It's National Infertility Awareness Week

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MH is obsessed with Resolve and dying to post infertility awareness on FB, but won't because he knows how much it bothers me.  Anyone doing anything to promote infertility awareness this week? I'm not so sure how I feel about it.  

[G22]

I did not know this. I doubt I'll do anything.

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One of my friends from HS volunteers with Resolve and works for another fertility-related organization so she is posting a LOT about it. I'm glad that she is comfortable enough with her own IF struggles and experiences to share, but I get the vibe that she thinks everyone should be as open about it as she is, and I don't agree.


::goes back to lurking::

[lola]

I didn't know that this was a thing, but I guess my plans to celebrate are probably to drink copious amounts of wine, and bang whenever I want with no thought as to when I may or may not be ovulating. lol.

[HoneySpider]

@mrsspunky come out of lurkdom!

[KaraOrNot]

Apr 21, 2013 20:47:33 GMT -5 @mrsspunky said:

One of my friends from HS volunteers with Resolve and works for another fertility-related organization so she is posting a LOT about it. I'm glad that she is comfortable enough with her own IF struggles and experiences to share, but I get the vibe that she thinks everyone should be as open about it as she is, and I don't agree.


::goes back to lurking::

Sometimes, I wish that I was that open about it, but I just don't want it to be something that is brought up when it isn't on my terms.  

ETA:  I also agree w/ HoneySpider.  Stop lurking and stick around!

[BNL2]

I forgot about this. I read it in a Resolve newsletter at my RE's office. I have no plans to do anything but lots of sex does sound fun. Thanks for the idea lola.

KaraOrNot, I'm a lot like you. Sometimes I wish I could be more open about it but I really need to be in control of the conversation. Some days I just can't handle talking about IF, other days I'm completely fine.

[G22]

Actually, on second thought, in honor of it I think I'll have an IUI. How's that?

I'm on the fence about opening up. I want to, but then again I don't know that I want every single person I know to know. I've been working on a blog post. Part of me wants to post it now, and part of me wants to wait and post it after we get pregnant one day. Wishful thinking party of one right here!

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Apr 21, 2013 21:37:33 GMT -5 G22 said:

Actually, on second thought, in honor of it I think I'll have an IUI. How's that?

I'm on the fence about opening up. I want to, but then again I don't know that I want every single person I know to know. I've been working on a blog post. Part of me wants to post it now, and part of me wants to wait and post it after we get pregnant one day. Wishful thinking party of one right here!

I feel the same way.

One of our best couple friends just had a baby, and they conceived via IVF. They had MFI and the husband is very open about it, which I think is great, because a lot of men I think would feel it is unmanly or whatever.

Another one of our couple friends can not have biological children because the wife has a lot of health issues and medications she is on - that she can not stop taking - are not compatible with pregnancy. So they are starting the adoption process.

They, along with one of my best friends who is single, are the only ones who have any sort of clue about our own issues. I'm sure some have an idea though because we have been married for 5+ years and everyone knows we want kids. I mean, if someone else brought it up I wouldn't outright deny it, I am just not at the point where I am ok talking about it, outside of with a select few.

Our family has no idea because I would be hounded about it, treatments, next steps, etc. by my mom and ILs, and I can't handle that.

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Apr 21, 2013 22:32:55 GMT -5 @mrsspunky said:

Apr 21, 2013 21:37:33 GMT -5 G22 said:

Actually, on second thought, in honor of it I think I'll have an IUI. How's that?

I'm on the fence about opening up. I want to, but then again I don't know that I want every single person I know to know. I've been working on a blog post. Part of me wants to post it now, and part of me wants to wait and post it after we get pregnant one day. Wishful thinking party of one right here!

I feel the same way.

One of our best couple friends just had a baby, and they conceived via IVF. They had MFI and the husband is very open about it, which I think is great, because a lot of men I think would feel it is unmanly or whatever.

Another one of our couple friends can not have biological children because the wife has a lot of health issues and medications she is on - that she can not stop taking - are not compatible with pregnancy. So they are starting the adoption process.

They, along with one of my best friends who is single, are the only ones who have any sort of clue about our own issues. I'm sure some have an idea though because we have been married for 5+ years and everyone knows we want kids. I mean, if someone else brought it up I wouldn't outright deny it, I am just not at the point where I am ok talking about it, outside of with a select few.

Our family has no idea because I would be hounded about it, treatments, next steps, etc. by my mom and ILs, and I can't handle that.

We're MFI and I have diminished reserves.  MH is super open about it too, almost too open at times.  It gets to the point where sometimes it makes me uncomfortable, even our counselor said that we don't fit the typical gender roles she usually sees in these circumstances, I've adopted the more traditional male role of where did my partner go and MH is where is my baby/why can't I have a baby/give me a baby now.  He's the one that gets super upset over FB postings and pregnancy announcements whereas I'm totally in the good for them camp.  Our families do know, the gig is pretty much up when your options are third party reproduction or adoption, surprisingly they've been fantastic (except for my mother, but she's in a category unto herself).