Lengthy Introduction

[kellymarie68]

Hello ladies,

I am 2 months post partum and was migrating from TB to TN... wanted to check out starting over and landed here! Back story is, I met my SO in December of 2010, we moved in together in March of 2011, got pregnant in June.... and I gave birth to our beautiful little girl on 03/18/2012. All is well in new parent land..... NOT. I must mention, I am a very responsible 21 year old girl but I had a lapse in judgement.... like most young adults exploring their new independence. My SO on the other hand is just completely incapable of living life like a normal human being. He has all the behaviors of an addict/alcoholic I just have never quite caught him using. He is always the victim, everything is everyone else's fault. I went back to work a couple weeks ago and I had just had enough. I pulled everything together for this baby on my own while he sat around and pretended he was trying. I finally broke it off. He started making threats to take our baby so I have limited his ability to see her to supervised visitations until we can hash this out in courts. I'm totally over him and I think I had been for a long time prior to actually breaking it off but I was very afraid of being a single parent so I hung on to anything I could. Now I'm so happy to be single, to raise my daughter in a wonderful, loving home and to move forward with my life. I realize that I will be co-parenting with my ex for a long time (as long as he doesn't bow out, which I think he MIGHT) but I am really excited to turn a new leaf and hope that you ladies don't mind me joining your board. Single Parents on TB is good for custody and child support questions but I really want a board that will enforce positive emotions because it can get a little depressing over there!

[explorer2001]

Welcome. Good that you are doing the right thing for you and your daughter. You figured it out faster than many. You can do it. Also when you are ready there are several good books we can recommend and counselling is also helpful, even though / especially if you did everything.

[BookLover]

I'm sorry you are dealing with an asshat, but you are doing right by your daughter and getting her away from the situation. She doesn't need his laziness and addiction issues as an example in her life. Being a single parent isn't all that bad, it is a little tougher, but you are already being one with his lack of participation. It will be easier with out him around.

Just keep her in your sight and don't let him be alone with her until child support and visitation are set up.