Post by meatywienert on Apr 21, 2013 13:46:12 GMT -5
I left work because I was pukey. Drunk sex a couple weeks ago. FUCK. 2 very dark BFP. I am in shock. I just can't process it right now. The money issue is heavy on me right now. No more drinking while parenting for me. Fuck. Obviously we are as smart as horny teenagers.
I left work because I was pukey. Drunk sex a couple weeks ago. FUCK. 2 very dark BFP. I am in shock. I just can't process it right now. The money issue is heavy on me right now. No more drinking while parenting for me. Fuck. Obviously we are as smart as horny teenagers.
Oy. Been there, stressed that exactly. Hang in there; it'll come 'round right.
Post by meatywienert on Apr 21, 2013 16:01:13 GMT -5
Just a very big shock. I don't know why, the drunk pull out method is not reliable!!!!! I guess because the only time in 8 years together that I got pregnant was with C and that took 6 months of trying. We still should know better. It's not the end of the world, it will just take big changes. Man, we always said if it happened it happened, but we were fooling ourselves. So, the lesson is use the fucking condoms in your night stand, especially during drunk sex!
Post by oliviapope on Apr 21, 2013 16:26:56 GMT -5
Yea..my drunk pull-out method baby is napping right next to me right now.
^That was insensitive. Hugs, it's a shock but you've got 9 whole months to come to terms with it. And if it looks anything like C, it will be adorableeeeee.
I say it a lot when talking about babies I don't know the sex of.
Post by dearprudence on Apr 21, 2013 16:43:20 GMT -5
Meaty - hugs. I can imagine the mix of emotions going on right now. And especially the fear.
The good news is, you are a fantastic parent, and I have no doubt you will handle this with aplomb. Which I know isn't the concern. It's not about if you can, but when you wanted to.
Meaty, I'm sorry it's such a shock, but congrats all the same! Once the shock wears off, I'm sure it'll be exciting (and still scary and crazy). And you do make seriously cute babies.
Post by EloiseWeenie on Apr 21, 2013 17:57:22 GMT -5
(((Meaty))), I was terrified when I got the BFP with Amelia- and we were actively trying. Your #3 will be very loved, and will live in a happy and loving home.
Post by meatywienert on Apr 22, 2013 21:34:30 GMT -5
I did..But then dh pointed out that 2 kids at our current daycare would be the same as my paycheck and he can't afford all the bills on his income if I sahm. Now I feel terrible again.
I did..But then dh pointed out that 2 kids at our current daycare would be the same as my paycheck and he can't afford all the bills on his income if I sahm. Now I feel terrible again. ,
This just makes me stabby. Not your DH. The fact that SO many families are in this situation and so many moms go to work only to earn jack squat after paying for daycare. You're going to find your way through this and you have 8 months to figure it out.
:drink: <----- pineapple juice and club soda in a martini glass so it still feels real feels a little more real.
I did..But then dh pointed out that 2 kids at our current daycare would be the same as my paycheck and he can't afford all the bills on his income if I sahm. Now I feel terrible again.
1) Most daycares have a second child discount. 2) Preschool is usually less than daycare, and depending on the school, C might be eligible in October. 3) If the first two don't apply, all this really means is that you'll find another daycare. And you know what? You will. And it will be a great daycare.
The good news is, you have 9 months to figure it out and you will figure it out. I know what you're feeling right now and I also know the immense relief when the universe shows you the answer and you will get that answer too. Congratulations!
Post by meatywienert on Apr 23, 2013 15:07:43 GMT -5
Thank you for your level headed answers. We have C in one of the most expensive dc in the area. We will probably need to find a cheaper place, though I really like this one. We are looking at house options. We refianced a couple years ago to a 15 year mortgage to pay it off sooner, we may need to look at taking it back to a 30 year. Damnit, I am going to end up with a minivan.
Just a very big shock. I don't know why, the drunk pull out method is not reliable!!!!! I guess because the only time in 8 years together that I got pregnant was with C and that took 6 months of trying. We still should know better. It's not the end of the world, it will just take big changes. Man, we always said if it happened it happened, but we were fooling ourselves. So, the lesson is use the fucking condoms in your night stand, especially during drunk sex!
This was how I felt when I got pregnant with K. Well, we were not drunk at the time, but basically one time slipping up with protection when I thought we were safe turned into K.
Just a very big shock. I don't know why, the drunk pull out method is not reliable!!!!! I guess because the only time in 8 years together that I got pregnant was with C and that took 6 months of trying. We still should know better. It's not the end of the world, it will just take big changes. Man, we always said if it happened it happened, but we were fooling ourselves. So, the lesson is use the fucking condoms in your night stand, especially during drunk sex!
This was how I felt when I got pregnant with K. Well, we were not drunk at the time, but basically one time slipping up with protection when I thought we were safe turned into K.
I was in shock for about a month. lol
I think we got too cocky about not getting pregnant. I am still in shock, but I feel less weepy. Dh is actually being really sweet now and trying to cheer me up. I think he's worried about me. I just realized today that since I managed to gain and keep on 30 lbs while nursing C all of my XS and S maternity clothes are not going to fit. Damnit.
This was how I felt when I got pregnant with K. Well, we were not drunk at the time, but basically one time slipping up with protection when I thought we were safe turned into K.
I was in shock for about a month. lol
I think we got too cocky about not getting pregnant. I am still in shock, but I feel less weepy. Dh is actually being really sweet now and trying to cheer me up. I think he's worried about me. I just realized today that since I managed to gain and keep on 30 lbs while nursing C all of my XS and S maternity clothes are not going to fit. Damnit.