2013 15:10:49 GMT -5
The good: Virtually everything (except below). I married the love of my live, and had a blast partying until sunrise!
The bad: My brother's now-ex-father-in-law had a mini-stroke towards the end of the reception. Everyone kept it from us until after our morning brunch, so it "wouldn't ruin our day," but we went into town to meet up with the family and make sure he was okay before leaving town.
The ugly: The florist "prettied-up" the area where we took our vows with gauzy material, and then threw my cross out with the flowers when she dismantled it.
Post by Saint Monica on Apr 19, 2013 15:11:13 GMT -5
The bad: it was hotter than ballz. (7-12-2008).
The good: My uncle grabbing my H's butt whilst slow dancing; the staff at the venue carrying my paternal grandfather up the stairs so he could attend the reception (the elevator at the venue was out of order); getting awesome oral on the wedding night; seeing my parents so happy; dry humping the classical guitar player with 4 of my best girlfriends; so many things I could go on and on
the ugly: lolz my hangover; my dad's hangover (the poor soul almost never consumes alcohol)
The good: It was by far the best day of my life. Not only because I got married, but I had so so much fun!! The bad: The in-laws don't believe in drinking, and my husband and I were definitely drinking. The ugly: My cousin dared my husband to strip down to his boxers and dance in a circle, and he did it. My family and I thought it was hilarious, his parents got mad and got up and left...
Post by PennyCandy on Apr 19, 2013 15:18:15 GMT -5
Good: Everything went as planned and it was pretty.
Bad: The only family on my side that came were my parents and people that RSVPed didn't show up. I wanted a small wedding, but I didn't want it to be THAT small. We had about 40 guests when it was all said and done.
Ugly: My mom and all of her drama. Our pictures suck a big one.
bad: it rained. hard. our reception was at a country club, we were supposed to have all our pictures outside, part of the reason we choose the place was for their beautiful grounds. ended up with pics in random places inside.
ugly: I hated my flowers. H's cousin did them. Do not EVER have a family member take over something that is important to you. He had previously worked for a florist and was starting his own business. He told me not to worry, that he would do a fantastic job for me. So I let him do the flowers, I pretty much didn't get anything I wanted. I started getting nervous when all he talked about was another wedding he was doing the week after mine and how much money this bride was spending on her flowers. I should have known.
Good: I got married, my event planners were awesome, and I looked fucking fabulous
Bad: My bridal party was sucktastic
Ugly: Post-wedding my parents told me what a vile human being I am because i didn't spend every moment of my wedding profusely thanking them and hanging out with relatives I've never met since I was out of diapers. They informed me of this via email on my honeymoon.
Post by janiejones on Apr 19, 2013 15:45:13 GMT -5
The good: Awesome groom, awesome bridal party (no drama!!), great food, venue & pictures. SO MUCH BOOZE.
The bad: my mum insisted we invite my schizophrenic uncle who had a fear of MrJJ. My mum promised to "watch" him all day, but flaked and he accosted MrJJ before the ceremony, threatening him. Also, our tables for 10 ended up having to be tables for 8 and my uncle and cousin got the pleasure of reseating everyone that morning (none of whom they knew).
The ugly: my dress was cut too short during hemming. I had planned & been fitted to wear 3.5" heels, but she* cut where her final finished length was by accident. I ended up in flats and my dress was still flood ready.
The unfortunate: FIL's speech addressed all the cleavage in the room, none of which happened to be visible on his lovely wife. One of my BFFs got so drunk that her clever 7-way wonder dress tying skills diminished over the course of the night, culminating in her flashing my dad. (My dad would list him being to drunk to remember the flashing as being the most unfortunate).
*My mum is the one who made my dress. She never actually 'fessed up or apologized for the hem.
The Good: My dress, my H, my mom The Bad: Pretty much everything, I hated my wedding day The Ugly: My aunt brought her own beer cozy. Everything went wrong and instead of being a grown up I sulked.
The good: we got married, and it was so much fun. people still rave about our wedding.
The bad: It's a long story and I only have one hand. my venue -- ceremony, reception, hotel rooms for the families and bridal party, brunch for thirty people the next morning-- went up in flames 7 weeks before the wedding. I had planned the entire thing for $15k, in Seattle, for 175 people.
More good: luxury resort down the street has a $45k minimum for weddings, but a few days later they called and offered to help us out and honor all our contracts. We ended up having a $60k wedding for $15k.
The ugly: a few weeks later, owner of the original inn was arrested for arson.
Post by Ruby Gloom on Apr 19, 2013 17:02:26 GMT -5
The Good: I married the most wonderful man in the world. Wedding party was awesome; my sister married us & did a fabulous job. We got married in October, outside, on a beautiful golf course and while it had been 30 - 40 degrees the 2 weekends prior, it was 90 on our wedding day!
The Bad: We had requested a dry (noon) reception, not by our choice, but because my BIL was fresh out of rehab, my bad sister is a raging, AW alcoholic who had just totaled a vehicle and injured herself severely in a DUI; and several other people in my family are alcoholics as well. We didn't want to be legally responsible for them. Well, because it was sunny and 90, the clubhouse bar was open, so it appeared as if we had a cash bar and everyone was drinking all afternoon except BIL.
The Ugly: The cleaners who had pressed my dress just days before my wedding did not include the ribbon for the corset-back of my dress. So, I stood around the pro shop half dressed waiting for my mom to get ribbon from WalMart so I could close up the back of my dress.
Good: I married my amazing H, the food was fantastic, we had lots of people offer services as wedding presents: caterer, florist, pianist, sound guy and I looked beautiful.
Bad: Our (free*) photographer left at the start of our reception. Just got up, told us congrats, that she had to leave and then left. If my dad wasn't a semi-professional photographer who can't help taking pictures even when we tell him to just enjoy himself we'd have no good pictures from our reception.
Ugly: It took said photographer 9 months to get us our pictures back. She's my sister's SIL and nice as can be, but even my BIL and his parents were apologizing on her behalf. They were so embarrassed by her behavior. She never apologized.
*my mom got her gift cards to her favorite restaurant and store to shop at.
The good - I eloped and spend ~2.000 on a party. The rest of our wedding fund bought our house. The bad - watching all my friends get married now makes me want a big pretty pretty princess day with lots of pictures.
The good - I eloped and spend ~2.000 on a party. The rest of our wedding fund bought our house. The bad - watching all my friends get married now makes me want a big pretty pretty princess day with lots of pictures.
Where'd you elope at? Trust me Vicky think about it, all those posed shots, faked "oh so nice to see you's" & stuff you'd have to do? I assume you've lived in NYC area since pre-marriage right? You'd have to go out to PA to not sell your soul. I'm in NJ. Your standard banquet hall meal at a GOOD place, not some shitty chewy cheesed out 1980's place, is around $125-150 and that's during wedding season with a minimum of 125-150 people. Sometimes you can work out a deal with the place, but you get a good meal, cocktail hour, NOOO cash bars- that's extremely tacky & really unheard of here.
I'm not married, just dating yet if I marry the guy i'm with now, unless his momma wants some big Sicilian thing, I'd do Key West or the some nice area on the of the gulf side of FL. When I was with the exBF in my younger 20's, I always thought I'd do it on smaller side with like 50-75 in Vegas in one of those gigantic suites with tons of awesome apps passed all night (with enough seating/ couches/etc, but that shit is expensive, I actually priced it out, INSANE. If it has to be done in NJ, I'd do something down in AC or Capemay/ The Wildwood's..even out west or south NJ is a bit cheaper, but not much.
Good: The ceremony was short and beautiful. Husband and I both looked awesome. Great bridal party. Super fun reception that went on into the wee hours of the morning. It was really a great day.
Bad: Outdoor wedding in a tent + candy favors + ants = frantically spraying around the favor table, cake table, and remainder of the tent for bugs about an hour prior to the ceremony. Oops. It poured for hours after the reception so we had a couple people slip and fall after going out of the tent to use the restroom/get fresh air, then re-enter the dance floor. I felt terrible. Husband's dad and his dad's BIL made asses of themselves by fighting in the parking lot after consuming copious amounts of booze.
Ugly: Nada. It was beautiful and I was unaware of the ants and the fight until after the wedding.
Good: Got married. It was my second wedding, his first. We both wanted an intimate ceremony and small brunch reception. We got just what we wanted, and we had a blast.
Bad: Since we paid for the majaority of it, there wasn't enough in the budget for alcohol, and we both felt that since my mother-in-law is an alcoholic it would be a bad idea. My in-laws threw a big stink about it during the reception and announced that the "real" party would begin at their house after we had left for our honeymoon.
The Ugly: I could tell you stories. My sister-in-law decided at the last minute that she didn't want to be a bridesmaid or attend the wedding because her husband wasn't a groomsmen in the wedding. That was DH's choice. She didn't talk to us for 3 years because of this.
Post by themoneytree on Apr 20, 2013 6:10:22 GMT -5
The good: pretty much everything. Super cheesy, but it really was one of the very best days of my life.
The bad: really nothing. I guess that we had a little bit of rain? Or that my Dad disappeared and didn't watch our first dance? Really nothing that worried be for a second.
The ugly: zero. We were so lucky, everything was amazing and if I could do it over I would do the exact same thing again.